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DH refuses to measure bottles

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CharmingDryad · 06/06/2025 15:57

DH refuses to measure the water and formula scoops when making bottles for our baby. The bottles have measurement lines on there. You just pour to your desired line, and sometimes pour a little out if it’s too much. But he says that’s too difficult to do. He also refuses to use the built-in level in the formula can to make the scoops exact so you know how much you’re giving her. He says, “that’s not how cooking works.” And “I just eyeball it.” He tries to eyeball the measurement, but it’s really not difficult to go ahead and use the level. Yet he refuses.

AIBU to demand he measure properly? Or am I being too fastidious?

OP posts:
Iloveeverycat · 06/06/2025 16:03

NJLX2021 · 06/06/2025 16:02

What age?

Kind of matters a lot.

Early on.. absolute no.

But to be honest by 2 years? When my son was eating a lot every meal.. I was just eyeballing it most of the time.

From 1 they can drink cows milk

SilenceInside · 06/06/2025 16:03

Yep agree with everyone else, it’s stupid and unnecessary to refuse to measure. The dangers are as a PP has outlined. Why would he risk the health of your baby because he’s lazy??

Sofiewoo · 06/06/2025 16:03

Sounds like you procreated with a total moron who wants the parenting to be your job.

NJLX2021 · 06/06/2025 16:02

What age?

Kind of matters a lot.

Early on.. absolute no.

But to be honest by 2 years? When my son was eating a lot every meal.. I was just eyeballing it most of the time.

Iloveeverycat · 06/06/2025 16:01

This is what it says online
If formula is not measured correctly, either adding too much or too little powder to the water, it can lead to various health problems in infants. Over-concentrated formula (too much powder, too little water) can cause dehydration and electrolyte imbalances, potentially leading to seizures and kidney issues. Under-concentrated formula (too little powder, too much water) can cause nutrient deficiencies, slow growth, and even water intoxication.

Over-Concentrated Formula:
Dehydration:
Infants may become dehydrated, showing signs like excessive sleepiness, fewer wet diapers, dark urine, and dry mouth.
Salt and water imbalance:
This can disrupt the delicate balance of electrolytes in the baby's body, potentially leading to seizures and brain damage.
Kidney problems:
The kidneys may struggle to process the excess protein and electrolytes, leading to kidney issues.

Under-Concentrated Formula:
Nutrient deficiencies:
Babies may not get the essential nutrients they need for growth and development, leading to slower growth and poor weight gain.

Water intoxication:
Drinking too much water without adequate nutrients can lead to a dangerous condition where the body's sodium levels drop too low, potentially causing seizures, coma, and even death.

Pinkelephant66 · 06/06/2025 16:01

I could not put up with this. Is he really that thick?

TomatoSandwiches · 06/06/2025 16:00

He's a fucking idiot.

IfItWereMe · 06/06/2025 16:00

This is outrageous - how dangerous !!! I think he is giving you a very clear message- he wants nothing to do with the work of looking after this baby. If you cannot trust him to take the most basic safety steps how could you ever, for example, leave your baby in his sole care? What age is your baby OP

Zippidydoodah · 06/06/2025 16:00

Well of course he needs to measure it properly! Otherwise your baby is not getting the right level of nutrients.

Why do men do this? Think they know better all the time? What a fucking idiot.