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Friend’s feral teenage son

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Vanishedwillow · 06/06/2025 16:45

This, basically. My friend’s teenage son (15) is awful to her. He hits her, calls her every swear word you can imagine, says she should have been drowned at birth and worse. He comes from a loving, two parent family home and is just as bad to his dad. He has chased her around the house with a knife and I’m worried she’ll end up dead. The problem is, she’s never given him boundaries and even now, today, after being kicked out of school for bad behaviour, she’s giving him a lift! I keep saying he needs consequences but she just says there’s no point, it never makes any difference. I’m so frustrated with her!

OP posts:
Motnight · 06/06/2025 18:18

ArseInTheCoOpWindow · 06/06/2025 17:00

This isn’t normal
brhaviour for a teenage boy.

It sounds like ASD or ADHD.

Does it?!

Kibble19 · 06/06/2025 18:18

You can lead a horse to water, OP.

Until she stands up and acts like a parent (which will probably involve calling the police on her delinquent), she’ll go through this. You’re right, he might kill one day. Who knows.

As usual it’s being assumed it’s because of autism or ADHD. I do wonder if these instant assumptions on MN offend people with those conditions who aren’t violent, nasty bastards.

feelingbleh · 06/06/2025 18:14

Why are you mad at her i don't think this level of behaviour has anything to do with parenting, something else is going on she needs to go to her GP and they will be able to help them both

BookArt55 · 06/06/2025 18:11

Sounds like she needs help. I would be meeting with the school and asking for referrals to outside agencies.

However if she doesn't see a problem then there's not a lot that can be done... it could be a head in sand/my child is perfect response or a scared response of how he may retaliate when he finds out she is sharing and seeking support.

But mum and dad can't do this alone.

ArseInTheCoOpWindow · 06/06/2025 17:00

This isn’t normal
brhaviour for a teenage boy.

It sounds like ASD or ADHD.

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