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Advice please! Scared

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parisianprincess · 05/06/2025 04:31

DD, 11, had a tonsillectomy 7 days ago. Recovery seems to have been fairly standard. They warned us that day 5-7 can be tricky and it has been.

Less than an hour ago she woke us saying her throat was really sore - crying with the pain. She was prescribed morphine as well as paracetamol/ibuprofen so we gave her painkillers and I checked her throat, which she found very painful. Thank god I insisted - she wasn’t happy about it.

There was quite a bit of blood - I need to be honest and say I couldn’t tell if it was trickling or pooling but I called the ward and they said ambulance to a&e or take her ourselves. It was very painful for her to open wide enough for me to properly see, but I think it’s primarily at one side.

DH has taken her as we are about 25 mins to the hospital when no traffic, therefore we thought might be quicker. I’ve stayed home with our older dd. Now regret staying! But he flung his clothes on while I got her organised with a hoodie/water etc. I’ve just tracked them and they are about 5 mins away from the hospital building and I called the ward at 4.10 so hoping we made the right decision about taking her ourselves rather than by ambulance.

Any experience?

My health anxiety isn’t helping me at the moment - going through a bit of a blip with that after a few years of being great.

Im thinking worse case scenarios here.

The were of course emphatic about seeking medical help if her throat was to bleed at any time - we’ve been checking her throat daily due to this (we were told to). I checked it before bed late last night about 10pm and it was ok then I think - I noticed some little raw red bits but absolutely no blood.

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SalfordQuays · 05/06/2025 07:26

My son had the exact same thing. I remember him sitting over the toilet just spitting blood for hours. It was scary. It was an infection and resolved within a few days of antibiotics.

tripleginandtonic · 05/06/2025 07:14

MatildaMovesMountains · 05/06/2025 06:58

She shouldn't be drinking water if there's any chance she may need surgery!!

I did, right before sugery, as long as she's just sipping its now seen as fine in some hospitals.

MatildaMovesMountains · 05/06/2025 06:58

She shouldn't be drinking water if there's any chance she may need surgery!!

HelenHywater · 05/06/2025 06:57

This happened to my dd after she had her tonsils out. Like you, I knew that we had to take her back to hospital if it happened. We did and she was fine. I'm sure your dd will be ok now she's at the hospital.

Clarabell77 · 05/06/2025 06:30

Not personal experience but know someone whose son had it done, was fine, then was bleeding heavily about a week later, can’t remember why but it was sorted with an overnight stay and he’s absolutely fine. She’ll be okay, I’m sure of it. 💐

xPenelopePitstop · 05/06/2025 05:20

Bless you OP. 💐

Yes you’ve actually given yourself some good advice - DO NOT GOOGLE ANYTHING.

I promise you everything will be absolutely fine❤

Hopefully some pain relief, antibiotics, rest and monitoring from the doctors/nurses will get her better in no time.

notimeforregrets · 05/06/2025 05:11

parisianprincess · 05/06/2025 04:50

They’ve arrived at the hospital in the last 10 mins - I was able to track them and saw them park and now in the building.

Why does my brain always think the worst!!

Your brain thinks the worst because you have anxiety. So the brain prepares for the worst case scenario as in that case at least the worst has happened (in your mind) and now you can deal with reality which in comparison is not that bad.
Hospital is the place to be for her atm and you're able to look after older DD. :)
(I used to have health anxiety so I understand how you feel).

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parisianprincess · 05/06/2025 05:05

Dh bas messages do say children’s A&E quiet so they were seen straight away ”by A&E doc, she can see very small bleed so giving tonsil docs a shout to come down and look. Says usually they’d just keep you in for observation to make sure it doesn’t get any worse. But she’ll let the tonsil docs decide”

So it doesn’t sound like they are panicking…unlike her mother here at home

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parisianprincess · 05/06/2025 04:50

It’s a children’s a&e so hoping they get seen quickly.

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parisianprincess · 05/06/2025 04:50

They’ve arrived at the hospital in the last 10 mins - I was able to track them and saw them park and now in the building.

Why does my brain always think the worst!!

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parisianprincess · 05/06/2025 04:49

@dottiedodah DD has been the same with recurrent tonsilitis. At the start of the year she was on antibiotics constantly. Sometimes only a week between prescriptions. This went on until late March. She’s missed quite a bit of school with it hence why she was referred for surgery. We waited, I think, 3 years until she was at the top of the waiting list.

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dottiedodah · 05/06/2025 04:43

My DD had tonsillitis for years.finallu operated .I think you did the right thing ,roads clear and an ambulance can't always get there quickly enough. You will be worried obv ,no point waking other DD though .make a cup of tea and you will hear news any minute. She's In the best place

LaLaLaLavaChChChChicken · 05/06/2025 04:43

It seems normal and completely within the ability of hospital staff to sort. If you can’t sleep, at least rest your eyes. You could be waiting ages for an update.

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parisianprincess · 05/06/2025 04:40

Ok thank you that’s reassuring that it’s happened to others.

Even last week with the operation I had convinced myself the surgery would go wrong…thankfully I am able to be strong and reassuring for my children but it’s not how I feel inside!!

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parisianprincess · 05/06/2025 04:38

Older dd is 15 so could have been taken with us but it felt quicker to just get DD11 and DH out the door.

We have a second car so I can easily go up if they need anything but she has her water bottle and iPad in case there is lots of waiting around.

I can’t google as it will send me in to a spiral - I have a strict rule about that when I am feeling this way. But I assume this happens and isn’t hugely unusual? I keep imagining her bleeding so much that she passes out.

Im a bloody nightmare.

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Loup19863 · 05/06/2025 04:37

I had my tonsils out as an adult and it was honestly the worst thing ever, after about a week I had blood, I went and got checked, all was normal but a bit infected so was given antibiotics.
my friends little one had tonsils removed last year and the same as your little one he had a lot of blood after about a week, he did end up back in hospital for a day or 2 for monitoring and his throat was infected so they gave a course of antibiotics. I think after having tonsils out some blood is fairly normal but you’ve done the right thing taking her to be checked. I’m sure everything will be ok and I hope she’s feeling better soon 🩷

LaLaLaLavaChChChChicken · 05/06/2025 04:35

Worrying is like a rocking horse. Gives you something to do, but you won’t get anywhere.

It will be ok, she is in the best place, being seen. DS2 had the same thing and was fine once treated. Cant even remember what they did now, it was so long ago.

HoppingPavlova · 05/06/2025 04:35

Hospital is absolutely the best thing place for her, she will be in good hands there. No point worrying, pretty much everything can be well dealt with and a hospital is not the place for another bored young child.

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