Husband's sibling booking daughter's christening on my birthday, AIBU to be annoyed?

Are you 7?

Caring about your own birthday doesn't automatically make you the main character (you collegue would still be one, though). It's just that you don't plan your own celebrations aroud others' and they do the same, and if any of you wants the other to be there, you say so and see if people are available. There is nothing wrong with celebrating birthdays, I'd say OP isn't being unreasonable here unless she was being nasty to that family.

YANBU, but just don't go as you already have your own plans. They don't have to plan their time around your celebrations but you don't have to do so as well.

Unless it’s a big one I wouldn’t be bothered. But then my sister booked her wedding on my 40th birthday and I got over it

Fair play to you, you took it on the chin!

It really would not be an issue for me. If it was a big birthday fair enough. I guess I wouldn’t even consider not having it on that date if it suited due to a relatives bday. So I don’t think they were unreasonable. If you don’t go as it’s your bday, well I guess they have to suck it up, especially if you want to go away etc. I’d celebrate my bday the weekend after and go to the christening, but bdays don’t mean a lot to me, I usually just go to work.

Of course you shouldn’t go & neither should your husband or any of the family. Go NC. Have a big party for you on the day with jelly & ice cream at a soft play. 🙄

Some adults do. One of my colleagues (we cover each other's duties) was offended because I dared to schedule my vacation days during her birthday/her wedding anniversary/her daughter's graduation etc etc. I just blinked at her because it was so ridiculous. Does she expect me to remember the important dates in her life? (Spoiler: her main character energy is really strong)

The date would have been offered as a suggestion by the church and I bet the sibling, if they remembered that it was your birthday, would have just thought that it would be a lovely thing for you to do on that day. The chances are it didn’t even occur to them when they were making the arrangements. I arranged my husband’s funeral and only afterwards realised it was my daughter’s birthday. She was grown up about it and told me not worry about it.

Why would she think it matters? You are an adult, aren't you?

It’s comments like this that make me annoyed MN took away the laughing emoji react.

im book marking this in my head to use in future 😂😂😂

Yeah my first thought was whether they’d definitely have even remembered your birthday was that day!

Agree with @TY78910

Most likely they had no idea it was your birthday. And as other posters have pointed out there may be limited slots at their church and they picked a date far enough in the future so family members have a decent lead time to arrange their calendars to attend.

Christenings happen in the morning and likely they'll have a small reception after. So, by 1pm you can leave and attend a late lunch at 2pm and celebrate with DH and your kids.

Or you could wrangle the grandparents into babysitting and leave to have lunch with DH and swing by to pick up the kids who would have had a fun afternoon with grandparents.

Be gracious and enjoy your day with family. Happy birthday in advance OP!

I think you’re being unreasonable to expect your in laws to take your birthday into account, if they’ve even remembered that it’s the same date, but I also don’t understand why they are having their child christened if they are not religious.

It’s ok you can take your balloon and attach it to a sash and wear that to the christening . Maybe you can ask if you can blow out the candles on the cake .

God who gives a shit

You are a silly billy! Celebrate your birthday another day

Yes. Your birthday is surely not that big a deal unless you're a kid or maybe if you're 50. Honestly, I've never heard the like. The Christening is a far bigger occasion than the average birthday, I doubt that was even thought of.

Grow up.

Could the two events not be combined?

After the Christening, the congregation could all sing 'Happy Birthday' and then give you 'the bumps'.

I agree. Going non-contact will solve any and all problems involving other human beings. Bin them all off!

My SIL is lovely but honestly I’m not sure when her birthday is. I could easily book something on the date without realising. DB normally texts me a few weeks before but then it does go straight out my head again. I doubt it’s been done in malice, just go and do your birthday a different weekend?

I would be honoured to have a special event like a Christening of my niece on my birthday. Celebrate!!

Even if it were your 21st Birthday, surely you would be celebrating that on the Saturday night of the same weekend.
You could go out with your kids the day before, with your husband the night before (until at least 12 midnight!) and sleep in, sleeping off your hang over until the latest time before dressing up for a sweet family Christening.

Personally, I would forget about my birthday and focus on my niece. Not many adults I know would be miffed about this.

Haha I had a work ‘friend’ refusing to come to my wedding because it was her birthday - she was mid/30s at the time - pathetic really.

Yeah, where has it gone and why?