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I got married yesterday and I can't stop crying.

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MoreThanOverwhelmed · 07/06/2025 05:07

DH has cancer. (Diagnosed Jan 2024)
We were supposed to get married - at simple 2+2 ceremony at the end of the month but his Dr's etc encouraged us to bring the date forwards, so we got married yesterday in the hospital where my DH is being cared for.
I'm a week post major abdominal surgery.
We have 2 primary aged DC
It's our youngest DCs birthday this month.

I don't know what I want from this post but I can't stop crying.
I don't think that I know how break it to the DC that Daddy isn't going to get better and come home.
My head is swimming & I don't know what to do.

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Dreamer2525 · 21/07/2025 22:33

I am so sorry, sending you strength x

HollyIvie · 21/07/2025 22:32

I'm so so very sorry.

Isitreallythough · 21/07/2025 22:16

I’m so sorry for your loss and what you are going through. I hope the love you and your children have for each other, and the love of those around you can help you all through these hardest of days. You got through the funeral. One day at a time. They must all take so much courage at the moment. I hope you are getting some bits of time for yourself to process and rest. Sending hugs

tootsierubs · 21/07/2025 22:12

So sorry to read your update 💐

measureofmydreams · 21/07/2025 22:05

Just to say I read your update and I'm so very very sorry.

AffableApple · 21/07/2025 22:04

I'm glad you have family around you to support you.

I'm so, so sorry; I can't imagine the pain of loss after all that love xx

HikingforScenery · 21/07/2025 22:04

I’m so sorry to read this. So heartbreaking. No words will be enough. I’m so sorry 💐

Sally2791 · 21/07/2025 22:01

So sorry for you and your children. Wishing you strength going forwards.

SimoneJadeM · 21/07/2025 21:59

Sending lots of love

BellissimoGecko · 21/07/2025 21:58

I’m so sorry, OP. You have got over the funeral. Why not rest this evening? Tomorrow is a new day. You’re strong : you can do this. Gentle hand-hold here.

DodoTired · 21/07/2025 21:56

I’m so sorry:(
sending you lots of love…
wishing you strength to get through this terrible time

Happyfeet234 · 21/07/2025 21:26

Sending all my love to you and your family

Treesandsheepeverywhere · 21/07/2025 21:24

Sorry for your loss OP.

Tuningfork · 21/07/2025 21:22

Another one with nothing useful to advise, but want you to know I stopped by and read your post, and I wish you strength for your journey ahead.

I'm truly sorry....

Beenwhereyouareagain · 21/07/2025 21:17

Prayers and hugs for you all. 🙏💙

Hillsmakeyoustrong · 21/07/2025 21:15

So, so sorry, it must feel utterly unbearable 💔. Glad you have posted here. I am wishing you some peace, even momentary, tonight and sending love.

Laura95167 · 21/07/2025 20:47

MoreThanOverwhelmed · 21/07/2025 18:31

It was DH's funeral today.
I drank too much.
I've been sick.
My parents have taken DC for dinner.
I still feel sick.
I hate this.

Sounds reasonable. Youre broken, you've been through hell and hes at peace but you aren't.

There's nothing anyone can say to help, and we all wish there was.

But your family and friends will hold onto you through this. Please be kind to yourself, you are doing so well. Your children as so lucky at how well you've tried. And were all here to listen anytime you want to tell us how you're feeling.

Purplebunnie · 21/07/2025 20:45

Just love and hugs xx

iamnotalemon · 21/07/2025 20:37

I’m really sorry to hear this and for your loss x

HundredPercentUnsure · 21/07/2025 20:36

I'm so, so sorry for your loss. I'm totally emotional here for you, what an awfully hard thing for you all. Look after you now. 💐

FlamingoQueen · 21/07/2025 20:29

I am so sorry for your loss Flowers

twinmum2007 · 21/07/2025 20:01

So so sorry. Sending much love

NinetyNineRedBalloonsGoBy · 21/07/2025 19:59

Oh OP I’m 15 years away from being in exactly the same situation when my DH died aged 35 from cancer and we had very young dc. I promise you it won’t always feel as dark as this. I’m now remarried and happy. I never thought I would cope but I did, and you will too. PM me if you want. Sending love to you.

RainbowLife · 21/07/2025 19:55

Just sending love xxx

SuperGinger · 21/07/2025 19:47

I'm sorry for your loss

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