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I got married yesterday and I can't stop crying.

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MoreThanOverwhelmed · 07/06/2025 05:07

DH has cancer. (Diagnosed Jan 2024)
We were supposed to get married - at simple 2+2 ceremony at the end of the month but his Dr's etc encouraged us to bring the date forwards, so we got married yesterday in the hospital where my DH is being cared for.
I'm a week post major abdominal surgery.
We have 2 primary aged DC
It's our youngest DCs birthday this month.

I don't know what I want from this post but I can't stop crying.
I don't think that I know how break it to the DC that Daddy isn't going to get better and come home.
My head is swimming & I don't know what to do.

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thiswilloutme · 28/06/2025 11:45

elfendom · 28/06/2025 11:38

getting all this delivered to you by text is surreal.

I think you have posted on the wrong thread

elfendom · 28/06/2025 11:38

getting all this delivered to you by text is surreal.

blueskies23 · 28/06/2025 11:33

I am sorry for your loss. You helped your husband to pass, now focus on yourself (he will be nearby). There's a book called 'The Wedding' by John Berger and it tells a story like yours beautifully. It might help.

Applesonthelawn · 28/06/2025 11:30

So sorry to hear your news, sending you much love and condolences. Please know that you have touched the hearts of complete strangers on this thread and this has to tell you that there is support and love out there to help you when you are ready.

AuntyAgony · 28/06/2025 11:19

I'm so sorry for your loss. I'm glad you got to marry this wonderful man but it must be so incredibly hard for you. I don't have any words that would make any difference but I'm sending you strength and love. ❤️

GalaxyWasOnOffer · 28/06/2025 11:19

I've only just seen your thread for the first time @MoreThanOverwhelmed

I'm so sorry to all of you for your loss - you, your children, your DH's parents, wider family. Sending condolences and strength for days to come 💐

Washingupdone · 28/06/2025 11:08

I am so sorry.
Thinking of you and your DC Flowers

Chazbots · 28/06/2025 11:06

So sad to read your update. Thoughts with you and your family.

IamEarthymama · 28/06/2025 11:05

I’m sending condolences, love and blessings to you and your children. When I read of your husband’s summoning you to make sure you could pay the utilities it was so obvious how much he loved his family.
You will all carry him always in your hearts and minds.
Sending a Cwtch from Wales xx

crumblingschools · 28/06/2025 10:47

I am so sorry 💐

EmeraldShamrock000 · 28/06/2025 10:45

Heartbreaking loss. I'm so sorry, your memories and love will never die, they're safely in your heart forever.

Lubilu02 · 28/06/2025 10:40

Im welling up reading this.

He would have held on until that day for you. Always remember that as your special day, not as a sad day.

He will be with you in spirit every step of the way.

Wishing you an abundance of healing and love x

TheJinxMinx · 28/06/2025 10:37

I'm so sorry to read this OP. Sending love and strength to you, your beloved DC and extended family x

LumpyandBumps · 28/06/2025 10:30

I’m so sorry. There are just no words. I hope you are getting lots of hugs from those nearby.

Futurehappiness · 28/06/2025 10:27

I am so very sorry for your loss. Thinking of you & your family.

IOnlyWantSexMoneyPowerAndRevenge · 28/06/2025 10:25

I am so sorry.
He knew he was surrounded by love. I hope you are able to find some comfort in that.

LonelyMom123 · 28/06/2025 10:22

So sorry for your loss

ChaosAD · 28/06/2025 10:22

Sincere condolences to you and your family. Wishing you love and strength. ❤️

C8H10N4O2 · 28/06/2025 10:16

MoreThanOverwhelmed · 07/06/2025 05:20

My family and PILs are absolutely amazing. They have been, and continue to be so supportive and helpful. But they do have their own lives and families to contend with too.

Get rid of that thought - they will want to do the best with the remaining time just as you do. In these situations loving family and friends clear their calendars of everything possible and they will want to help for you, for DH and for your children. Just as you would wish to for them if the situation was reversed.

Its a tough gig being widowed, even when the children are older. Don’t be afraid to lean on those closest to you at times - I only realised after that it helped them to feel useful as well.

ruethewhirl · 28/06/2025 10:14

Oh OP, I'm so sorry. 💐That's just heartbreaking.

shouldhavedonethisearlier · 28/06/2025 10:13

Oh my heart goes out to you. You have had to be so strong for so long - but now is the time to let others support you. Take all the help you can. Rest where you can. You will find your way together. xxx

SwingTheMonkey · 28/06/2025 10:12

I’m so very sorry for your loss @MoreThanOverwhelmed. Sending love and strength to you and your children.

HeadlinesEnough · 28/06/2025 10:10

Sending all the love in the world. You have been so strong. Let others be strong now so you can do what you need to get through each day. You and your husband loved each other and nobody can ever take that away. I am so sorry. My heart breaks for you xxxx

66babe · 28/06/2025 10:07

So very sorry for your loss . 💐💔

Lilactimes · 28/06/2025 10:03

Dear @MoreThanOverwhelmed
Im so very very sorry to read your update. I hope you will lean on everyone around you who will want to help you in any way they can.
we don’t know eachother but I’m thinking of you and sending love and strength xxx

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