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I got married yesterday and I can't stop crying.

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MoreThanOverwhelmed · 07/06/2025 05:07

DH has cancer. (Diagnosed Jan 2024)
We were supposed to get married - at simple 2+2 ceremony at the end of the month but his Dr's etc encouraged us to bring the date forwards, so we got married yesterday in the hospital where my DH is being cared for.
I'm a week post major abdominal surgery.
We have 2 primary aged DC
It's our youngest DCs birthday this month.

I don't know what I want from this post but I can't stop crying.
I don't think that I know how break it to the DC that Daddy isn't going to get better and come home.
My head is swimming & I don't know what to do.

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SconeWithTheWind · 28/06/2025 04:06

Sending love. I'm so very sorry. 💔

Blueberrymuffinsforthewin · 28/06/2025 03:58

I'm so sorry for your loss, thinking of you, your children and family at this terrible time.

Rooroobear · 28/06/2025 03:46

Oh, how awful. I’m so, so sorry for your loss ❤️

MalarkeyBollocks · 28/06/2025 03:38

Oh my love, I’m so sorry x

TheOriginalEmu · 28/06/2025 03:34

I’m so sorry. ❤️

Wherethebirdflies · 28/06/2025 03:25

I am so sorry for your loss 😔

Roomforapony · 28/06/2025 03:23

I am so so sorry for your loss, you have shown such incredible strength and resilience💔
Your DH will have drawn comfort from knowing that your DC have such an amazing mother to help guide them through life without him. The love and commitment you shared will be with you always, giving you strength and comfort during the heartbreaking times ahead. I’m sending love and prayers to you and your family and I’ll keep you in my thoughts❤️

PopThatBench · 28/06/2025 03:15

I’m so sorry for your loss @MoreThanOverwhelmed 💛 and for your children losing their Dad.
I hope you continue to hear your husband in your children’s laughter and see him in their smiles. x

EnjoyingTheArmoire · 28/06/2025 03:09

I'm so sorry for your loss.

Areyouactuallyjokingme · 28/06/2025 03:05

I'm so sorry to read this @MoreThanOverwhelmed 💐 So unfair. Please take time just to breathe, and I hope you can take a little comfort knowing he is at peace now.Thinking of you and your family at this unthinkable time.
Take care ❤️

echt · 28/06/2025 03:01

Many many Flowers @MoreThanOverwhelmed

HighburyHope · 28/06/2025 02:55

@MoreThanOverwhelmed I am so very sorry for your loss, and so poignantly on what should have been a day of joy and celebration. I hope you and your DC are surrounded by loving support Flowers

Bonbon21 · 28/06/2025 02:51

I am so very sorry.
You have been incredibly strong and brave and your husband must have been so proud of you.
Hold your loved ones close and lean on them in the days and months to come.
X

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MoreThanOverwhelmed · 28/06/2025 02:28

DH passed this evening. It was supposed to be our wedding day, it was already our "being together anniversary"
I feel so broken.
He's at peace.
I miss him so much.

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ToysRus56 · 26/06/2025 23:00

You sound like an extraordinary woman, wife, mother xxx

LBFseBrom · 26/06/2025 12:20

DonnaBanana · 26/06/2025 08:47

Because no one else seems to be saying it, congratulations on getting married! In spite of everything else, that’s a beautiful thing and should be celebrated.

I agree.

Monstersfromtheid · 26/06/2025 11:50

So glad you were able to have this special day together. I hope it will give you something to hold onto 🩷

DonnaBanana · 26/06/2025 08:47

Because no one else seems to be saying it, congratulations on getting married! In spite of everything else, that’s a beautiful thing and should be celebrated.

LatteLady · 26/06/2025 08:34

@MoreThanOverwhelmed This is the toughest part of your journey, vacillating between wishing he was out of pain and then feeling guilty for letting such thoughts flash through your mind, but know it is normal. I wish you all the strength you will need for the next few months and will keep you and your family in my thoughts over the coming months.

OutandAboutMum1821 · 26/06/2025 06:17

I’m so sorry to read what you are all going through. Sending you my best wishes and hugs.

beachcitygirl · 26/06/2025 06:16

I’m so fucking sorry. This is bloody awful. Sending love & congratulations- you’re still a bride In love .

YouWillBeFound33 · 26/06/2025 05:26

Sending love ❤️

user1492757084 · 26/06/2025 05:24

So sad for you, Op.
Keep your loved ones close by you.
Treat yourself kindly. You are coping with too much.
Crying is justified and life is not fair for you and your husband.

Let your children in to feel the reality of the loss.
They will understand that their Dad needs special care as he becomes more frail.
Focus on the birthday. Will the hospital make allowances for more visitors for the celebration?

Seabreeze18 · 26/06/2025 05:22

I'm So sorry op life is cruel! I’m glad he got to the birthday and was involved as they are important memories. Thinking of you and your kids! 💐

healthybychristmas · 26/06/2025 05:05

I've been thinking of you and your family, OP. 💔

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