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Making a lasagne from scratch

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tangerinemagic · 06/06/2025 17:14

Does anyone actually see the return of investment of time and money here?

I spent 2.5 hours making one (before it even went into the oven). The bechemel sauce took an hour. I don’t know where the time went but melting butter was fast and adding flour but stirring in all that milk and keeping the thickness too forever and I still ran out for the top layer which was devastating (it’s a one layer lasagne). Grating 50g Parmesan to go in is a work out, that’s before the 75g of cheddar to go on the top of it all. I did have kids with me but I wouldn’t ever bother doing it again.

I grew up eating dolmio made lasagnes and that’s how I was taught but since knowing that’s not the right way and additives etc, I’ve just bought lasagne from the deli or restaurants if I go out. Shop bought Charlie Bingham is lovely.

2.5 hours is such a long time. Does anyone do this regularly? It’s like two meals. A bolognaise then a bechemel and that’s before the art of the quantities and building the darn thing.

AIBU to feel so frustrated by this and not want to ever bother again. (Not going back to dolmio either)

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Summerlovin24 · 07/06/2025 21:05

Completely agree. I am quick in the kitchen but a lasagne is way too much work. When I go out for dinner, go to a decent Italian and order their lasagne. Mine never comes out right either Too much sauce or too little and layers never stay together as they should

Atina321 · 07/06/2025 20:52

Do you not own a cheese grater? Grating 50g of Parmesan and 75g cheese takes 1 min tops!

Béchamel sauce takes maximum 15 mins.

Browning the mince and throwing some chopped tomatoes, tomato purée and herbs, maybe some mushrooms as well takes 10 mins and then simmer while you make the sauce.

Takes 20-30mins. I have no idea what you were doing g for 2.5 hours? Making pasta from scratch??

GlomOfNit · 07/06/2025 20:22

tangerinemagic · 06/06/2025 18:18

thanks. Clearly bit off way more than I could chew, naively didn’t realise the enormity of doing it from scratch first time (while making 2 milkshakes et al for DC1).

hoped DH might love coming home to a comforting meal but instead I appear to have lost my cool with DC1 and the bechemel running out, and now he’s annoyed at me for stressing him out further after a stressful day he had. He really lost it saying he could do with out it and why do I bother trying to cook. In all honesty he is the cook in our house but he recently took on a new job (he’s way out of his depth and struggling) so I thought I would take up the mantle on cooking. I just made a mistake on the gravity of it all.

I really am on cusp of tears as now I’m not talking to him. my intentions were only well intended.

Oh OP, what a shame your DH is taking out his work frustrations on you and was so ungracious at your efforts. He doesn't deserve home-cooked food!

I think a lot of posts have been taking issue with an hour to make your béchamel, but clearly most of them haven't read your later posts or they'd understand what you were up against, and how upsetting it was to have your DH disrespect your work. I'm glad he was appreciative later on, but life's too short to spend hours cooking lovely stuff for someone who doesn't appreciate it. He needs to know this.

I always end up with not quite the right amounts of either the ragu or the béchamel, but then I never really follow a recipe for lasagne! If you make bolognaise sauce for pasta more often than lasagne, then next time, why not make double the amount, freeze or fridge half, and then you've got that for your next lasagne. I make the béchamel by starting with a stupid amount of butter, and then add as much plain flour as you can without it being mealy-dry. Cook it in a bit while making sure it doesn't burn, then start adding the milk slowly, and whisk like mad, and be prepared to use quite a lot of it!

Sod not adding cheddar, I like a nice cheesy lasagne and put it in as well as parmesan!

buffyandspikeandfaith · 07/06/2025 20:11

Penguin92 · 07/06/2025 19:37

I don’t understand, from scratch as opposed to a microwave meal??? I assume you meant also making the pasta from scratch

From scratch as opposed to using jar sauce

Pennecrayon · 07/06/2025 20:05

Far too late to this thread but a brilliant domestic science teacher taught me to just use flour, butter and milk from cold in a pan to make bechamel (trust your instincts on quantity) and then gently heat.

APC303 · 07/06/2025 19:53

Lasagne is nice but a completely overwhelming mess from start to finish.

Penguin92 · 07/06/2025 19:37

I don’t understand, from scratch as opposed to a microwave meal??? I assume you meant also making the pasta from scratch

TheBigFactHunt · 07/06/2025 19:34

RareGoalsVerge · 06/06/2025 17:23

I don't make lasagne very often, but when I do I only ever make it in my huge catering-size tray (it doesn't sit on a self in the oven, but has lips that slide into the rail shelf guides so that it can take up the absolute maximum space in the oven) and can take enough for 4 family meals worth. Then it's worth my while to make an enormous vat of bolognese sauce and another enormous vat of Bechamel - because making 4 times the quantity takes about the same time, perhaps a few minutes more for a bit more chopping and grating, but I have a food processor so can grate a block of cheese in 10 seconds and similarly can dice onions etc pretty quickly. Done that way, each meal takes about a quarter of the time.

However I am concerned by your mentioning of a "one layer" lasagne - such a concept is surely an abhomination againt god and nature? A good lasagne should be at least 4 layers, or perhaps 6, and I am not sure a single layer could qualify as the same kind of dish?

Exactly this.
I try to do two huge trays at once, they divvy into 10x double portions in foil takeaway containers and freeze.

suburburban · 07/06/2025 19:19

I was really pleased with mine. Some of the tips on here are great

I did infuse the bechamel with the cloved onion etc.

Sainsbury’s mince 5%

LadyMonicaBaddingham · 07/06/2025 19:08

Make two, or even three, at a time and freeze? Hardly any more work and SO nice to have waiting for you!

Newusername3kidss · 07/06/2025 19:08

What on earth are you doing to your bechamel to take that long. It takes 10 mins max - melt butter, add flour to make a roux and then whisk in the milk gradually. I don’t measure milk just add until the correct consistency. Then add cheese and combine. And with butter / flour it’s a simple equal amount of each.

Making the bolognese technically takes a long time if you want it decent as it needs time to simmer. But just leave and pop back to give a little stir. But then I think a bolognese with minimal simmer time is ok in a lasagna anyway once combined with bechamel and cheese etc.

soupyspoon · 07/06/2025 19:07

Witchtower · 07/06/2025 18:34

Cheddar????
Why has no one mentioned the use of cheddar??
Please don’t add cheddar!

But you are so right. It takes ages, anyone saying it takes 45mins to an hour is not making it correctly.
It is also quite pricey to make.
When I make it I batch cook the bolognese, usually around 8kg. I freeze some as pasta sauce and I make a couple of lasagne and freeze one or two.

When I have made everything just for one lasagne it does feel like a lot of work.

I mentioned cheddar. I would add cheddar. I like cheddar

The only reason the Italians dont use cheddar is because they dont really have it, their hard cheese of choice is parmesan or pecorino, both are fine, both have their merits, even both at the same time.

AlpacaMittens · 07/06/2025 19:02

I don't understand how bechamel took you 1 hour?! It's probably more like 15 mins or something? Melt butter, add cornflour, add milk, add cheese, stir? Hardly one hour?! Two hours would probably be from starting to gather ingredients to lasagne ready to be eaten and all pots pans etc washed and dried and put away

Namechangefordaughterevasion · 07/06/2025 18:59

I love lasagne but agree it's a faff. I speed it up by using pre grated cheddar (no Parmesan) and doing an all in one bechamel. I also make double the quantity of ragu and freeze some for the next time.

I would rather go without lasagne than eat a pre made sauce so it's very much a once in a while treat not a regular family meal.

InterestedDad37 · 07/06/2025 18:59

My kids used to love "dad's lasagne", and I still get requests for it when they come home (all grown up now) (I was the main cook when they were little)... but they knew it was only possible when I had the time to do it 👍

MyLimeGuide · 07/06/2025 18:59

I soooo want lasagne now. My tip is 50/50 cornflour and plain flour for the sauce.

Auburngal · 07/06/2025 18:55

Don’t waste your money on pasta sauces! Full of sugar and rubbish.

A carton of passata (sieved tomatoes) then add herbs, garlic.

Glittertwins · 07/06/2025 18:51

It can take a while for the ragu as we cook it a long time but we also make a lot so it can be used as a non lasagne sauce too. Never taken an hour to make bechamel though.

TourangaLeila · 07/06/2025 18:45

It's just practice op. On a batch cook day I can get 5 things going and done in 2.5 hours ready to freeze.

Ireallywantadoughnut36 · 07/06/2025 18:40

I would do it all at once, e.g. as your butter melts, chop and fry your onions for a separate pan, stir the flour in to the butter and add some milk whilst the onions soften, then add beef to the onions whilst the becamel milk heats up.... it takes maybe 30 mins if you have both sauces on at once, max. Then maybe 5 mins to layer....

It is an effort though, I don't make them every week. It's a nice treat maybe once a month when I have time. I can't cope with stir in sauces, they're just full of stuff and it doesn't taste the same to me. Could you buy grated cheese if it bothers you grating it (it doesn't seem to take me that long tbh).

Nellodee · 07/06/2025 18:40

Shock horror- I’ve been known to make a quick meat lasagne meat lasagne meat cheese and skip the bechamel completely, and I like it!

Witchtower · 07/06/2025 18:34

Cheddar????
Why has no one mentioned the use of cheddar??
Please don’t add cheddar!

But you are so right. It takes ages, anyone saying it takes 45mins to an hour is not making it correctly.
It is also quite pricey to make.
When I make it I batch cook the bolognese, usually around 8kg. I freeze some as pasta sauce and I make a couple of lasagne and freeze one or two.

When I have made everything just for one lasagne it does feel like a lot of work.

minnienono · 07/06/2025 18:34

oh and whilst I’m simmering i sometimes make lasagna sheets, so easy, though fresh (not dried) supermarket pasta doesn’t taste any different and dried tastes fine though different texture

Pinkcountrybumpkin · 07/06/2025 18:29

This is why i buy a family
size one from my local butcher, he does a family size lasagne and family size pie, so 2 nights dinners for £15.50

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