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DH fascinating over my tablets

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NotSoSlimShadee · 06/06/2025 14:37

I have an inner ear infection, DH reckons he does too - which ironically came on after I told him my symptoms. I went to GP Wednesday and have been given antibiotics. Ever since, DH has been sniffing around my tablets, keeps asking to share them but I’ve told him I need them all as I have to finish the course! Last night I went to take my dose and they were missing - I found them in a shoe (accidentally as dog just happened to pick that shoe up to carry around). DH reckons he doesn’t know how they got there. This morning I woke up with a bad stomach, DH says it’s the tablets causing it and I should stop taking them - he basically just wants to get his hands on them. Lunch time they were missing again (found in a random cupboard). AIBU to be furious at his behaviour?? He did this last time with my sinus spray.

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MyRootinTootinBaby · 07/06/2025 19:05

Hide them from him. This is so very bizzare. Have you not asked him why he’s moving them or why he’s obsessed with them?

proximalhumerous · 06/06/2025 21:42

Is this like a weird phobia (trypophobia, for example) but in reverse?

I can't believe he does things that are as extreme as this, yet in all other respects behaves normally.

JohnTheRevelator · 06/06/2025 19:46

How odd. I had an ex who used to do something similar. I take 2 tablets for hypertension and he frequently asked if he could take them! Of course I said no way. It was very strange because this was the same man who refused point blank to take paracetamol when he had a headache, saying he didn't want to poison his body then sat drinking 4 cans of extra strength lager

Sansan18 · 06/06/2025 19:42

NotSoSlimShadee · 06/06/2025 14:56

Yes, bakes beans

hes lovely otherwise - it’s just this bloody obsession he has that drives me mad

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Is he called Jack?

Bigcat25 · 06/06/2025 19:40

Cucy · 06/06/2025 16:10

If my partner stole off of me or was moving my things and then gaslighting me into thinking I was going mad, then I would absolutely dump him.

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I guess I would want to see if he has as mental health condition like OCD as op said he was otherwise lovely.

I hear you though, I have a low tolerance for lying or untrustworthy behavior.

AllProperTeaIsTheft · 06/06/2025 19:36

Your husband sounds like a very, VERY strange man. You are clearly bothered by the hiding of your antibiotics, but seem oddly unbothered by his weirdness. I find it hard to believe this is real tbh.

CrushingOnRubies · 06/06/2025 19:32

don’t tell him that people who don’t have a spleen are prescribed prophylactic antibiotics for life.

this is one of the most bizarre things I’ve heard on mumsnet.

wwyd2021medicine · 06/06/2025 19:32

DD reckons he's a doomsday prepper as those are probably 2 of the most useful things

Lotsofsnacks · 06/06/2025 19:14

Anyone else worried the dog could have eaten the antibiotics?!!

OP if you knew about his tablet obsession, why didn’t you hide them in your car, or somewhere he can’t get at them. Are any still missing or have you managed to take the full course?

He’s got ocd or health anxiety, or both!! I can’t believe how casual you announced that he steals beans, like it’s normal?!

thenightsky · 06/06/2025 19:02

Summertimealready · 06/06/2025 14:45

Your thread has reminded me of one of the distressing ones from a few years ago where the OP's partner used to steal her medication - for a serious condition- because he had a drugs habit. He left her in pain and didn't care.

I would find your H's behaviour weird and extremely selfish. He obviously doesn't care about your health and wellbeing.

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I remember that one!

Nanny0gg · 06/06/2025 18:40

NotSoSlimShadee · 06/06/2025 15:02

His mother, not mine

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Oh come on, you know this is seriously weird

Had he taken any tablets?

What did you say to him?

Ellie56 · 06/06/2025 18:28

caramac04 · 06/06/2025 15:18

I want the laughing emoji
(misses the point of thread)

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There is this one.
Grin

dawngreen · 06/06/2025 18:25

I don't see the funny side really of it. What if a child or the dog eats some pills that he dropped. What if you needed pills that could cause harm if taken wrongly?

dawngreen · 06/06/2025 18:21

Has he got a drug addiction??

Thepossibility · 06/06/2025 18:11

Does he has a special room for his pills and beans? Or do they just... disappear?

Figsaregood · 06/06/2025 18:05

Kay00 · 06/06/2025 15:44

I'm going to go out on a limb here and ask if he's hording these things for an apocalyptic or nuclear war? That's the only reason that beans and antibiotics makes sense.

You said he's hording meds, does he have a lot hanging around the house? Is he pestering the GP for them frequently?

If he was hoarding for a nuclear war I would expect him to be hoarding iodine tablets ! 😂

dentalflosser · 06/06/2025 18:02

Sorry, come back again to comment that if DH hoards antibiotics and claims he also has an ear infection then he’s got plenty of antibiotics to choose from.
OP, where does he keep his stash? Is it hiding in a pair of wellies?
But I was concerned about your upset stomach, yes it could have been the antibiotics but it could have been something else causing it in the hope you would stop taking them so your DH can take them for his collection.
My DH can be competitive when it comes to illness. I had a vile winter vomiting bug once and I was so ill. Sanitised the bathroom each time I used it but DC (bug distribution manager) was also barfing and DH didn’t sanitise after being near DC. So now DH has the bug too.
I said I had lost half a stone (yay!) as I couldn’t keep anything down for 48 hours and was dehydrated. DH said “I’ve lost A STONE!”
So I weighed myself in front of him, then weighed him. He had lost one pound and then said he’d eaten a large meal earlier. It was not half a bison, it was toast and soup. Hardly nearly a stone in weight…🙄

TheSilentSister · 06/06/2025 18:00

I had an exDH who used to hide my things and then be the one to announce he'd found them, always in bizarre places. Had lectures about how I should be more careful. After we split, I no longer 'lost' things. Penny dropped. I've no idea why he did it as he wasn't controlling in the slightest (apart from that).
OP - I'd hide your medication up and take a photo on your phone of where it is.

SD1978 · 06/06/2025 18:00

You need to out them in a safe place where he doesn’t know they are. Stealing half packets of antibiotics is sodding ridiculous.

Mygosh · 06/06/2025 17:52

Are you married to my brother? He has baked beans with Christmas dinner 😂

Very bizarre why your dh wants antibiotics. Does he have mental health problems?

PomeloOud · 06/06/2025 17:51

I believed it until the baked beans bit 😂

Wildewheat · 06/06/2025 17:51

OP I think you’re under reacting to this. I know the internet is full of “LTB” and for most of us this is a really odd thread we will hopefully one day forget but for you it’s your actual life. I do get it’s not that easy.

That said, this is way beyond an annoying quirk. He’s obsessed with antibiotics and keeps trying to take yours to the point you might have to hide them? My DH has his fair share of weird stuff that a lot of people wouldn’t want to deal with but this so so far beyond normal that I cannot envision having to deal with this from a partner.

Barnbrack · 06/06/2025 17:45

NotSoSlimShadee · 06/06/2025 15:02

His mother, not mine

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He needs counselling, something is wrong here

KarolKickie · 06/06/2025 17:43

from his mother

KarolKickie · 06/06/2025 17:43

and OP wins the new Mumsnet prize 'WEIRD DP OF THE DAY' award for her DH who steals antibiotics and baked beans.