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to think it is polite to ask first?

137 replies

Brownthosebrownonionsbrown · 06/06/2025 09:03

Fuming

BF (few months relationship) invited me over to his for a meal, home made thai curry, so far so good. He plated it up in the kitchen and brought the food to me with all of the curry and sauce on top of the rice, when I like to have them side by side and have some clean rice as a palate cleanser.

Its just good manners and basic rice etiquette to ask first. I cannot believe I was dating such a neanderthal. He even tried to gas light me, saying that it doesn't make any difference and basically trying to invalidate my feelings and lived experience.

Eugh men

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deadpantrashcan · 06/06/2025 11:55

Sorry, but when I read “Fuming,” I was… not expecting this 😂😂😂

ApolloandDaphne · 06/06/2025 11:52

I would be ecstatic if someone had made me Thai curry and wouldn't care where the rice was on the plate!

ChocolateGanache · 06/06/2025 11:52

LTB

BobbyBiscuits · 06/06/2025 11:50

Some clean rice as a palate cleanser?! That sounds deeply bizarre to me. And surely some of the rice didn't have sauce on it?
I bet he'll think twice before cooking for you again!
I wouldn't care tbh.

Viviennemary · 06/06/2025 11:50

You sound like an overfussy entitled pain in the neck. If a man complained about how his food was served he would be rightly lambasted.

MoominMai · 06/06/2025 11:47

Todayisaday · 06/06/2025 10:31

Oh 😂I thought we had reached new levels of insanity.

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😁

Richiewoo · 06/06/2025 10:56

You need to get a life.

RafaelBarba · 06/06/2025 10:47

Palate cleanser?

wtf, are you Hyacinth Bucket??😂

Jellycatspyjamas · 06/06/2025 10:44

Totally agree @Brownthosebrownonionsbrown apart from anything else the curry and rice were touching on the same plate. I think you need to LTB.

MidnightPatrol · 06/06/2025 10:37

How do you cope in restaurants?

Todayisaday · 06/06/2025 10:31

MoominMai · 06/06/2025 10:22

It’s a joke thread.

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Oh 😂I thought we had reached new levels of insanity.

MoominMai · 06/06/2025 10:22

Todayisaday · 06/06/2025 09:46

And you wrote a post becuase you are fuming someone lovingly cooked you a meal and put the curry on top of the rice😂
Have a word with yourself and think about why you might be single. Maybe you are better off being single if you have such uncompromising standards.
In relationahips you have to compromise and do some things in the way your partner might like to do them, as do they. It's about learning to form a partnership, not railroading your exacting standards over another person.

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It’s a joke thread.

Todayisaday · 06/06/2025 09:46

And you wrote a post becuase you are fuming someone lovingly cooked you a meal and put the curry on top of the rice😂
Have a word with yourself and think about why you might be single. Maybe you are better off being single if you have such uncompromising standards.
In relationahips you have to compromise and do some things in the way your partner might like to do them, as do they. It's about learning to form a partnership, not railroading your exacting standards over another person.

FOJN · 06/06/2025 09:37

Garibald · 06/06/2025 09:07

I think OP is being slightly tongue in cheek, you can lower the pitchforks.

But then the bored and indignant won't have a pile on to entertain them this morning.

Top marks for shoe horning "lived experience" in there and I do appreciate the new term rice etiquette .

I'm with you, side by side rice and curry. Educate or throw him back it's savage behaviour. 😄

44PumpLane · 06/06/2025 09:37

I appreciate you're being tongue in cheek OP but I genuinely hate when people do this (like you I know it's a ME issue), so you have my full sympathy!!! 😀

WomenInSTEM · 06/06/2025 09:37

'trying to invalidate my feelings and lived experience.'

If this is real you need help.

Didshejustsaythatoutloud · 06/06/2025 09:37

Ewwww, dry rice, I'm afraid you are the neanderthal here op, 😂

Arghgerroffyabastard · 06/06/2025 09:35

What an absolute prick. Jesus, you’re SO not being unreasonable.

I would have thrown it into his face and kicked his cat on the way out. Arsehole. Him and his cat.

Topplantpot · 06/06/2025 09:32

😂I assume.

Tollington · 06/06/2025 09:32

Some people have got too much time on their hands

sheknowsitstoolate · 06/06/2025 09:29

🥱

TipsyRaven247 · 06/06/2025 09:27

Not sure if you are trolling or just outright obnoxious.
I will give you the benefit of the doubt and congratulate you for the elaborated bait. Surely nobody is so insufferable in real life.

SoScarletItWas · 06/06/2025 09:15

Review his restaurant on TripAdvisor.

DaisyChain505 · 06/06/2025 09:14

Surely this is a rage baiting post? Otherwise you’re an entitled ungrateful person.

DoYouReally · 06/06/2025 09:14

Don't worry he'll dump you for your craziness or poor sense of humour - not sure which!