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Teachers - does this seem likely?

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SensitiveSkinn · 05/06/2025 18:50

My H is a mainstream teacher teaching GCSEs, there is no head of his department & never has been (small department). He tells me he was offered a head of department promotion role verbally by the head teacher and they shook hands. They didn't actually create this role or write a JD or advertise - they just told him in the head's office that he was getting a promotion and creating a new job for him.

Now, they've gone silent on him. He's asked about the job but they are ignoring him. They've just recruited another teacher in his department (who is friends with SLT) and he is convinced they've recruited him to give to this person now.

I work in a v process driven sector and none of this seems normal. I worry about H wellebing and he tells me he is going to tell the head teacher 'to get fucked' and he's really really stressed about it. Paranoid actually - telling me he thinks this teacher is talking about him, that everyone knows, that people know they've 'fucked him over'.

I'm a bit confused. Does teaching really offer promotions with no process or open recruitment and then take those promotions away to give to their mates - again with no open recruitment? Does this sound plausible? Maybe I'm being naive but H seems a litle vulnerable at the moment and I'm worried he's misunderstood the original offer. It all seems so unprofessional and back-stabby.

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PumpkinPie2016 · 05/06/2025 19:09

Yes, it happens, sadly.

I would advise he speak to his union - he is unlikely to be able to 'prove' he was offered the promotion but they can advise, particularly if he has effectively been doing the head of dept role.

He is, understandably, angry and upset. Please try to encourage him to think as rationally as possible about it - not worth risking his job.

ThisChirpyFox · 05/06/2025 19:09

I've heard of it and afraid they will argue that it didn't happen or it was discussed casually but never confirmed hence why it's not in writing.

I can fully understand his anger.

Fourteenandahalf · 05/06/2025 19:06

Yes, this happens.

ToAutismOrNotToAutismThatIsTheQuestion · 05/06/2025 19:05

Really small courses often don't. Or just have a head of a whole group or subjects.

ThreenagerCentral · 05/06/2025 18:59

He very much needs to speak to his union. It’s mad that a department teaching GCSEs doesn’t have a head of dept though. Who is responsible for the results? Who orders the textbooks etc?

ToAutismOrNotToAutismThatIsTheQuestion · 05/06/2025 18:55

Yep. Teachings a strange horrible world currently.

ByDreamyNavyDreamer · 05/06/2025 18:54

Is he a member of a union? I would suggest union advice for this

CosySeal · 05/06/2025 18:53

Does it sound plausible...... yes unfortunately

MumChp · 05/06/2025 18:53

Yes it does happen. It's sh*t and it's hard to do a lot about if anything wasn't in writing.