Cancelling the kids plans because he's thrown a wobbler, aibu?

Could the cancelling and being all shifty in the street mean something else? Like he’s seeing someone else from work?
Doesn’t matter anyway now I guess.
What an odd and rude idiot he is.
Onward and upward op.

Go without him and also get rid of him

‘You were warned’
‘You went running back for more’

Thats not helping, that’s sticking the boot in and making out it’s somehow her fault that he’s behaved in such a childish, horrible manner.

The only thing that triggers me is people being needlessly unpleasant towards someone who is already shocked and upset.

Op, he didn’t want to go. He entirely engineered that ‘row’ to ensure the weekend is off. Then he can blame you for insisting (You haven’t) he will paint this as a terrible toll on him, and you are making things harder. Be ready for this op.

All along he wanted a kid free weekend doing what exactly what he wants. He does not even care about his own children, he definitely couldn’t care less about your children!

Thank your lucky stars, as sad as you must be, that you found out now and can safely and easily extract yourselves. Your children are unscathed. They are unharmed. His sadly won’t have the same outcome.

He has lost respect for you, he has lost interest mainly in pretending to be a decent person, he can’t keep up the façade any longer - his mask has slipped, and what you are seeing now is precisely who he is.

He is making you seem persistent, a bunny boiler type - he has built up an entire story around this to avoid shouldering any guilt.

I know you will be disappointed and hurt, confused and blindsided, you will have mapped out a whole future with him by now - but please for the love of God see this for the heaven sent gift that it is, in the long run you will see it like that too.

Oh yeah, that would be me done too. I'd just block and move on now without any other discussion.

I wouldn't have tolerated that shit at 14 from a teenage boy, and I certainly don't as an adult. You've done the right thing, OP.

You bore off.!
It’s always easier to look in that’s why people post for perspective.

Gloaty definitely not. Rather trying to save another women putting themselves through hell.
Warning signs are there and not everyone has others to go to for advice

Sorry you feel triggered!

What an immature jerk. Don’t go back to him if he apologises, it won’t be the last of this behaviour.

Why did they divorce?

I hope you are suitably embarrassed now, given how things have turned out….

Honestly did wonder if this would be next step - be nasty to be round and blame you. I suppose in that respect better he done it now rather than round the kids.

I'd try and go away with your kids somewhere nice - theme park/hotel near coast - just something nice for you all.

Big hugs though - he's behaved really badly towards you and your kids.

What a fud he is OP! Yep, he definitely engineered the whole thing. You are well rid if that's how he is going to carry on. Hope you can still do something nice with your children.

Oh bore off will you. Just because everyone on MN screams LTB at the slightest indiscretion it doesn’t mean it actually works like that in the real world. Yes he was a prick, but then he apologised and op continued with the plans in the interests of her dc. Nobody here was to know he would double down on being a dickhead, including the op as she said she’s blindsided by it.

Absolutely no need for such a gloaty, goady post.

As upsetting as it may be, he has shown you who he is, and you’ve definitely dodged that bullet. Thank goodness you don’t live together.
Maybe some of what you’ve seen is why hie and his ex split!

Hope you’re OK, enjoy the theme park with your kids tomorrow

Sounds like you'll be well rid of him. Suspect you've just been given a massive hint about why his relationship ended with the mum of his children.

Oh wow. He has doubled down on being a gigantic baby. Zero accountability.

Well, you had a lucky escape.

What an idiot.

It's good he showed his true colours before you moved in together etc.

@Tulipsdaisy sadly op you were warned .
He treated you like crap last night got away with it (pushed boundaries ) and you went running back for more .

Make sure it is over or you will have a life of hell.
Put your kids first if you can’t put yourself first .
Also send one last message saying it’s over to not contact you again or come to Your house.
Then Block and delete!

Oh wow that changes things doesn’t it. Totally agree he didn’t want to go on the trip and has engineered a row to get out of it. What a total fuck about for you.
Well done for standing your ground and not pandering to his shitty behaviour.

oh gosh, sorry OP, I take back my previous post saying it seemed like he had apologised etc and to go for it. He sounds awful - immature and childish and also totally inappropriately behaved around your DC. Definitely keep him binned off.

Ooo lucky escape there OP.

You're gonna feel upset as you seemed quite invested in him. But honestly, he doesn't sound very nice...shown his true colours!

Lucky escape over all. Just a shame he waited until after you’d introduced your kids to each other to reveal what a total arse he was.

Enjoy your theme park day tomorrow!

Bloody hell OP, get back in the car and head off to the theme park you up your sleeve for the kids- he’s such an ahole

Yes that was a pathetic exchange on his part. I suspect you're right about standing up to him...he didn't like it.
He is rude.

Glad you've seen this idiot for how he is.

That's what I was thinking. Was the nicely worded apology a bluff? OP was supposed to decline the offer to still go on the trip and Mr. Prickface would spin the narrative as 'you're the one who called it off, I said we could still go'.

To anyone arguing that he initially called it off, that won't be part of the story when he's telling it. His story will be that he had to change it up slightly, OP was pissed off so he gallantly swooped in and managed to save the whole thing but his heroic efforts weren't good enough and OP had a 'hissy fit' and ruined it for everyone.