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I got married yesterday and I can't stop crying.

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MoreThanOverwhelmed · 07/06/2025 05:07

DH has cancer. (Diagnosed Jan 2024)
We were supposed to get married - at simple 2+2 ceremony at the end of the month but his Dr's etc encouraged us to bring the date forwards, so we got married yesterday in the hospital where my DH is being cared for.
I'm a week post major abdominal surgery.
We have 2 primary aged DC
It's our youngest DCs birthday this month.

I don't know what I want from this post but I can't stop crying.
I don't think that I know how break it to the DC that Daddy isn't going to get better and come home.
My head is swimming & I don't know what to do.

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MsTada · 28/06/2025 10:02

I'm so sorry for your loss, and for all the pain you're feeling xxx💐

Woodycush · 28/06/2025 09:58

So sorry for your loss. Sending love and courage. x

Reliablesource · 28/06/2025 09:58

So sorry for your loss and sending condolences to you and your DC. There are no words for your unfathomable loss. It sounds like you have great family support around you so I hope they all wrap their arms around you and your children to help pull you through this devastating time.

Member984815 · 28/06/2025 09:55

I'm so sorry for your loss

Gymnopediegivesmethewillies · 28/06/2025 09:54

I wish I had better words of comfort but I don’t. I can only say that you were and are loved and so was he. I wish you all the best for the future and someone is always on here if you want to grieve, chat, rant or remember. X

ChaToilLeam · 28/06/2025 09:53

I am so sorry, deepest sympathies to you and your family. 💐

CakeFace1234 · 28/06/2025 09:53

I am so sorry too. Such an impossibly, difficult time you have had as a family. Sending you love and strength to put one foot in front of the other and keep going for your lovely family.

Purplebunnie · 28/06/2025 09:52

So very, very sorry hugs for you all

MounjaroMounjaro · 28/06/2025 09:51

That is so sad. I'm so sorry for you and your family.

Mumof2heroes · 28/06/2025 09:34

Oh bless you OP I'm so so sorry 😞 ❤️

notawittyname1954 · 28/06/2025 09:33

So sorry. Love to you and your family.

MassiveOvaryaction · 28/06/2025 09:31

So very sorry @MoreThanOverwhelmed. Sending you and yours all the love Flowers

FoxglovesAndLupins · 28/06/2025 09:24

I am very sorry for the loss of your wonderful husband. The love you created as a family will not disappear and I hope it helps you through this time.

DollieBantrysPantry · 28/06/2025 09:23

So so sorry 💐

Laura95167 · 28/06/2025 09:19

MoreThanOverwhelmed · 28/06/2025 02:28

DH passed this evening. It was supposed to be our wedding day, it was already our "being together anniversary"
I feel so broken.
He's at peace.
I miss him so much.

My prayers are with your family. Im so glad yo hear you managed to get married. Through your grief hold on to the love you had and lean on your family and friends.

Hes at peace, and much as it hurts I hope that brings you comfort. We're all wishing you healing and peace x

Adulthumanfemale70 · 28/06/2025 09:18

I’m so so sorry.. You will all get through this

MaggieBsBoat · 28/06/2025 09:16

Much love to you @MoreThanOverwhelmed i am so sorry for your loss. I wish you strength and peace in the upcoming months to you and your family.

Iloveshihtzus · 28/06/2025 09:15

I’ve been following your thread OP. So sad to hear your news. Be kind to yourself. I hope you will find support from those around you in real life; but also, I hope you will find support from people in here who have been through this. You have shown us that you have great strength and courage, I know you will be the rock your children need.

PluckyChancer · 28/06/2025 09:13

I’m just a stranger but I wanted to reach out and give you a virtual hug and let you know I’m thinking of you and your family. I’m so sorry for your sad loss. Life can be so cruel at times. xxx 💐

TheRosesAreInBloom · 28/06/2025 09:09

So very sorry for your loss OP, sending love and strength to you and your family as you navigate the future xx

Magicpaintbrush · 28/06/2025 09:07

I'm so desperately sorry OP, nobody should have to go through what you are going through, and so young. There are no adequate words for how awful this is. I'm just so very sorry for your loss.

anotherusernametaken · 28/06/2025 09:07

So very sorry to hear your update, I hope it was a peaceful passing and in time you can look back and remember all your happier times. From a total random stranger in the Internet, I'm sending you and your family lots of love and strength to get through this ❤️

Thereislightattheendofthetunnel · 28/06/2025 09:03

So sorry for your loss OP. I wish you all the very best and healing prayers.
One day at a time. Focus on the good moments. Take care and lean on your friends and family for support. Don’t be afraid to ask xx

MolluscMonday · 28/06/2025 08:59

I am so sorry @MoreThanOverwhelmed

So very sorry x

gmgnts · 28/06/2025 08:59

Flowers So sorry for your loss.

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