Husband's sibling booking daughter's christening on my birthday, AIBU to be annoyed?

Or you could ‘grow up’ a week earlier!
Just enjoy both events

Hysterical 😂

Brilliant 😊

This nails it and is also hilarious 🤣.

Anyone over the age of 18 who’s getting this arsey about a birthday is for the watching.

I can imagine the OP arranging her River Island, Pandora and Zara shopping bags on her all grey everywhere bed for an Insta photo with the caption “the boy done good. 🥰” even though she picked all the presents herself.

Just kidding OP! Have a good birthday when it comes.

I don't know, I would be quite pleased to have a big family event on my birthday I think.my little nephew birthday is very close to mine ,so often have had tea and cake at their house .enjoyed it a lot .we normally go out for supper so would do it another night. Usually have a day out nat trust or similar .would do another day thrn. Just lighten up a little and enjoy the spread and cake!

Don’t be grumpy. Go to the Christening, see your family, have dinner out after. Job done.

I can't believe you think your in-laws should factor your birthday into their celebrations. I don't even know my sis in laws birthdate! I'd never even consider being annoyed at something as inconsequential as this, unless you had arranged a big party on that date and they had deliberately chosen the same day to clash with your event. Just go to the Christening and celebrate your birthday the day before or after, or the following weekend.

My DGC have made their first holy communions on my birthday over the last couple of years and we've had parties after with the extended family. It's so lovely to see everyone together. During the day the DGC sang happy birthday, I'm not a birthday princess at all, but this made the day memorable.

Bit dramatic to wait a week. Just go to the christening then on to something to enjoy together that afternoon. Or go out for the day on Saturday if the christening is on Sunday.

Just make sure you wear your big birthday badge to the Christening- make sure everyone knows the day is really about you.

Nobody gives a shit when your birthday is. HTH.

Go to the christening, stay for an hour or two, and be on your way. Or don’t go. Christenings aren’t a big deal and neither is your birthday.

Hahaha!

Beautiful.

I don’t even know when my SIL’s birthday is and certainly wouldn’t arrange my life around it!

You don't get a choice of 365 days in the year for a christening. I'm currently trying to book one and was met with a sucking of teeth over the phone.

Unfortunately this year your birthday falls on one of the available dates. My DC's birthday sometimes falls on mother's day. I don't have a hissy fit about it. What can I do? My grandmother's birthday is on Christmas day and although quietly pissed off about it, she doesn't refuse to celebrate Christmas.

A close relative of my DH didn't come to our wedding because it clashed with a family birthday. Thinking about the number of attendees at a wedding, it would be unusual not to clash with someone's birthday, anniversary or similar. Now that I think back, my uncle and my step grandfather both had their birthdays on my wedding day. They both came, and I gave them both a big birthday kiss on the cheek and a hug.

Their religion has little to do with it, because they are entitled to perform the ceremony as related to their culture; they could have a humanist naming ceremony at home and the date still wouldn't be right for someone.

The age of the child, I'm not sure why you mention it - is it because well, if the child has got to two, they had just as well wait a bit more? This seems churlish on your part.

The fact is they have chosen to invite you. You should be flattered - I have received zero invitations to christenings for even the children of friends I would consider close. At the end of the day, you aren't obliged to go.

A friend recently had their child baptised. Neither parent is practising religious but they are looking to the future and want to guarantee child gets into the best secondary school in their area.

Cry me a river.

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If letting your hair down and "having a blast" is part of a baptism celebration then you are doing it wrong.

There is a nice lunch or tea afterwards.

Its not a wedding or a 18th ffs!

Bloody hell, it's only a ruddy Christening for a non-religious family. Far from a precious experience 😆

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Would you seriously deny your own children the rare and precious experience of an extended family celebration and cultural event with their cousins, aunties, uncles and grandparents? These are milestone events for children to be cherished.

Get all your glad rags on, let your hair down and have a blast!

YANBU

Given that they are not remotely religious, there's no way I'd go on my birthday to watch them vow lie about bringing up their child in the house of God.

Christening your children when you are not remotely religious is hypocritical, and I won't support that, even more so on my birthday!

My relative booked her child's Christening on Christmas Day - with a gathering afterwards, meaning the first half of Christmas Day was gone - selfish cow.

Come on OP. I doubt your birthday was top of your in-laws minds when they picked the date. I know my SIL’s birthday is sometime in November but couldn’t tell you the date. No idea at all when BIL’s is.

Suck it up and enjoy a lovely family day (ignoring the fact they’re not religious, whole different conversation).

One of the best birthdays I’ve had was at someone else’s retirement party. All expenses paid, good food, free bar, lots of people I knew. What’s not to like?