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DH fascinating over my tablets

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NotSoSlimShadee · 06/06/2025 14:37

I have an inner ear infection, DH reckons he does too - which ironically came on after I told him my symptoms. I went to GP Wednesday and have been given antibiotics. Ever since, DH has been sniffing around my tablets, keeps asking to share them but I’ve told him I need them all as I have to finish the course! Last night I went to take my dose and they were missing - I found them in a shoe (accidentally as dog just happened to pick that shoe up to carry around). DH reckons he doesn’t know how they got there. This morning I woke up with a bad stomach, DH says it’s the tablets causing it and I should stop taking them - he basically just wants to get his hands on them. Lunch time they were missing again (found in a random cupboard). AIBU to be furious at his behaviour?? He did this last time with my sinus spray.

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WeHaveTheRabbit · 06/06/2025 15:49

Has anyone thrown wine at the wall recently? Do you know Sharon, by any chance?

Sorry if this thread is meant seriously, I was just reminded of MN threads from days of yore.

LadyBracknellsHandbagg · 06/06/2025 15:47

JustAnInchident · 06/06/2025 15:02

I don’t think that matters much does it?

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Because who’s mother it is is the real issue 😂😂

honeylulu · 06/06/2025 15:46

This is so weird. At first I thought he was someone who is always "competitively ill" which seems to afflict a lot of men but the hiding your tablets (i won't even start on the beans) is just so odd and makes no sense.

Antibiotics for someone else might not be necessary or the right type and in any case the person needing them (whether him, you or both) needs to take the whole course. "Sharing" a course isn't an option.

Maybe it's like the beans and it's just something he's fixated on and is jealous of anyone else having them. So weird. The fact that the doctor has refused to prescribe them in the past suggests he has demanded them often for flimsy reasons. I'm sure the doc wouldn't refuse to prescribe them if they were really needed.

I hate to say this as it shouldn't be necessary but I think you should hide your pills from him. When you found them had he taken any out?

ManchesterLu · 06/06/2025 15:46

Sorry but he need psychological help about this. What use would your antibiotics be to anyone? Plus the fact that whatever is left isn't even a full course!

LadyBracknellsHandbagg · 06/06/2025 15:45

NotSoSlimShadee · 06/06/2025 14:53

He’s obsessed with antibiotics and I’m pretty sure he hoards them. Same with beans. His mother is forever complaining of beans going missing from her cupboards

Have I just arrived in some sort of twilight zone? WTAF is this about? 😂😂

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Swimminginthedeepbluesky · 06/06/2025 15:44

It sounds like either extreme health anxiety or he has a form of OCD
He needs to access support

Yellowboat · 06/06/2025 15:44

NotSoSlimShadee · 06/06/2025 14:37

I have an inner ear infection, DH reckons he does too - which ironically came on after I told him my symptoms. I went to GP Wednesday and have been given antibiotics. Ever since, DH has been sniffing around my tablets, keeps asking to share them but I’ve told him I need them all as I have to finish the course! Last night I went to take my dose and they were missing - I found them in a shoe (accidentally as dog just happened to pick that shoe up to carry around). DH reckons he doesn’t know how they got there. This morning I woke up with a bad stomach, DH says it’s the tablets causing it and I should stop taking them - he basically just wants to get his hands on them. Lunch time they were missing again (found in a random cupboard). AIBU to be furious at his behaviour?? He did this last time with my sinus spray.

This is amazing! I am actually crying with laughter.

Kay00 · 06/06/2025 15:44

I'm going to go out on a limb here and ask if he's hording these things for an apocalyptic or nuclear war? That's the only reason that beans and antibiotics makes sense.

You said he's hording meds, does he have a lot hanging around the house? Is he pestering the GP for them frequently?

MelliC · 06/06/2025 15:43

I don't think this is a quirk or weird. I think this is someone who doesn't really care bout you and doesn't care that you are ill enough to need pills. Denying someone access to their medicine is a violation of their rights and potential abuse/neglect.
Do you really want to hitch your wagon to someone like this for life? When you could find a partner who felt bad you were ill, looked after you and recognised it it was their duty to help you back to health again? What if you really did get very ill?

Mansionscoldandgrey · 06/06/2025 15:42

There once was a man, who for kicks
Stole his wife's antibiotics
When she said he was mean
He nicked all her beans
And pretended to be very sick

Sugargliderwombat · 06/06/2025 15:41

MounjaroMounjaro · 06/06/2025 15:38

OP, have you seen the thread on here about the man who wanted his partner's cancer appointment?

Wtf!

Sugargliderwombat · 06/06/2025 15:40

He sounds really weird. You sound weirdly casual about it, too!

NiftyPrawn · 06/06/2025 15:40

NiftyPrawn · 06/06/2025 15:39

So to me (as a healthcare professional but not a Dr) this says one of two things to me:

Generally these days antibiotics are less freely given out as they have been historically, mainly due to antibiotic resistance issues from years of societal overuse.

orrrrr, and particularly given the descriptions of DH’s behaviour(s)….

He has history on his medical record of requesting antibiotics from the GP for everything and anything. Maybe this stemmed from childhood also due to the beans connection with his mother?

But yeah, definitely hide your tablets. Is he like this with other medicines? Is there enough paracetamol to destroy King Kong’s liver stashed in some weird Bean/Meds pantry?

Get well soon :)

Sorry, this was relating to you saying “he says the GP won’t give him any more antibiotics”. It didn’t quote properly

Rosealine · 06/06/2025 15:40

This post cannot be real

NiftyPrawn · 06/06/2025 15:39

So to me (as a healthcare professional but not a Dr) this says one of two things to me:

Generally these days antibiotics are less freely given out as they have been historically, mainly due to antibiotic resistance issues from years of societal overuse.

orrrrr, and particularly given the descriptions of DH’s behaviour(s)….

He has history on his medical record of requesting antibiotics from the GP for everything and anything. Maybe this stemmed from childhood also due to the beans connection with his mother?

But yeah, definitely hide your tablets. Is he like this with other medicines? Is there enough paracetamol to destroy King Kong’s liver stashed in some weird Bean/Meds pantry?

Get well soon :)

Hkakge · 06/06/2025 15:38

So weird it's almost unbelievable.....

diddl · 06/06/2025 15:38

Dr won’t prescribe him anymore antibiotics apparently

Not even if he needed them?

Well he certainly doesn't need yours!

MounjaroMounjaro · 06/06/2025 15:38

OP, have you seen the thread on here about the man who wanted his partner's cancer appointment?

ConcernedOfClapham · 06/06/2025 15:36

MyDeftDuck · 06/06/2025 15:16

Get a pack of laxatives and tell him they’re antibiotics……..he’ll think twice about ‘inventing’ illness after he’s been shitting through the eye of a needle for a few hours!

Oh you do have a way with words, MyDeftDuck 😅

Kathbrownlow · 06/06/2025 15:35

Another saying that he really is not right in the head.

grizzlyoldbear · 06/06/2025 15:33

Sounds like co-dependency. As soon as you get ill, he gets 'ill' because he doesn't want you to be seperate. Is he like a toddler in other ways?

TokyoSushi · 06/06/2025 15:33

I came on to say this this is very weird behaviour, but I can see that it's already been said! Grin

Bigcat25 · 06/06/2025 15:31

I would dump him. He's putting his own wellbeing over your own and being sneaky/dishonest.

AlwaysFreezing · 06/06/2025 15:29

Don't tell him that my local Chinese supermarket sells antibiotics behind the counter.

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