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I got married yesterday and I can't stop crying.

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MoreThanOverwhelmed · 07/06/2025 05:07

DH has cancer. (Diagnosed Jan 2024)
We were supposed to get married - at simple 2+2 ceremony at the end of the month but his Dr's etc encouraged us to bring the date forwards, so we got married yesterday in the hospital where my DH is being cared for.
I'm a week post major abdominal surgery.
We have 2 primary aged DC
It's our youngest DCs birthday this month.

I don't know what I want from this post but I can't stop crying.
I don't think that I know how break it to the DC that Daddy isn't going to get better and come home.
My head is swimming & I don't know what to do.

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DPotter · 26/06/2025 03:26

Thinking of you and your family

IslandsAround · 26/06/2025 03:12

Peace to you, your husband and your little ones. Your husbands journey through life was short but full & he leaves a beautiful legacy in his children. He is blessed to have you on this final journey. His spirit will move on but his love will be with you and in your children.

Bon courage for the days ahead.

Starling7 · 26/06/2025 00:37

Sending love ❤️

Greenfingers37 · 26/06/2025 00:10

Thinking of you and sending love 💕

Seawolves · 25/06/2025 23:49

Sending you a handhold

Laura95167 · 25/06/2025 20:30

Prayers are with you OP, this isnt fair and crying sounds totally normal. Maybe see if macmillan or any specific charity could help with advice?

Also lean on anyone and everyone who loves you. Its OK if you can't do this alone, take all the help you can get

Purplebunnie · 25/06/2025 20:10

Sending you love and hugs

Daleksatemyshed · 25/06/2025 20:03

You are so brave, celebrating your DCs birthday with his Daddy knowing time is so short.

IOnlyWantSexMoneyPowerAndRevenge · 25/06/2025 18:33

Sending you lots of hugs. It sounds like you had a lovely day.

Ummmmmerrrrr · 25/06/2025 17:37

In my thoughts OP 💐💐💐

Roseyposey1 · 25/06/2025 17:36

So sorry OP. sending lots of hugs to you, your DH and your children and family 🩷

SillySeal · 25/06/2025 17:29

I'm so sorry OP. It is lovely DC got to celebrate their birthday with daddy whilst he could but sending you hugs on what must be an horrific time 💐

darksideofthestudio · 25/06/2025 17:27

@MoreThanOverwhelmed this must be unbearably hard on you and I can’t imagine what you are going through. My thoughts are with you and your family at this desperate time

Changed18 · 25/06/2025 17:10

All the best, OP

ladyofshertonabbas · 25/06/2025 16:56

I'm so sorry, OP.

GameOfJones · 25/06/2025 16:21

Sending you and your lovely DC a massive hug from across the internet. ❤️

Horses7 · 25/06/2025 16:08

Thanks for the update when it must be the last thing on your mind.
You are so brave and loving for your husband and children, sending hugs and best wishes to you all.

HeadlinesEnough · 25/06/2025 15:12

Happy birthday DC!

You must be absolutely shattered with this roller coaster. Well done for everything you are doing and the amazing mum and wife you are. X

MyOtherProfile · 25/06/2025 15:08

Such a tough time for you. I'm glad you have your parents supporting you.

Silvers11 · 25/06/2025 14:29

Thinking of you @MoreThanOverwhelmed So glad he was able to celebrate DC2's Birthday. A very hard time for you. Sending un-mumsnetty hugs

Escapaid · 25/06/2025 13:57

How lovely that you were able to celebrate DC2's bday in the presence of your DH and that DC2 enjoyed it so much.
You are doing amazingly, OP. Sending much love. You and your family are in my thoughts xx

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MoreThanOverwhelmed · 25/06/2025 13:39

A quick update.
We managed to celebrate DC2s birthday, the staff decorated DHs room with balloons & banners etc. So we were able to include him in the celebrations. DC2 had a lovely time, being able to show Daddy their presents, PILs were able to be there too.
The following days, various friends of DH visited him & other family members (aunts etc) visited.
I received a call last night to say the end is near, on getting to him he'd rallied a fair bit so it's been an exhausting day. I'm heading back shortly to see him. (Been home for a shower, some food & a nap. Oh, and hugging my DCs) My parents are amazing & are having my DC for the foreseeable.

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tellmesomethingtrue · 19/06/2025 06:57

I’m so sorry. You do need to tell the children though. Should the worst happen, and you didn’t tell them, they will struggle with that as they get older.

Mylittlepea · 18/06/2025 23:45

So so sorry…sending you love xxx💐💐💐

measureofmydreams · 18/06/2025 23:35

One stranger to another, I'm so very sorry.

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