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To never tell partner I love him?

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Takinitgottobserd · 06/06/2025 14:51

Is it weird? I have never told him I love him, and he's never told me he loves me. I do love him, completely. My parents never told me they loved me growing up, and I never told them, but there was absolutely no doubt that we all did.

I spoke to him yesterday and a friend commented that she always told her DH she loved him every time she said bye, and did I not do the same. I said I’d never said it and nor had my DP, and she found it mind blowing.

Is it that strange?

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Fingerpie · 06/06/2025 15:17

Live together?
plan to have a family together?
Already have children together?!

FoodAppropriation · 06/06/2025 15:16

As long as you are both happy and it works for you, does it really matter?

I think it's nice to hear, but that's just me. Actions matter too.
It's important to let your kids know, but between adults? Up to you.

Fingerpie · 06/06/2025 15:16

My parents never told me they loved me growing up, and I never told them,

surely you know that that is certainly not “normal”?

Do you have children yet op?

KierEagan · 06/06/2025 15:14

TheFatCatsWhiskers1 · 06/06/2025 14:58

It's fine. I've never liked saying it. I think feeling loved/making someone feel loved is more important.

Why does it have to be one or the other?

ThatChirpySheep · 06/06/2025 15:06

Takinitgottobserd · 06/06/2025 15:00

Five years.

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Clearly you have made it this far to be together 5 years and I’m presuming you are happy? I think it’s weird to other couples but they aren’t you and your partner.

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Takinitgottobserd · 06/06/2025 15:01

TheFatCatsWhiskers1 · 06/06/2025 14:58

It's fine. I've never liked saying it. I think feeling loved/making someone feel loved is more important.

This is exactly what I think. The words can be said by anyone. It’s the actions that count.

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Takinitgottobserd · 06/06/2025 15:00

ThatChirpySheep · 06/06/2025 14:58

How long have you been together?

Five years.

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TheFatCatsWhiskers1 · 06/06/2025 14:58

It's fine. I've never liked saying it. I think feeling loved/making someone feel loved is more important.

ThatChirpySheep · 06/06/2025 14:58

How long have you been together?

Cardinalita90 · 06/06/2025 14:56

I think it's unusual to have never told your partner you love them (or vice versa) but personally I don't say it all the time either in relationships. I don't want it to become white noise and for me, it becomes that if it"s said too often.

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