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I got married yesterday and I can't stop crying.

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MoreThanOverwhelmed · 07/06/2025 05:07

DH has cancer. (Diagnosed Jan 2024)
We were supposed to get married - at simple 2+2 ceremony at the end of the month but his Dr's etc encouraged us to bring the date forwards, so we got married yesterday in the hospital where my DH is being cared for.
I'm a week post major abdominal surgery.
We have 2 primary aged DC
It's our youngest DCs birthday this month.

I don't know what I want from this post but I can't stop crying.
I don't think that I know how break it to the DC that Daddy isn't going to get better and come home.
My head is swimming & I don't know what to do.

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Seawolves · 07/06/2025 05:17

I am so sorry. We got married when DH was diagnosed too, we didn't get to see our first anniversary but I am glad we had our wedding day as I know how much it meant to him. I think you just have to get through each moment as it comes, it feels impossible. Have you got support?

Tumblingthrough · 07/06/2025 05:15

I’m so very sorry
It’s a totally shit situation.

i can’t offer help but wanted you to know someone read your post and is here xx

Don’t look at the bigger picture as it’s so overwhelming, just try to deal with each situation as it arises in whatever works best for you. Much love

vivainsomnia · 07/06/2025 05:14

I am so so sorry OP. You are experiencing one of the worse tragedies life can throw at you. Go and hug your new husband and cry together. He must be feeling horrible too. The whole essence of marriage is to share the good and the bad together. You don't need to pretend, you both know where you stand. Embrace every minute together, talk about the amazing moments you shared together and how amazing your children are. Make memories together for them.

Big hug to you on this horrible moment when the adrenalin goes and you are just left with despair. I hope you have good support from your family and friends xx

QOD · 07/06/2025 05:14

Oh op 😢
what a difficult situation to be in

can you tell is a bit about your day? Are the children getting support from the charities that support and explain?

(((((hugs)))))

BashfulClam · 07/06/2025 05:13

I’m sorry. Cancer is an utter bastard, I’m glad you get married though as you’ll always have that.

Omeara · 07/06/2025 05:12

I’m so sorry. I too lost my husband to cancer, my children are still in school but older than yours. There are tough times ahead; all I can advise is to use the support that’s around you, don’t feel you have to do it all alone. My thoughts are with you Flowers

alcoholnightmare · 07/06/2025 05:12

My goodness I’m so sorry. Can you ask the ward if there’s a charity they’d recommend about telling your children? Also, talk to school about what they’d recommend too.
I am so very sorry x

NoBiscuitsLeftInMyTin · 07/06/2025 05:10

MoreThanOverwhelmed · 07/06/2025 05:07

DH has cancer. (Diagnosed Jan 2024)
We were supposed to get married - at simple 2+2 ceremony at the end of the month but his Dr's etc encouraged us to bring the date forwards, so we got married yesterday in the hospital where my DH is being cared for.
I'm a week post major abdominal surgery.
We have 2 primary aged DC
It's our youngest DCs birthday this month.

I don't know what I want from this post but I can't stop crying.
I don't think that I know how break it to the DC that Daddy isn't going to get better and come home.
My head is swimming & I don't know what to do.

Sorry - nothing constructive to say but I'm so sorry and wish you all the very best xx

AnnaQuayInTheUk · 07/06/2025 05:10

I'm so sorry. I can't imagine how hard this must be for you. Do you have support from friends and family?

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