I got married yesterday and I can't stop crying.

I am so sorry @MoreThanOverwhelmed xx

What a desperately sad situation for you all

I hope you can get support for yourself, in between trying to be strong for everyone else. This organisation might be helpful for you https://www.widowedandyoung.org.uk/

Sorry for your situation. All I can say is push for the hospice. Any hospice. The support they will provide you and the children and the extended family is priceless. They will even have a finance guy to help you with all the crap stuff x

I'm so sorry.

I don’t know what to say other than I’m so sorry and thinking of you. Life can be utterly ballbag bullshit bloody crap and it puts lots of things in perspective. Take care of yourself x

I’m so sorry. You have an awful lot of to deal with.

I’m really sorry to hear your dh’s update too. Sending you gentle hugs. 💐

Oh gosh, OP. How utterly, utterly awful. I'm so sorry.

This might be of use to your kids at some point: winstonswish.org

I'm so sorry you’re in this situation, it’s absolutely heartbreaking, I was the same age when I went through it.

I wish I’d spent less time thinking about the after and more time in the now. I know it’s easier said than done but I had no idea what life would be like after, I don’t think it’s imaginable until you’re in it, but know you will be ok. There’s a very supportive community when you’re widowed young and you won’t be alone.

Like a previous poster I wish I had more recordings of my husbands voice, just every day things like goodnight and I love you would be amazing to have. Maybe a hand cast or one of the iris photos if possible. But most importantly just talk and spend as much time together as possible with and without the children.

Very sad news, so sorry.

Sending you and your family love. X

I am so sorry op. 💐💐💐

I'm so sorry you and your husband are facing such a terrible time. Life can be so cruel and unfair. One day I hope you will be able to look back and take some comfort from the fact that you were able to get married.
I'm glad that you have some good family support to keep you going. Sending you much love and strength to get through the time ahead xxx

So very sorry OP. Sending you strength & love.
Seconded the recommendations about Winston's Wish. Their printed material and direct support was invaluable to us many years ago.

I’m so sorry OP. Can you ask the hospital if they have a nurse specialist who might be able to help tell the kids? We have 3 in our department who are amazing at things like this

Make sure that your children's school are up to speed with everything...they will help. Thinking of you all xxx

Lovely ideas those for OP and the DC to remember him by.

Oh I'm so sorry. That's such a sad thing to happen. Your poor husband. I feel for him and for you and the children. I'm really glad you got married - that must have helped put his mind at ease. I'm shocked they told him they were moving him to end-of-life care when you weren't with him. How terrifying for him.

I am so sorry you are going through this. Sending love and hugs to you and your family.

Winston's wish are very good with this type of thing. So sorry OP. I hope you have someone to offload to in real life.

I'm so very sorry for what you are going through.
I hope that you have moments of joy from your wedding, and from being husband & wife forever, to hold you through these days. Wishing you both peace

What a miserable time, I'm so sorry this is happening to you and of course you are crying your heart out. You are mourning the wedding and the life you had planned for. End of life care must feel very final too simply adding to the stress of it all. You've had a lot of practical advice about charities who can help support you with your children and have a lot of support from family. Yes they all have their own lives but they will be a rock for you in the coming weeks.

You need to look after yourself. Take the pain meds offered and ask for more if they are not hitting the sides. Spend time with your husband. Bring the kids, read stories have quiet times and have family on hand to collect them and take them home. Suspend normal life and the school routine if it makes life easier; or carry on if that works better.

In practical terms - if you have the energy between you to call all the utilities companies and put your name on the account it will make life easier. You can make the calls and simply hand the phone over to him to confirm his wishes. My MIL had to reopen all of her accounts and go through credit checks etc when they'd been with British Gas etc for 30 years.
Similarly have him move any ready cash out of his personal accounts so you can access it in a joint or personal account. The bank isn't allowed to move it once he is gone. It becomes part of the probate process or something if its in his sole account.
That all said, don't fill your time together with practical crap. It all gets sorted eventually.

So so sorry x

Sending you love from Bristol 💐. You’re in my thoughts.

What an incredibly sad and difficult situation, I'm so sorry for you all. Wishing you all the strength and support you need.

Sending you, your DCs and your DH my thoughts, op. Take all of the support you can, and continue to call on them when you need them.