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Making a lasagne from scratch

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tangerinemagic · 06/06/2025 17:14

Does anyone actually see the return of investment of time and money here?

I spent 2.5 hours making one (before it even went into the oven). The bechemel sauce took an hour. I don’t know where the time went but melting butter was fast and adding flour but stirring in all that milk and keeping the thickness too forever and I still ran out for the top layer which was devastating (it’s a one layer lasagne). Grating 50g Parmesan to go in is a work out, that’s before the 75g of cheddar to go on the top of it all. I did have kids with me but I wouldn’t ever bother doing it again.

I grew up eating dolmio made lasagnes and that’s how I was taught but since knowing that’s not the right way and additives etc, I’ve just bought lasagne from the deli or restaurants if I go out. Shop bought Charlie Bingham is lovely.

2.5 hours is such a long time. Does anyone do this regularly? It’s like two meals. A bolognaise then a bechemel and that’s before the art of the quantities and building the darn thing.

AIBU to feel so frustrated by this and not want to ever bother again. (Not going back to dolmio either)

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Katemax82 · 06/06/2025 17:29

tangerinemagic · 06/06/2025 17:26

DH now complaining he’s come home from a really stressful day and I’m stressed that the lasagne took so long and DC2 (2.5) is driving me mad and DC1 is being fussy (8 mos) says the kitchen was a mess but I was tidying as I went, there are toys but not mess. Lasagne was a bad idea but I thought was a nice thing to do. Doesn’t help I went to shops just before to buy ingredients (without DCs a neighbours daughter looked after them for an hour and played with them as I started but went home). Gosh I feel like crying, I just wanted to have a nice meal ready and instead it’s descended into chaos :(

Sorry its gone so wrong...you had the best intentions. Sometimes things just go like that. Try not to let it upset you

MalcolmMoo · 06/06/2025 17:29

A cheese sauce takes me about ten minutes? And I do it the same time I’m making the other filling. Admittedly we don’t eat meat so not sure if our lasagne is quicker because of that but I’d say prep is 30 minutes max then oven 40 minutes.

SoScarletItWas · 06/06/2025 17:29

tangerinemagic · 06/06/2025 17:26

DH now complaining he’s come home from a really stressful day and I’m stressed that the lasagne took so long and DC2 (2.5) is driving me mad and DC1 is being fussy (8 mos) says the kitchen was a mess but I was tidying as I went, there are toys but not mess. Lasagne was a bad idea but I thought was a nice thing to do. Doesn’t help I went to shops just before to buy ingredients (without DCs a neighbours daughter looked after them for an hour and played with them as I started but went home). Gosh I feel like crying, I just wanted to have a nice meal ready and instead it’s descended into chaos :(

Is the lasagne in the oven? Glass of wine, last bits of tidying, you’ll be tucking in before you know it.

Ignore DH.

donotaskmesillyquestions · 06/06/2025 17:28

I gave up on making Bechamel years ago. Instead, I mix together equal quantities of double cream and full fat crème fraiche with seasoning and a dollop of Dijon mustard. Much quicker.

IggyAce · 06/06/2025 17:27

My dh makes it from scratch and it’s amazing. He makes a massive pan of bolognaise so there is usually some of that left for another meal and then the lasagna is usually 6 portions, do there are a couple left over.

SoScarletItWas · 06/06/2025 17:27

GroovyChick87 · 06/06/2025 17:25

I never make my own sauces for lasagne. I use jars and add herbs. I made a lasagne the other week and it was absolutely gorgeous. Took me about 15 mins to make and assemble. The answer is less sauce and more cheese.

The answer is always more cheese! I put cheese in my bechamel 😆

CatsWee · 06/06/2025 17:27

How on earth does bechamel take an hour? It’s a 10 minute job.

Ragu is 10 mins hands on then 3 hours cooking, but you can go and do something else during that time.

tangerinemagic · 06/06/2025 17:26

DH now complaining he’s come home from a really stressful day and I’m stressed that the lasagne took so long and DC2 (2.5) is driving me mad and DC1 is being fussy (8 mos) says the kitchen was a mess but I was tidying as I went, there are toys but not mess. Lasagne was a bad idea but I thought was a nice thing to do. Doesn’t help I went to shops just before to buy ingredients (without DCs a neighbours daughter looked after them for an hour and played with them as I started but went home). Gosh I feel like crying, I just wanted to have a nice meal ready and instead it’s descended into chaos :(

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Icanttakethisanymore · 06/06/2025 17:26

An hour on the bechemel sounds wild but generally I think things take a long time (and feel like a lot of effort) when you don't do it often. My DP's mum makes them all the time and I suspect she doesn't even have to think about it and does it whilst she is doing other stuff.

FOJN · 06/06/2025 17:26

It took you longer because it was your first time making it from scratch and from some of your comments you seem to be overthinking the layering.

An hour to make bechamel sauce is a very long time. I make it with cornflour. I mix the required quantity of cornflour with a little bit of the milk and put it aside then I put the butter and the rest of the milk in the pan, heat it up until all the butter is melted and the milk is warm before adding the milk/cornflour mix and heating until it's thickened. You can make double and freeze some for your next lasagne.

Lavendersong · 06/06/2025 17:25

I make my lasagne from scratch.

The bechamel sauce takes 5-10 minutes with 1 pint warm milk and 50g butter 50 g flour with salt and nutmeg.
Meat sauce takes an hour then I leave it to cool.

i usually do 3 layers because I make it for DD

TutTutTutSigh · 06/06/2025 17:25

Mine takes all day, the ragu simmers for 6 hours ideally, then about an hour to infuse and make the sauce, assemble and a good 45 mins in the oven. It's bloody good but I only do it about twice a year.

MiracleCures · 06/06/2025 17:25

I make a big batch and then freeze portions, it makes it feel more worth the effort then!

GroovyChick87 · 06/06/2025 17:25

I never make my own sauces for lasagne. I use jars and add herbs. I made a lasagne the other week and it was absolutely gorgeous. Took me about 15 mins to make and assemble. The answer is less sauce and more cheese.

CanOfMangoTango · 06/06/2025 17:24

I reckon it takes an hour to get to the stage of putting it in the oven but I have to work quite intensely if we're making everything except pasta from scratch.

I can see how it would take 2.5 hours is you're finishing one thing before starting on the next.

It's so good to eat though. I might make one this weekend 🤔

SoScarletItWas · 06/06/2025 17:24

I’m with you OP, it takes an hour and a half for me because I make the tomato sauce and a rushed tomato sauce is a pan of thin acidic sadness.

You can leave it to do its own thing, though.

Even this recipe doesn’t let you get away with less than 1 hr 40 in total. Much of that is the bolognaise bubbling away and then 45 mins in the oven.

https://www.bbcgoodfood.com/recipes/classic-lasagne-0

Katemax82 · 06/06/2025 17:24

Talipesmum · 06/06/2025 17:22

So much sympathy! Am sure there will be loads of people saying they can make it dead quick but it’s always a long one for me too. However, I have improved a lot!

Tips - make the meat bolognaise one day, fridge it or freeze it if need be. Then do bechemel and assembly the next day. It really helps with the standing up weariness! And it’s easy enough to quickly make the sauce then just let it slowly simmer for ages while you do other stuff.

Bechemel - I heat the milk up in the microwave before adding it in. It really speeds things up. Two Pyrex jugs of hot milk, one after the other. I also always double the amount it says in case of running out. Worst case freeze some for pasta sauce / macaroni cheese at a later date.

Assembly - heat the Bol sauce back up. The layers can be really really thin. One mince lump’s worth per layer. And don’t stress about distributing the bechemel too evenly - it all works out.

I usually get someone else to grate the cheese. And I use the big box grater on the finer setting for Parmesan, not the super fine microplane one which takes longer.

I used to make a huge slow cookers worth of bolognaise in advance

Starlightstarbright4 · 06/06/2025 17:24

I buy the white sauce make the rest. It levels it up without the fuss . The tomato sauce is so easy to make .

Catabogus · 06/06/2025 17:23

Make double the ragu a day or so before and serve half as part of spaghetti bolognese or similar pasta dinner. Store in the fridge overnight. Then when you want the lasagne, you only need to make the béchamel and assemble it. Much easier!

KimberleyClark · 06/06/2025 17:23

ConstantCringing · 06/06/2025 17:18

I can knock up a lasagne in 30mins tbh. Don't think I could make it take 2.5hrs if I tried.

What, including all the prep of the veg for the meat sauce and everything? And it needs simmering for a good long time to be thick enough otherwise the end result lasagne will just be slop.

MartinBishopsbum · 06/06/2025 17:23

i made one last week using Tom Kerridge recipe, roasting the mince first ,also roasting the tomatoes 🍅, lots of red wine and just let it tootle away for hours, made a huge one and had lots for the freezer, absolute faff but so tasty, I dont do it often, 2 hours seems excessive though, I can knock up a bog standard one in an hour

Gasp0deTheW0nderD0g · 06/06/2025 17:23

Traditional lasagne made with ragu bolognese: takes me ages, because I use Delia Smith's recipe for the ragu, and it makes a huge quantity and cooks for hours. Well worth it, because I freeze most of it for other times, lasagne or spag bol.

I make the ragu a day or two before I intend to make the lasagne because the flavour improves, as well as wanting to spread the workload. Making the bechamel takes a few minutes. Grating the Parmesan, ditto. A few minutes to assemble. Job done.

Vegetarian lasagne: also takes a while, as I use roast vegetables, and there's a lot of chopping. Here again, though, it's worth it as a fair amount of the lasagne ends up in the freezer for an easy meal or two another time.

RareGoalsVerge · 06/06/2025 17:23

I don't make lasagne very often, but when I do I only ever make it in my huge catering-size tray (it doesn't sit on a self in the oven, but has lips that slide into the rail shelf guides so that it can take up the absolute maximum space in the oven) and can take enough for 4 family meals worth. Then it's worth my while to make an enormous vat of bolognese sauce and another enormous vat of Bechamel - because making 4 times the quantity takes about the same time, perhaps a few minutes more for a bit more chopping and grating, but I have a food processor so can grate a block of cheese in 10 seconds and similarly can dice onions etc pretty quickly. Done that way, each meal takes about a quarter of the time.

However I am concerned by your mentioning of a "one layer" lasagne - such a concept is surely an abhomination againt god and nature? A good lasagne should be at least 4 layers, or perhaps 6, and I am not sure a single layer could qualify as the same kind of dish?

MeanMrMustardSeed · 06/06/2025 17:23

They are a bit of a labour of love. To make it all from scratch (chopping onion, making sauce etc), I can easily spend an hour. I now make 2 or 3 at the same time to freeze, as it only takes me about 20% longer to make all 3 or 4 of them.

Katemax82 · 06/06/2025 17:22

Cherrysoup · 06/06/2025 17:20

Bechamel sauce; put equal amounts of flour/butter in a pan with milk, whisk as you heat. It really isn’t that hard. Frozen low fat mince so no draining needed.

Or heat up milk in a pan and add mcdougles thickening granules then season

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