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I got married yesterday and I can't stop crying.

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MoreThanOverwhelmed · 07/06/2025 05:07

DH has cancer. (Diagnosed Jan 2024)
We were supposed to get married - at simple 2+2 ceremony at the end of the month but his Dr's etc encouraged us to bring the date forwards, so we got married yesterday in the hospital where my DH is being cared for.
I'm a week post major abdominal surgery.
We have 2 primary aged DC
It's our youngest DCs birthday this month.

I don't know what I want from this post but I can't stop crying.
I don't think that I know how break it to the DC that Daddy isn't going to get better and come home.
My head is swimming & I don't know what to do.

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sandgrown · 28/06/2025 07:26

So very sorry to see your update . Even when it is expected it hurts so much . Look after yourself and the children x

twinsister · 28/06/2025 07:26

I’m so sorry. Please know you and your children are in the thoughts of many around the world x

HelenCurlyBrown · 28/06/2025 07:25

I’m so sorry. It sounds like your last few days were very special.

Ilikegreen · 28/06/2025 07:25

I am so very sorry, I read your initial post and have been thinking of you since, and your children.

Magnoliasunrise · 28/06/2025 07:22

So very sorry x

Liondoesntsleepatnight · 28/06/2025 07:22

Sending love to you all

ToysRus56 · 28/06/2025 07:21

I am just so, so sorry xxx

Misshollys · 28/06/2025 07:19

💔 💔 So sorry for your loss, x

supersop60 · 28/06/2025 07:13

Sending love and condolences.

penmanship · 28/06/2025 07:12

I am so very sorry, OP. I am thinking of you and your family ❤️

misspositivepants · 28/06/2025 07:04

I’m so very sorry x

TeenToTwenties · 28/06/2025 07:04
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RabbitsRock · 28/06/2025 07:03

So sorry to read your update OP 💐I have a friend who was widowed at 25 & she has thrown herself into trying to set up help for younger widows as in her experience there doesn’t seem to be a lot available. She has 2 very young children. We are based in Cornwall but I am happy to see if she has anything online & I can inbox you the details. So sorry for what is happening to your family. A few weeks have passed now since your wedding & hopefully you are able to gain some comfort from the memories of that day ❤️

Ummmmmerrrrr · 28/06/2025 07:02

So very sorry OP, just take one day at a time and perhaps in time join some of the bereavement posts which I found helpful when my DH passed. Xxxx

terracelane23 · 28/06/2025 06:57

Didn’t want to read and run.
So sorry.
Take one minute at a time x

yorkshireteabagman · 28/06/2025 06:57

incredibly sorry to read this. Thoughts with you, life is cruel

Seawolves · 28/06/2025 06:56

I am so so sorry.

Anonusername1234 · 28/06/2025 06:50

I am so sorry. I am sending thoughts to you and your family.

MsOvary · 28/06/2025 06:49

I’m so sorry you are going through this. Sending love to you and your family

Strugglingforanamechange · 28/06/2025 06:48

I’m so sorry op. I didn’t want to just read and run. Sending you love and strength 💐

FigurativelyDying · 28/06/2025 06:47

Sending you the strength to get through these difficult days and weeks, and love.

Pantsinthewash · 28/06/2025 06:41

So sad for you, OP.

StillweriseLH · 28/06/2025 06:40

I hope you don’t mind me sharing something? Im not religious, it’s not a God thing, more of a “next journey” thing.

Last night, the sunset here was incredible. One of those nights where you can see the literal sun rays coming down through a gap in the clouds, fire red and bright orange, touching a specific space. When I see things like that, I always find myself thinking it’s a portal, like a connection between this plane and the next. Perhaps your husband travelled through that fabulous sunset. It looked majestic.

Setyoufree · 28/06/2025 06:39

I'm so very sorry for your loss 💐

UggyPow · 28/06/2025 06:38

Sending love to you all x

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