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DH fascinating over my tablets

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NotSoSlimShadee · 06/06/2025 14:37

I have an inner ear infection, DH reckons he does too - which ironically came on after I told him my symptoms. I went to GP Wednesday and have been given antibiotics. Ever since, DH has been sniffing around my tablets, keeps asking to share them but I’ve told him I need them all as I have to finish the course! Last night I went to take my dose and they were missing - I found them in a shoe (accidentally as dog just happened to pick that shoe up to carry around). DH reckons he doesn’t know how they got there. This morning I woke up with a bad stomach, DH says it’s the tablets causing it and I should stop taking them - he basically just wants to get his hands on them. Lunch time they were missing again (found in a random cupboard). AIBU to be furious at his behaviour?? He did this last time with my sinus spray.

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SoMauveMonty · 06/06/2025 16:12

Username532687 · 06/06/2025 16:08

My husband has always been like this too. Whenever we get the flu/a cold, all the relevant medicines I purchased go missing from the shared cupboard. He grabs whole packets of cough sweets, paracetamol, vitamin c drinks and locks then in his personal cupboard where I can't access them. It's annoying because I've prepared ahead and was happy to share, but instead I get nothing when I actually need them.

Also, when I had a blocked ear for several months and finally had it syringed, he was excited to go and get his own ears syringed even though he could hear fine. The nurse told him his ears were fine after examining them, but put him on the scales and told him he was overweight which upset him.

Christ alive, what a selfish man.
Well two can play at that game, you need a lockable personal cupboard, too.
What is it with these bloody men?!

DaisyChain505 · 06/06/2025 16:12

Really bizarre. Does he steal the tablets/beans to use them or just to keep?

And where does he keep them? Does he come home from his mums and just pop it straight into the kitchen cupboard or does he scurry off to bury them in the garden?

Myrobalanna · 06/06/2025 16:10

Username532687 · 06/06/2025 16:08

My husband has always been like this too. Whenever we get the flu/a cold, all the relevant medicines I purchased go missing from the shared cupboard. He grabs whole packets of cough sweets, paracetamol, vitamin c drinks and locks then in his personal cupboard where I can't access them. It's annoying because I've prepared ahead and was happy to share, but instead I get nothing when I actually need them.

Also, when I had a blocked ear for several months and finally had it syringed, he was excited to go and get his own ears syringed even though he could hear fine. The nurse told him his ears were fine after examining them, but put him on the scales and told him he was overweight which upset him.

This is weird and awful!

Cucy · 06/06/2025 16:10

Bigcat25 · 06/06/2025 16:08

I'm sorry I shouldn't have suggested dumping - I missed one of your posts. If this is some type of ocd thing I would try and address that or find the root of the problem.

If my partner stole off of me or was moving my things and then gaslighting me into thinking I was going mad, then I would absolutely dump him.

FancyAnxiety · 06/06/2025 16:10

WTF did I just read.

Dors he know about antibiotic resistance?!?! No one should be taking them so casually.

Cucy · 06/06/2025 16:09

NotSoSlimShadee · 06/06/2025 15:01

Dr won’t prescribe him anymore antibiotics apparently

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This is a massive red flag!!

I thought he was just jealous that you’re getting some attention but if the doctor won’t prescribe him antibiotics then he’s obviously got much bigger issues.

Does he have an addiction to medication or does he just like to steal things?

Bigcat25 · 06/06/2025 16:08

I'm sorry I shouldn't have suggested dumping - I missed one of your posts. If this is some type of ocd thing I would try and address that or find the root of the problem.

MissDoubleU · 06/06/2025 16:08

So your husband is tampering with and hiding your prescribed medication? Alongside this he obsessively wants non prescribed medications for himself - to the detriment of your own health?

I think you need to sit him down and have a serious discussion about why this extremely worrying behaviour exists. Failing that, make an appointment together for the doctors to discuss why they refuse to prescribe him any more and what the history is surrounding this, as well as noting that his issues go so deeply as to actively sabotage your own medical needs.

itgetsthehoseagain · 06/06/2025 16:08

YouCantArgueWithStupid2025 · 06/06/2025 16:02

Sounds like he's preparing for a zombie apocalypse and all will be fine because he's stashed away enough antibiotics and baked beans 🤯

I did that once.

Username532687 · 06/06/2025 16:08

My husband has always been like this too. Whenever we get the flu/a cold, all the relevant medicines I purchased go missing from the shared cupboard. He grabs whole packets of cough sweets, paracetamol, vitamin c drinks and locks then in his personal cupboard where I can't access them. It's annoying because I've prepared ahead and was happy to share, but instead I get nothing when I actually need them.

Also, when I had a blocked ear for several months and finally had it syringed, he was excited to go and get his own ears syringed even though he could hear fine. The nurse told him his ears were fine after examining them, but put him on the scales and told him he was overweight which upset him.

Todayisaday · 06/06/2025 16:07

This is really odd. Is he usually weird?

SoMauveMonty · 06/06/2025 16:07

YouCantArgueWithStupid2025 · 06/06/2025 16:02

Sounds like he's preparing for a zombie apocalypse and all will be fine because he's stashed away enough antibiotics and baked beans 🤯

And hopefully lots of toilet roll and air freshener

SoMauveMonty · 06/06/2025 16:06

As someone who's had an inner ear infection that led to a debilitating dose of vertigo i'd kneecap any bugger who hid my medication.
Why he's doing it only he can say, but i'd be finding a lockable place (suitcase or cash tin?) to keep them in until you've finished the course.

springintoaction321 · 06/06/2025 16:06

Mumofsoontobe3 · 06/06/2025 15:05

Is this not a wind up? He steals baked beans and hoards them? Own brand is 23p in Tesco. What is his reasoning for hoarding baked beans? The antibiotics one is weird and very alarming.

🤣🤣🤣of course it is.

YouCantArgueWithStupid2025 · 06/06/2025 16:02

Sounds like he's preparing for a zombie apocalypse and all will be fine because he's stashed away enough antibiotics and baked beans 🤯

Myrobalanna · 06/06/2025 16:01

Beans and pills/capsules are kind of similar in size and feel. Is there anything else that sets him off? Beads? Shiny little pebbles?

ShuffleHopStepForgetStep · 06/06/2025 16:00

Either he is as mad as a bag of badgers, or you are. If you are not having us on, then he has a real problem, and you have a real husband problem.

HoldmecloseTonyDanza · 06/06/2025 15:59

HoldmecloseTonyDanza · 06/06/2025 15:12

Can I ask please... because I can't get my head around this... is he stealing/hiding your antibiotics so he can take them? Or just do you can't?

And why the baked beans? Really what are his motives? Same question... does he eat them or just hoard them?

Edited

You did say he hoards them, I apologise I missed that.

But I still don't get.... WHY???? Have you never asked him?

DontAskMeImLostToo · 06/06/2025 15:58

RocketPanda · 06/06/2025 14:55

This is so weird. Hide your medication.

And the beans 😆

raspberrieswithchocolate · 06/06/2025 15:58

Your Dh's behaviour is so strange OP!
Not at all normal, is he open to talking this through with a professional to find out the reason why he does this?

You need to finish the course so keep your antibiotics with you at all times, even during the night.

Hoogey · 06/06/2025 15:56

Give him some laxitives

Munchyseeds2 · 06/06/2025 15:55

He has some very odd issues and I would be hiding my medication!

DaisyDukesAuntie · 06/06/2025 15:55

yeesh · 06/06/2025 14:43

This is one of the strangest things I’ve ever read on here.

This exactly!

MonTuesWeds · 06/06/2025 15:55

Is that so?

Hmm.

MsFelicityLemon · 06/06/2025 15:53

The baked bean hoarding is obsessive behaviour, but not one that is detrimental. However stealing your antibiotics seems quite pernicious. His obsession is so great he does care of the harm he causes you.

This is not something to live with as of it was harmless.

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