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Disproportional parking fines

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NameChangeParkingProblem · 05/06/2025 13:36

Feeling frustrated and need to vent. I’ve received multiple parking fines that feel excessive, and honestly, I’m barely holding it together.

First, the Dartford Crossing, which is £1 each way. I drove over the bridge for a holiday trip with my children, and made a mental note to pay later. I hadn’t given it thought prior to the trip, as I didn’t realise it was chargeable over and above road tax. By the time we got to the camping site, I totally forgot about the road fine. There was no payment barrier as there is for the Birmingham bypass.

Another is from picking up a friend from the train station. She had used public transport and had luggage which she couldn’t bring all the way to the car park, even with my help (heavy and she hurt her leg on the journey). I left her at the station and drove to the taxi rank to be able to put her luggage in my car. Then got a parking fine of £170.

Two other ones from broken payment machines, both of which I called the phone number on the machine and left a message. I missed the 14 day response deadline for both, because I’m super busy working full time while being here for my children. I really honestly don’t have time to prepare a defence, on top of everything else. So both attracted a £80 fine each.

I accept that I didn’t follow the rules and that the fines are legitimate. However, it’s just exhausting to try to get about life, and the fines themselves are very high.

Am I being unreasonable that parking fines are not proportionate? If so, can someone in government please take note, as I’m sure that there are many more people dealing with this. My salary isn’t high enough to support this, so I now tell friends to get a taxi; I don’t go out as much, etc.

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RareGoalsVerge · 16/02/2026 10:13

@MatildaMovesMountains @latetothefisting
Every ticket machine I've encountered that was broken has had a phone number on it and I have called that number, and in each case I have given my reg number and they have said I am ok to park there for however man hours I had attempted to pay for. I can't swear this is true for every machine in every part of the country but it's completely normal ime.

Zizzlers · 16/02/2026 09:57

Incompetent or lazy driving

eurochick · 16/02/2026 09:23

minnienono · 05/06/2025 16:55

@JacquesHarlow

autopay for the dartford crossing works the same. So easy.

You don’t even need the token. It is just done by number plate recognition.

I do have sympathy though. If you don’t know about it and set it up in advance it is a real pain to remember it when you arrive at your destination, when you are excited to be on holiday/visiting someone.

Nearly50omg · 16/02/2026 05:02

NameChangeParkingProblem · 05/06/2025 16:48

The trouble is, I was driving. But the time I’d stopped driving, I’d already forgotten.

Get the kids to do it 🤷‍♀️ they are handy with phones from very small! Or shout at Siri to set a reminder and an alarm up later on to do it

MatildaMovesMountains · 06/06/2025 12:16

latetothefisting · 06/06/2025 10:31

Haha I would absolutely think that if a parking machine was broken and there was no other option to pay (i.e. no app) i could park there for free - what's the alternative? If that is where you need to park (I'm thinking of a car park attached to a shopping centre for example where it wouldn't be easily feasible to park elsewhere) and the means of paying is broken whats the alternative?

What if it was one of the ones where you pay only when you return so you didnt know the machine was broken until youd already been there for several hours, how would you avoid parking for free in that instance, you can't go back in time!

Id obviously take a photo or something proving id tried to park and couldnt, so think if you appealed they'd have a hard time enforcing it. If you look on mse or parking fines advice websites you'll see millions of examples of parking companies backing down if you challenge them - and even if it went to court surely most magistrates or whoever would think the onus would be on the company to ensure there was a working method of payment.

Nope. The onus is on you to pay for your parking. This isn't my opinion, it's reality. If you can't pay because the machine is broken, you can't park there.

DavidsFavouriteGirl · 06/06/2025 11:20

NameChangeParkingProblem · 05/06/2025 17:08

If the fines were going to a fund which somehow benefited the community, it would feel more reasonable. I hate the thought that some fat cat is profiting from this.

Thanks for the feedback, it seems I’m being unreasonable.

Why do you think you are so special?

You are being legitimately fined for parking illegally and failing to pay tolls reasonably charged by the organisations contracted to manage them.

You are in the wrong. You have no right to demand that fines should be used in a certain way, or who they should go to. If you don't want some "fat cat" to profit from your actions, do the right thing. Pay up and change your habits.

You do not have the moral high-gound here.

If you don't like fines, don't park illegally and make sure you pay in a timely manner for road services you have used. If you try to get away with not paying, you will be caught out and rightly so.

I have been driving for over thirty years and do more than 20,000 miles a year. I have never had a parking fine or failed to pay a toll fee. It's easy to avoid.

CosyFanTucci · 06/06/2025 10:38

I don't want to be a pedant but there's no such thing as 'road tax'. There's VED, which is a tax on vehicles. Has nothing to do with paying to use roads.

latetothefisting · 06/06/2025 10:31

MatildaMovesMountains · 06/06/2025 08:19

I've had 3 Dartford fines rescinded - and as others have said, it's £2.50 not £1. There are big signs up to warn you. You sound unbelievably dozy. If a parking machine is broken and you can't pay via an app, you can't just park there for free.

Haha I would absolutely think that if a parking machine was broken and there was no other option to pay (i.e. no app) i could park there for free - what's the alternative? If that is where you need to park (I'm thinking of a car park attached to a shopping centre for example where it wouldn't be easily feasible to park elsewhere) and the means of paying is broken whats the alternative?

What if it was one of the ones where you pay only when you return so you didnt know the machine was broken until youd already been there for several hours, how would you avoid parking for free in that instance, you can't go back in time!

Id obviously take a photo or something proving id tried to park and couldnt, so think if you appealed they'd have a hard time enforcing it. If you look on mse or parking fines advice websites you'll see millions of examples of parking companies backing down if you challenge them - and even if it went to court surely most magistrates or whoever would think the onus would be on the company to ensure there was a working method of payment.

cakeorwine · 06/06/2025 10:20

Badbadbunny · 06/06/2025 09:27

@NameChangeParkingProblem

I didn’t know about the Dartford charge, because why on earth would anyone think that a road in England required payment?

How on Earth did you miss all the signage telling drivers it was a toll road?? Do you drive with your eyes closed?

In your post, you admitted you knew there was a toll but forgot to pay it.

So you can't then say you didn't know!

Edited

Have you ever had to remember to do something and then forgotten?
Given that you are driving along, especially when you are going on a holiday or returning from a long holiday and you have to remember to pay for a crossing you did a few hours / maybe many hours ago?

Can you see that it is possible some people might not remember they have to do it, even if they have seen the signs?

Hoppinggreen · 06/06/2025 09:49

In the past few weeks I have parked in the following places as well as my home town.
Leeds, York, Harrogate, Manchester, Liverpool, Sheffield, often more than once
I did not get one parking fine, its not really difficult

Badbadbunny · 06/06/2025 09:27

@NameChangeParkingProblem

I didn’t know about the Dartford charge, because why on earth would anyone think that a road in England required payment?

How on Earth did you miss all the signage telling drivers it was a toll road?? Do you drive with your eyes closed?

In your post, you admitted you knew there was a toll but forgot to pay it.

So you can't then say you didn't know!

MatildaMovesMountains · 06/06/2025 09:21

cakeorwine · 06/06/2025 08:22

How come you had 3 Dartford fines rescinded?

Because I'd paid 2 of them just outside the deadline, and had a Dart tag for the 3rd one but had forgotten to update my vehicle.

CocoPlum · 06/06/2025 08:56

NameChangeParkingProblem · 05/06/2025 17:19

I downloaded the recommended apps. It’s unfortunate that it’s now necessary to have these apps, because each app installation means more personal data is shared with a corporation and sold. Now to remember my phone!

I didn’t know about the Dartford charge, because why on earth would anyone think that a road in England required payment? I thought this is what we pay road tax for, and I’ve only ever paid for the Birmingham bypass which has a toll.

I'm confused - you say why on earth would anyone think a road in England requires payment BUT then you say "I've paid for the Birmingham bypass which has a toll". So it's not unexpected in England for you, clearly.

Google maps will also tell you a toll is on your route.

The crossing has so many signs in advance. Hopefully you can waive that one (when I use it I'm usually going back within 24 hours so I pay both in between) but these are on you I'm afraid.

1apenny2apenny · 06/06/2025 08:30

I think the OP has a point, it’s becoming increasingly difficult to go anywhere without having to double, triple check everything. Whilst there are often signs, and honestly OP driving through a well established toll tunnel and not paying is on you, in many places it’s easy to not notice signs when you’re trying to navigate. Bristol is a good example of this, speed restriction zones, traffic charge zones etc. It’s up to the user to check it as you won’t get an email if you’ve wandered into the zone. Companies and councils are raking it in for example Heathrow is now in the ULEZ so that’s £18 plus the drop off of £6 to just take someone to the airport!

Personally I find it stressful and annoying that I have to plan every trip now to check these things, have various apps for parking etc. However I don’t want fines so I plan.

cakeorwine · 06/06/2025 08:22

MatildaMovesMountains · 06/06/2025 08:19

I've had 3 Dartford fines rescinded - and as others have said, it's £2.50 not £1. There are big signs up to warn you. You sound unbelievably dozy. If a parking machine is broken and you can't pay via an app, you can't just park there for free.

How come you had 3 Dartford fines rescinded?

MatildaMovesMountains · 06/06/2025 08:19

I've had 3 Dartford fines rescinded - and as others have said, it's £2.50 not £1. There are big signs up to warn you. You sound unbelievably dozy. If a parking machine is broken and you can't pay via an app, you can't just park there for free.

JollyLacrosseSticks · 06/06/2025 08:10

Last year I forgot to pay the Dart Charge and received the fine letter, but when I logged on to pay, it recognised me as a new user and that it was the first time I had forgotten to pay. The fine was automatically reduced to £2.50.

cakeorwine · 06/06/2025 08:08

Jc2001 · 05/06/2025 18:58

Read the OP. She said she saw the sign but forgot afterwards.

Are you sure you should be driving 😜

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I've seen that sign, usually on a trip to France. So it's been a long trip down, you do the bridge and then you are going to Dover. I can see how people can forget they have to pay for a crossing they did a few hours ago, along with everything else they have to remember on holiday.

Now I pay for crossings in advance, just part of the holiday routine.

cakeorwine · 06/06/2025 08:04

Agree on the Dartford Crossing.

If you're on holiday, returning from holiday, you're potentially on a long journey. Yes, there are reminders but you have to remember somehow.

And it's easy to forget even to remind yourself when you're on a long holiday journey.

Same for the Tyne Tunnel. It's something you have to remember to do.

Much prefer the peage in France when you have to pay there and then.

UniqueRedSquid · 06/06/2025 08:01

babasaclover · 06/06/2025 07:29

The dartford crossing hasn’t been £1 since the 90’s 😂 it’s £2.50 but yeah I don’t understand why we have to pay to use it at all. Remember when it was built they said as soon as building costs were recouped it would be free?!? Instead we sold it to France. That’s right France own our toll road. We should start recharging them for all the dingies they allow and even encourage to land on our beaches!!!! Save billions

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Nope. If you can wade through the ads:

https://www.kentlive.news/news/kent-news/drivers-say-dartford-crossing-owned-2415752

Drivers say the Dartford Crossing is owned by the French but this is the truth

The Dartford Crossing is in fact operated by one company who signed a 30 year contract back in 2014

https://www.kentlive.news/news/kent-news/drivers-say-dartford-crossing-owned-2415752

OneAgileTraybake · 06/06/2025 07:58

RosesAndHellebores · 06/06/2025 07:14

Just imagine the delays if there were kiosks at Dartford.

A peage token scheme would be great to have here but we aren't joined up enough.

Having a fantasy now about magical tolls on the A3 that allow traffic to flow freely.

There used to be kiosks at dartford crossing - it also used to be free after 10pm!

It is incredibly well signposted for miles both sides of the crossing that you need to pay, so not sure how OP missed it.

They are also incredibly reasonable with cancelling fines, I’ve had loads cancelled!

Much more than the congestion charge 😂😂😂

LunchtimeNaps · 06/06/2025 07:50

So you have got many fines for parking in places you shouldn't. On balance I have never had a parking fine because I follows the rules. It's not them. It's you OP.

proximalhumerous · 06/06/2025 07:48

Your posts are full of excuses as to why you can't just pay the fees. You need to be better organised.

Also YABU to think that someone "in government" is going to pick up on a post on MN.

babasaclover · 06/06/2025 07:42

NameChangeParkingProblem · 05/06/2025 17:19

I downloaded the recommended apps. It’s unfortunate that it’s now necessary to have these apps, because each app installation means more personal data is shared with a corporation and sold. Now to remember my phone!

I didn’t know about the Dartford charge, because why on earth would anyone think that a road in England required payment? I thought this is what we pay road tax for, and I’ve only ever paid for the Birmingham bypass which has a toll.

There are signs everywhere for the dartford crossing. This suggests to me you are not only a deliberate rule breaker that expects to get off and park where you want or you are blind / observant so should be off the road completely!!!!!! Worrying

brunettemic · 06/06/2025 07:40

Acc0untant · 05/06/2025 17:51

As someone who's never used the Dartford crossing, I wouldn't have known in advance to pay, but forgetting after the fact is on you. It's also never going to be acceptable to park in a taxi rank.

I'm sorry it's all come at once but they're high for a reason. They're supposed to be a deterrent.

Yes but there’s also signs that tell you so if you didn’t already know then you do.

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