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Rude to answer the phone

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Goldielocks2p22 · 06/06/2025 17:22

Went for a catch up with a friend to get drinks. Another friend rings her and she answers then continues to spend 45 minutes on the phone to this person.

Surely I’m not the only person who wouldn’t answer the phone if I’d agreed to meet someone for drinks or food?

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JBPmum · 07/06/2025 04:48

It's very rude. I understand answering the phone if it's a child or your child's school or something, just to make sure everything is okay. Otherwise, ignore the phone and call them back later.

Tourmalines · 07/06/2025 04:33

That’s disgustingly rude . I thought my friend was rude to go out for a vape when we went out for lunch . Both at the table , she had finished. I hadn’t, so off she went . I would have left if I was you .

Painrelief · 07/06/2025 02:56

I can’t believe you sat there for 45 mins . I would’ve left her to her call as it’s so important .

EFB2025 · 07/06/2025 02:20

This is so rude, I'd have been tempted to just leave quite frankly!

Iwantaparkingspacenow · 07/06/2025 02:19

TatteredAndTorn · 07/06/2025 02:11

I can’t believe 5% of people thing you are unreasonable! Your friend was incredibly rude.

Maybe they mean that the OP was being unreasonable for putting up with situation. That they were unreasonable for not leaving the rude friend.

TatteredAndTorn · 07/06/2025 02:11

I can’t believe 5% of people thing you are unreasonable! Your friend was incredibly rude.

Nikki75 · 06/06/2025 17:56

Rude... you'd check all ok send a quick text say out with blah blah at the moment catch up later or tomorrow.
Why sit there for 45 mins though , I'd of gone home.

Blanknotebook · 06/06/2025 17:53

I would have gone home and left her to it. That was incredibly rude of her.

Redpeach · 06/06/2025 17:50

Very rude, even short calls annoy me, especially the kind where its just a partner asking where the ketchup is or some crap.

Cynic17 · 06/06/2025 17:29

45 minutes?! FFS, she is incredibly rude. And I would have left her to it.

Goody2ShoesAndTheFilthyBeast · 06/06/2025 17:27

I'd answer the phone to check nothing was bad then apologise, say I was with someone and that id ring them the next day.

IfIDid · 06/06/2025 17:25

Spies · 06/06/2025 17:24

Of course it's rude but I can't believe you sat there and let her talk on the phone for 45 minutes! After 5 minutes and no signs of her finishing up the conversation I would have told her I was leaving and if she didn't hang up I would have left.

Edited

This. I’d only have answered to check nothing was wrong and to tell her I’d call her another time, but if I were the other person, I’d have necked my drink and gone in search of better company.

Spies · 06/06/2025 17:24

Of course it's rude but I can't believe you sat there and let her talk on the phone for 45 minutes! After 5 minutes and no signs of her finishing up the conversation I would have told her I was leaving and if she didn't hang up I would have left.

Ponoka7 · 06/06/2025 17:23

I would answer the phone, to make sure nothing was wrong, but I'd cut the call off. Didn't you pull her up about ten minutes into the call?