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DH refuses to measure bottles

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CharmingDryad · 06/06/2025 15:57

DH refuses to measure the water and formula scoops when making bottles for our baby. The bottles have measurement lines on there. You just pour to your desired line, and sometimes pour a little out if it’s too much. But he says that’s too difficult to do. He also refuses to use the built-in level in the formula can to make the scoops exact so you know how much you’re giving her. He says, “that’s not how cooking works.” And “I just eyeball it.” He tries to eyeball the measurement, but it’s really not difficult to go ahead and use the level. Yet he refuses.

AIBU to demand he measure properly? Or am I being too fastidious?

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beetr00 · 06/06/2025 16:41

CharmingDryad · 06/06/2025 16:33

Thanks MN for all these scathing comments. He has been an idiot. Ironically he has three graduate degrees and teaches at a law school! I’ve read the comments to him, and he’s now admitted he was wrong and promised to measure properly from now on. Win!

It's still a pity that he refused take heed of your protestations though @CharmingDryad

Freddl6 · 06/06/2025 16:39

Presumably he cant be bothered to sterilie the bottles either?

I have heard of people watering down or thickening formula etc maybe to get baby to sleep.

People obvoously do occassionally make bottles up wrong but he will be consistentky doing it. Plus the baby is still very young and not even on solids.

How would he like it if his parents had messed up his kidney function from a baby?

Whattodo1610 · 06/06/2025 16:39

As others have said, he’s a fucking idiot 😡
Either he’s doing it deliberately so that you don’t let him do it again and he gets out of it = fucking idiot. OR he doesn’t care at all about the health and needs of his daughter = fucking idiot. 😡
I’d be upset and furious.

Supperlite · 06/06/2025 16:37

CharmingDryad · 06/06/2025 16:13

The baby is 5 months old. I took over making all bottles about a month ago when I saw his “method” of doing it. I yelled at him, but he refused to change. I’m frustrated because there are still rare times when I’m not around and he needs to make a bottle himself. I’m showing him the comments on this thread as a wake up call!

Honestly this is close to being enough for me to kick him out. He is risking the baby’s health for the sake of his own (obviously misplaced!) ego. What an absolute moron. You shouldn’t have to do this basic work for him. You should be able to trust him to do his best to make sure your child is properly fed and doesn’t end up fcking poisoned. Wnker.

Teenybub · 06/06/2025 16:37

CharmingDryad · 06/06/2025 16:13

The baby is 5 months old. I took over making all bottles about a month ago when I saw his “method” of doing it. I yelled at him, but he refused to change. I’m frustrated because there are still rare times when I’m not around and he needs to make a bottle himself. I’m showing him the comments on this thread as a wake up call!

It’s not cooking. The fact he has compared it to cooking suggests he’s shite at that too.

Walker1178 · 06/06/2025 16:36

Er yeah, it’s not quite the same as cooking though is it? I’m happy to freestyle a recipe to my taste but if a meal needed to contain exact nutritional content for its amount you just need to follow the damn instructions! He’s got to mix it right otherwise it won’t meet babies needs

millymoo1202 · 06/06/2025 16:36

What a poor excuse of a father is this the same one that put his crying baby in a dark room?!!

ThreeLocusts · 06/06/2025 16:36

Just to echo the point that no, this is NOT 'cooking'. It's akin to lab work and exactitude matters with a such a tiny creature. And yes, none of this should need saying to the baby's father.

I'm sorry he's being a dick - strategic incompetence is bad enough, but applying it to a situation where his baby's health is at stake just stinks. Here's hoping this was a massive brain fart/spectacular show of ignorance on his part and he sees the error of his ways right speedily now.

Tagyoureit · 06/06/2025 16:36

Weaponised incompetent with a cunty twist!!

He's being a massive dick!

TomatoSandwiches · 06/06/2025 16:36

I think the issue is that he would rather be found incapable/incompetent of a womans job and get out of doing it than be a competent emotionally mature adult that is now a father.

He's a misogynistic piece of shit that doesn't deserve to have a child.

Pathetic, I don't know how you'll find any way to respect him after this op or the will to fuck him.

raspberrieswithchocolate · 06/06/2025 16:35

CharmingDryad · 06/06/2025 16:33

Thanks MN for all these scathing comments. He has been an idiot. Ironically he has three graduate degrees and teaches at a law school! I’ve read the comments to him, and he’s now admitted he was wrong and promised to measure properly from now on. Win!

Glad he's seen sense

amberisola · 06/06/2025 16:35

It's not exactly difficult is it. Can he tie his own shoelaces? Wipe his backside? Or is that beyond him as well.

Let me guess... he's behaving like he's incapable of measuring a bottle because he believes it's not his job.

ScunneredWife · 06/06/2025 16:35

He sounds like an insufferable twat. Is he this arrogant and obnoxious about everything?

Pallisers · 06/06/2025 16:34

And tell him to count the scoops out loud as he puts them in - it is easy to lose track. I do this with my coffee scoops too.

Still agape at comparing making formula to cooking. Like the clue is in the name formula.

raspberrieswithchocolate · 06/06/2025 16:34

It's shocking that he's being so careless with his child's health.
I'm glad you're showing him the comments OP, he really needs to take this seriously. Get him to read the serious issues that could possibly affect your baby if he just continues to take rough guesses.

Cakeandusername · 06/06/2025 16:34

It’s your baby’s sole source of nourishment it needs to be correct. If she has d & v issues etc you won’t know if it’s a bug or due to slapdash formula making up.
Not being able to safely feed your child is a safeguarding issue.

jljlj · 06/06/2025 16:33

Mind blowing arrogance and stupidity from him. Is he thick?

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CharmingDryad · 06/06/2025 16:33

Thanks MN for all these scathing comments. He has been an idiot. Ironically he has three graduate degrees and teaches at a law school! I’ve read the comments to him, and he’s now admitted he was wrong and promised to measure properly from now on. Win!

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ForZanyAquaViewer · 06/06/2025 16:33

CharmingDryad · 06/06/2025 16:30

I asked him about his eyesight now and he says that’s not the issue.

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So, what is the issue? What’s his justification for endangering your baby in this way? I assume you’ve asked? As ‘that’s not how cooking works’ isn’t really an explanation.

Renamed · 06/06/2025 16:31

Fuckwit

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CharmingDryad · 06/06/2025 16:30

Todayisaday · 06/06/2025 16:22

We got the machine, could that be an answer to his incompetence? You can also lremake bottles and refridgerate. Also the cartons are good.
We used them for other reasons other than one of us couldnt understand the measurements :(
I wonder if his eyesight is deteriorating and he isnt addressing it.
My huaband refused to get glasses until age 45 then had an eye test and turned out he needed really strong readers.
Its the only explanation that would make sense.
Request he gets an eye test as he is clearly unable to see a black line on a bottle.

I asked him about his eyesight now and he says that’s not the issue.

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MassiveWordSalad · 06/06/2025 16:30

Tell him I said strategic incompetence is a cunt’s trick really unattractive😇

Ihavedecided · 06/06/2025 16:29

CharmingDryad · 06/06/2025 16:13

The baby is 5 months old. I took over making all bottles about a month ago when I saw his “method” of doing it. I yelled at him, but he refused to change. I’m frustrated because there are still rare times when I’m not around and he needs to make a bottle himself. I’m showing him the comments on this thread as a wake up call!

Show him this. You’re a moron who shouldn’t have had children.

He’s clearly not mature enough to be responsible for another human.

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CharmingDryad · 06/06/2025 16:29

Pallisers · 06/06/2025 16:26

What a fool. He is not "cooking" - what the fuck? Will he be throwing in a dash of turmeric for colour and salt for taste next?

He needs to make the formula as directed - otherwise it could be dangerous for your baby.

I'd lose a lot of respect for him if he said/did this.

Right?? Thank you.

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allthemiddlechildrenoftheworld · 06/06/2025 16:29

@CharmingDryad sorry but is he actually able to read??? very suspicious!! maybe you should pre-make them and he just has to hear them up