I got married yesterday and I can't stop crying.

That’s just shit, OP. I’m desperately sorry for you.

Wishing you strength and comfort in the days, weeks and months ahead.

I am so very sorry.I don't know what the correct thing to say to make you feel ok.My sister was in the same situation 3 years ago.She hadn't had surgery like yourself and her husband's cancer was diagnosed 3 weeks before he passed.He died 2 days before sons birthday and 4 days before my sister's and their Grandad, husbands Dad passed a month before.
She is doing well now , but at the time everyone in the community pulled together , the children had amazing support when counselling.
Your wedding day wasn't how you expected it to be and that is so unfair and cruel.I am so sorry.
We will all be here to listen and support you any time.

I’m so sorry . X

I just read your more recent post and I am so sorry about your DH. 36 is way too young. Nothing useful to say but thinking of you during this really awful time.

And record him singing nursery rhymes etc so you can put a copy in a toy for your kids.

Oh @MoreThanOverwhelmed I am so sorry to hear of your situation. As others have said, I have nothing constructive to add or advice to give, but this stranger who doesn't know you is sharing your pain. Sending love and a big hug.

I'm so so sorry.

Do whatever you need to do. Scream, cry, whatever and don't feel a slight bit sorry for it.

Then focus on the fact that you've had warning. By knowing you've been given the chance to say everything you want to each other. To prepare the kids. To take all the recordings and videos for yourself and the kids. For him to write and record for milestones he won't see. It can never make up for what you've lost but it's a chance for him to pass peacefully without loose ends or wishing you could have said x,y,z.

Take in craft stuff if you can, make prints or casts of his hands so they can 'touch him' and see how their hands grow compared to his.

I'm so sorry, that's complete shit.

The one thing I regret from my DH's last days is not getting a recording of his voice. So I'd suggest thinking about that if you haven't already. Someone in my grief support group posted how to get Alexa to play back all the instructions she's ever been given and I confess I was reduced to playing back endless repeats of 'Alexa stop' etc just so I didn't forget what his voice sounded like. It seemed to make sense at the time though I can smile wryly at it now.

Thinking of you and sending love and strength.

I am so so sorry. You are both so young. Please get all the support you can around you. Sending love from N London xx

Op i don't know what to say but guess just wanted to post to say your doing amazing and sending you my love

I am very sorry to read this OP, it is extremely sad and tragic for you and your family. It is not much at all but my thoughts are with you.

I've read all your updates. Oh my god I am so unbelievably sorry for what you are going through.

I don't really know what to say. My lovely sister died at 33 from cancer. She had 2 DC who were 10 and 4. She explained herself to them that mummy needed to go to heaven. I don't know how she did it. She was in a hospice until the end. But her DH and DC stayed over for a movie night not long before the end.

She also got married in the hospice.

With regards the utilities they might be the last thing on a lot of peoples mind. But for your DH it might be some small bit of control he can grasp onto right now. Some way he can see of helping that you are as well set up as you can be.

God this is so sad. I know you said people have been helpful but do lean on them. With my BIL after we all wanted to help but didn't want to intrude or over step. It's been 10 years now, in many ways I know I could have done a lot more for them and shouldn't have waited to be asked. So I would absolutely ask people.

Mind yourself too, I know that probably feels impossible right now. But make sure you are eating and at least getting some sleep. I don't want to presume anything or sound rude but if you do drink, I would go very lightly on it right now. I drank far too much when grieving and it did not help.

This is incredibly sad to read. I’m so sorry for everything you are going through. I cannot help in anyway, but sending you hugs.

This is dreadful and cruel my heart goes out to you.

A person once said to me if your going through Hell you better keep going...try to keep going. Your husband will live on in your children, they will be legacy, a beautiful reminder to you everyday of what you achieved together X

I’m sorry, that’s so hard.

I expect you and DH are worrying about him making it or not to DC birthday. I’m not sure how old they will be.

I wanted to share my experience from the child perspective. My mum tried her best to hold out until our birthdays, but sadly she died the week before I turned 6 and my brother turned 8. Of course we were devastated that she had died and still are, but the rest of the family carried on and celebrated our birthdays the following week (with the funeral in between the 2) and we still managed to enjoy the days somewhat.

there’s really nothing I can say to help but I’m thinking of you all.

I'm so sorry OP. Life is really unfair. Wishing you all strength and love. xx

I'm so so sorry. Wishing you both all the strength and love you both need.

OP 💗

I'm so sorry. This is utterly awful for you and your family. So glad you have support and each other. Sending another handhold.

We wish you and your family all the very best at this very difficult time.

The pain must be unimaginable.

I am so sorry OP. That really is monumentally shit and unfair.

There are no words 💗💗💗💗

Wishing you strength as you steer through this difficult time.

I lost my husband whilst relatively young (albeit not as young as you). I’m so sorry, the next few weeks and months are going to be incredibly tough, use all the support you have around you, there is also plenty online if you need to speak with others who have been where you are.

The only thing I can say is that when my DH was put onto end of life care, it was very peaceful x. The staff in palliative care were wonderful.

Take this chance to say all that you want to say to each other. It will mean a lot afterwards.

Afterwards, take one day and one night at a time.

Life can be a bastard at times, but, in time, you will come through it.

Look after yourself and your children 💐