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To not want my parents to go in my bedroom (I'm 33 yrs old)

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Gummybearmum · 05/06/2025 08:15

My parents have started looking after my 1 year old son one day a week so I can work. Both times they've been into mine and my partners bedroom. First time they said my baby crawled into there, so they went to get him out. Second time there was a little pile of clean laundry on our bed, when I came home mum had ironed it. I thanked her, as I know she's only trying to help, but she shouldn't have even known it was there. My partner really doesn't like it, he says it's our personal space. I agree but have no idea how to say to them..

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Gummybearmum · 05/06/2025 08:28

@Noshadelamp the door was shut after last week

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midlifeish · 05/06/2025 08:27

Unless you're trying to hide a 50 shades style dungeon, I can't see the problem. She is helping you when she could be off enjoying her life. Sure ironing your smalls isn't her idea of fun either but she obviously wants to make your life a little easier.

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Gummybearmum · 05/06/2025 08:26

Yeh I do think maybe I am being unreasonable as mum always used to snoop when I was a teenager and in my 20s and living at home. She went through everything and opened mail. We didn't even get private space in the bathroom 😅 so think it maybe just touched a nerve.
I am very grateful to them for helping with my son so I can work one day a week.

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ThePhantomoftheEcobubbleOpera · 05/06/2025 08:26

Don't you hate it when the free childcare and housekeeping services think they have the run of the place?

U53rn8m3ch8ng3 · 05/06/2025 08:26

What's so secret or sacred in your room?

Noshadelamp · 05/06/2025 08:25

If the door is open I don't see how your mum is meant to know not to go in there. She probably was passing, saw the laundry and thought she was doing you a favour.

Just keep the door shut.

Poonu · 05/06/2025 08:24

Also you trust them with your child but not with your room?

wobblybrain · 05/06/2025 08:24

Put your son into childcare then?

honestly the batshit nonsensical rules pejole try to enforce upon their own parents offering free childcare is wild.

Poonu · 05/06/2025 08:24

They're not your staff. Get your partner to pay someone to mind your child then you can make as many rules as you like.

KnewYearKnewMe · 05/06/2025 08:23

I think you’re being unreasonable in this situation. If they’d been through the drawers, different story, but in and out, surface level seems fine.

Maybe your mum likes jobs to do while they’re at your house - mine did. Make the most of that!

LumpyMashedPotato · 05/06/2025 08:23

This is ott IMO.

If you are that fussed pay for childcare and contain your mother to the ground floor.

She did ironing for you because she loves you and to make your life easier.
Take it in the spirit it was intended

OnlyFoolsnMothers · 05/06/2025 08:21

Think you’re being ridiculous unless you think they’re snooping but if they were that way inclined why have them at your house. Fact is saying to them don’t go in there, if they wanted to, wouldn’t stop them.

PurpleRivers · 05/06/2025 08:18

I don't see the issue really. Any visitors can go in our bedroom, it's not like they're sleeping in the bed.

AlwaysFreezing · 05/06/2025 08:16

Put a lock on the door! No need to say anything.

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