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Nieces and nephews not invited to wedding.

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EugenieGreen · 06/06/2025 18:04

I want to ask my brother why he hasn’t asked my children to his wedding, not ask for an invitation for them, it is his wedding but I want to know why they are not invited and if he considered them. What does he think of them?

Right I have three children, almost adults, youngest is 16. My sister has 2 who are slightly younger. All well behaved.

I was very upset when my husband’s brother did not invite my kids to his wedding 17 years ago.

Now my own brother is getting married for a second time ( SiL’s first trip down the aisle). His children are obviously invited who are same age as mine give or take).

No money is being spared and space is not an issue.

Who they invite is up to them so all I want to do is ask him why he doesn’t want his nieces and nephews there. Do they mean nothing to him?

OP posts:
Garibald · 06/06/2025 18:07

Are other kids (besides his own) invited? If so and it's yours specifically who have been excluded then it might be worth asking, since it indicates a problem that might need addressed. If it's all other kids besides his then it's just that they want a child free wedding and you don't need to ask why because that's the reason.

DarkForces · 06/06/2025 18:07

What do you think asking him will achieve?

ToKittyornottoKitty · 06/06/2025 18:06

Are your sisters children invited? Does he see your children often?

crumblingschools · 06/06/2025 18:06

How often does he see them? Are they bothered?