What would you reply back to this?!

Tashhha · 2025-06-04T23:10:24+00:00

I was messaging a guy I am seeing (early days) met on online dating and I said I’m just about to get a bath. His reply was ‘’wish I could be your little rubber ducky right now’’ With wink emoji. How would you respond ?!

SpamHawk · 07/06/2025 23:42

People on here are not fun at all

Intothesunshine · 07/06/2025 20:49

Why on earth are you asking complete strangers how to respond, just do what your heart or mind says

Xena1973 · 07/06/2025 20:44

It's interesting to see how a simple comment can spark such a strong reaction. Personally, I think some of the outrage might be a bit overblown when we consider the bigger picture. Everyone's different, and relationships really do start from various points, building connection in unique ways. Maybe what sounds 'unconventional' to one person could be endearing or even an inside joke to another.

It makes me wonder if there's an underlying assumption that men expressing any form of vulnerability or emotional 'softness' is inherently weak. The 'rubber ducky' idea, playfully or not, suggests a certain level of comfort with one's feelings. If a man cries or shows a more tender side, is he automatically perceived as 'less powerful'? Perhaps we need to challenge rigid ideas about masculinity and allow for a broader spectrum of emotional expression in relationships without immediately jumping to negative conclusions.

Notashamed13 · 07/06/2025 06:15

NoBiscuitsLeftInMyTin · 07/06/2025 06:13

Don't you mean duckpin? Or dickpic wasnt possible due to the amount of Mr (or Master) Batey bubbles in the bath - equally childish

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NoBiscuitsLeftInMyTin · 07/06/2025 06:13

CurlewKate · 05/06/2025 08:40

Better than a dickpic!

Don't you mean duckpin? Or dickpic wasnt possible due to the amount of Mr (or Master) Batey bubbles in the bath - equally childish

marchmash · 06/06/2025 21:05

I would send him the Bert and Ernie 'Rubber Ducky' song and then just generally see how he is. Wouldn't dump based on just that but would be a bit put off and wait for him to redeem himself.

IOnlyWantSexMoneyPowerAndRevenge · 06/06/2025 21:03

CurlewKate · 05/06/2025 08:40

Better than a dickpic!

Do you mean a duck pic?

Cheesystick · 06/06/2025 20:15

Tashhha · 06/06/2025 19:31

Hello, just a few casual dates so far, just time it’s been suggestive. He just asked what I was doing so I just said about to get in the bath.

A few casual dates? How many? And no flirting, snogging, sex? That would be rubbish for me, and I suspect most people.

Annascaul · 06/06/2025 19:46

ComtesseDeSpair · 05/06/2025 00:19

I probably wouldn’t, but equally I wouldn’t tell a stranger I was off to get naked and have a bath. It’s just a bit intimate.

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This.
What response were you hoping for, op?!

mumofoneAlonebutokay · 06/06/2025 19:45

🤢🤢🤢🤢🤢

Instant block 😭

Mothership4two · 06/06/2025 19:44

Tashhha · 06/06/2025 19:31

Hello, just a few casual dates so far, just time it’s been suggestive. He just asked what I was doing so I just said about to get in the bath.

So he was dipping his toe in the water? (ha ha)

OP what did you feel when you saw his comment?

Dangermoo · 06/06/2025 19:43

Tashhha · 06/06/2025 19:31

Hello, just a few casual dates so far, just time it’s been suggestive. He just asked what I was doing so I just said about to get in the bath.

Have you spoken to him since?

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Tashhha · 06/06/2025 19:31

Hello, just a few casual dates so far, just time it’s been suggestive. He just asked what I was doing so I just said about to get in the bath.

OP posts:

Mothership4two · 06/06/2025 03:38

It would be helpful if OP would come back to give some clue of what she thought of the comment. And give some context - had they been flirty towards each other before? Although, I could see how "I'm having a bath" might be taken the way he obviously did.

Mothership4two · 06/06/2025 03:30

@OldLondonDad

Sheesh- harsh crowd!

Actually there's a fair few on here not giving him a hard time

FoodAppropriation · 05/06/2025 10:45

Dangermoo · 05/06/2025 10:33

Go fuck a duck.

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EggnogNoggin · 05/06/2025 10:44

I wouldn't date him.

"Wish i was there" Fine. Flirty.
"Wish I was your rubber ducky" Yuck. Not sexy. Opposite of sexy. Could never be attracted to him.

Dangermoo · 05/06/2025 10:33

Go fuck a duck.

OldMcDonaldHadABigMac · 05/06/2025 10:18

I'd tell him to duck off.

Dangermoo · 05/06/2025 10:16

BadLad · 05/06/2025 02:34

If it nauseates you (and it would certainly do that to me), then that's how you feel. Nothing wrong with being thoroughly put off by such babyish phrasing.

Someone I know once dumped a girl because, in the pub, she suddenly put on a squeaky voice and whimpered "Cold! Cold! Snuggles?" at him.

😂

rainbowstardrops · 05/06/2025 10:14

gannett · 05/06/2025 10:11

In the context of dating, "I'm getting in the bath/shower" is quite obviously a flirtatious thing to send. It's not even subtle. You may as well have messaged "imagine me naked". Quite honestly if I told a man I was interested in that I was getting in the bath I'd be hoping he was turned on and reacted accordingly.

His own attempt at flirting in response was a little cringe but nothing that can't be fixed by either the cry-laugh emoji to take the piss in a bantery kind of way, or by taking control of the smut and ramping it up on your terms.

If the idea of him getting turned on by you is off-putting then that is a sign you shouldn't be dating him.

Absolutely this!

gannett · 05/06/2025 10:13

i tell my male friends i'm going for a bath/shower all the time in conversation if that's why we're ending it, same with going to make lunch or running errands.. are grown adults really treating the phrase 'going for a bath' like a 'i'm getting naked' invitation?

That's not in a context where we're expected to be attracted to each other, so it's very different.

rosemarble · 05/06/2025 10:12

As for others, i tell my male friends i'm going for a bath/shower all the time in conversation if that's why we're ending it, same with going to make lunch or running errands.. are grown adults really treating the phrase 'going for a bath' like a 'i'm getting naked' invitation?

Only those I'm dating. I used to send my now ex texts saying e.g. "I'm popping into M&S to get some new undies at lunch time".
This was different by infinite factors to me telling my mates I had to go to Target for new pants cos my luggage had got lost in transit, or telling my colleagues I'd meet them in the bar later (at a conference) because I wanted to have a shower.

gannett · 05/06/2025 10:11

In the context of dating, "I'm getting in the bath/shower" is quite obviously a flirtatious thing to send. It's not even subtle. You may as well have messaged "imagine me naked". Quite honestly if I told a man I was interested in that I was getting in the bath I'd be hoping he was turned on and reacted accordingly.

His own attempt at flirting in response was a little cringe but nothing that can't be fixed by either the cry-laugh emoji to take the piss in a bantery kind of way, or by taking control of the smut and ramping it up on your terms.

If the idea of him getting turned on by you is off-putting then that is a sign you shouldn't be dating him.

Doggielovecharlotte · 05/06/2025 10:08

ComtesseDeSpair · 05/06/2025 00:19

I probably wouldn’t, but equally I wouldn’t tell a stranger I was off to get naked and have a bath. It’s just a bit intimate.

Edited

This!

I think you were unconsciously inviting something