Today I sent a venting msg about a work colleague to the colleague

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coffeegirl73 · 05/06/2025 22:44

Yep that’s what I did. Have a bit of a banter going with pal at work - the same person annoys us both. I actually hate myself for being drawn into venting I’ve been trying so hard to “rise above it all” but she was getting to me today. I sent a message to my pal but of course it went to this woman by mistake. She saw it before I could delete it. I messaged her saying that was a private msg and I’m sorry she saw it but it wasn’t about her - she just replied ok. I feel like such a shit. I really hope she isn’t hurt - I probably would be I know. Lesson learnt though. Anyone else done anything loke
this . Don’t be too hard on me I know it was immature and juvenile of me to even send a msg at all . Feel terrible

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ThatRareHazelTiger · 05/06/2025 23:39

A bit of banter going!! This sounds like bullying op. You should be ashamed. You don’t know what bullying does to people.
please resolve your issues with this person in a grown up manner.

suki1964 · 05/06/2025 23:32

TBH I hope she rises a greivance

Its a place of work

CandyCane457 · 05/06/2025 23:28

Oh OP we’ve all been there and it’s awful isn’t it!

When I was at uni, me and a few friends were organising a girls holiday abroad, but one of the group didn’t have a passport and kept delaying us booking things and saying she wasn’t sure she would be able to get a passport, but her faffing around and dilly dallying was making us miss out on certain deals and generally we just wanted it booked so we could get excited. There was a lot of back and forth and one day I called her to sort of tell her she needed to hurry up and decide, or bow out. I said it all nicely and diplomatically, but following the call I sent a REALLY long text to one of the other girls about how frustrating I was finding it all, it wasn’t fair on us etc etc and she was really starting to piss me off and yep, you guessed it, I sent it to the girl o was talking about, instead of our other friend. So awkward.

WalterMittysPuppet · 05/06/2025 23:14

Ooof I've done it too, I sent an email containing a sarcastic remark about a universally disliked manager, TO the manager by accident. He read it and wrote a scathing response which shamed me to the tips of my toes. I owned it and apologised, and we were fine after that - he said he'd heard a lot worse said about him.

StepAwayFromGoogling · 05/06/2025 23:09

LoudSnoringDog · 05/06/2025 22:45

What did it say? She will know it’s about her if you said “it’s not about you”

This.

Theextraordinaryisintheordinary · 05/06/2025 22:57

Yes. I do it regularly. I sent a private text to the office phone. My colleague had to listen to it in robotic tones. I’m just glad it was one colleague and not another. I also send a childish video message to one of my best pals, but I’d sent it to my work chat. My daughter told me not to worry. She said at least they already know what I’m like and it’s not like I pretend to be serious and then they found out I’m silly. It makes my bum cheeks clench thinking of it. Just style it out. You can do it.x

LoudSnoringDog · 05/06/2025 22:57

JustGiveMeWineNow · 05/06/2025 22:51

oh god OP, was it bad what you said🙈
I always tell my kids never to say anything bad in writing aka text or message. Don’t always follow my own guidelines. I would never Whatapp my mother anything bad as she has form for posting WhatsApp messages accidentally to her Whatapp story🙈🤣

😂😂😂

NoThankYouSis · 05/06/2025 22:54

Aaaaand this is why we don’t bitch at work. Nightmare op, I did this by text message when younger, about a friend rather than a colleague but still remember the awful feeling. Do you think she will take it further, maybe claim bullying etc?

JustGiveMeWineNow · 05/06/2025 22:51

CharlotteSometimes1 · 05/06/2025 22:45

What did you say?

LoudSnoringDog · 05/06/2025 22:45

What did it say? She will know it’s about her if you said “it’s not about you”

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