Leisure centre manager had a pop at me… and I can’t get it out of my head!

‘I just wish someone at reception had said at some stage “make sure you pay for the soft play if you’re headed in there!”.

Come on. You didn’t need to be told this, surely. You’re upset you got exposed and caught out for using a facility for months without paying for it! It doesn’t matter that it’s near enough empty when you’ve used it - the fact is that other people have been paying to use it and you haven’t. CF behaviour, and now you’ve had a hissy fit which has impacted on your children’s enjoyment of their class. The other Mums behaving in the way should be ashamed too.

Grow up, pay up and get your kids back to their class.

Really? Why so harsh?

Because it's MN (more especially so on AIBU). Some posters love a finger wag - many will then argue endlessly about it. Not sure they'd be so critical to someone IRL?

I think as others have compassionately seemed to empathise, it's the way this dear Mum was spoken down to, the manner, which was humiliating

Most likely they've decided to make sure only people who pay for it from now on and have let it slide up til now. New manager maybe? I'm sure the other parents will be told as well. You've had a free ride, apologised, move on and continue to take your twins. There are times places have a meeting and decide to tighten things up to reinforce rules.

A bit of embarrassment for you, you've not been asked to repay, end of matter. Xx

You are being unreasonable. However I think all of this suggests a confidence issue- following the other mums, freaking out when told off, feeling 'picked on.' Have you heard of Rejection Sensitive Dysphoria? Yours is a very RSD reaction, and it might be worth looking into.

Exactly this. No need to be embarrassed, the manager will not give this (or you) a second thought. They have to deal with so many problems and rude/unpleasant customers as part of their job that you doing this won't even register to them, it's just part of their job. In fact if you carry on going and being friendly to the staff, they will get to know you, realise you're a nice person and you'll have a good relationship with them.

It might be that the manager had been letting it go but that someone higher up had pulled them up on it and they'd taken it out on you.

Having twin toddlers is HARD! If you've found a routine that works, keep doing it and suck up the cost if you can afford it.

This.

You are totally overthinking this. You got away with it for a few months. Just apologise and from now on either pay or don't use it.

Why on earth did you cancel the gym class?!? Total over-reaction! As others have said, stop dwelling on your own feelings and think about your kids.

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Nit picking.

Yes but the point is…. If in 9 months she doesn’t know the first name of a single mum and they’ve presumably never asked her…. Then how the heck is she so sure about all these women’s payment arrangements with the gym?

See the post immediately above mine! And having a dig at the OP for not knowing the names of the other mums. When we've been told she is suffering from social anxiety. Just no need.

@Mumof2heroes There are a lot of smug twats on AIBU, I don't think you would get that negative reaction so much in real life.

Self righteous people who never, never break a rule. Probably the same kind of people who berated others not following all the Covid rules rigidly, otherwise you were literally killing people don't you know.

Following all the rules makes them morally superior they imagine. Yet have those people ever done a truly generous or kind thing? Doubt it somehow.

once… 9 months ago, one mother told the op she did this

and from that op extrapolated all others doing it

despite fact that she doesn’t know the first name of one single one of them!!

Really? Why so harsh? OP thought it was ok as others were doing the same and she was paying for membership. She was reprimanded by a rude manager and now feels uncomfortable. She admits she was wrong and she won't be going back because of the way she was spoken to. Not really sure where all the vitriol is coming from TBH 🤷🏼‍♀️

£16? No wonder it’s empty 😣

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Well aren't you adorable

Christ, why is everyone on here so mean? Would you be this bitchy to someone’s face? It was a mistake. It’s horrible being told off. Try not to dwell on it. The way I stop myself dwelling is to think how insignificant this will all seem in a year. I think go back if you can. The manager won’t be dwelling and it’s not good to use avoidance to deal with anxiety as it reinforces it. You’re doing a great job, head up, go back. This will pass.

Also a real shame (and sadly not untypical), that the other mums all seemed to have a definite case of 'rhinoceritis' here. Someone could've spoken up - so i'm sure you probably felt unsupported into the bargain.

Aside from the fact that you (and the other mums) really ought to have paid for the sessions, i don't actually think you're being unreasonable.

You were singled out by the manager - who made you feel humiliated.

My sole grievance would be why on earth did she choose to only reprimand you, whilst turning a blind eye to the other mums doing exactly the same thing?!

Why discriminate because you have two? All mums should have been politely reminded they were obliged to pay.

This alone is something i would take issue with.
Perhaps leave a review to this effect on Trip Advisor, or better still contact the manager and demand the rationale behind her actions.

Needless to say, i don't blame you for not wanting to return. Your lovely sessions with the twins have been completely soured now.

I’m sure you’ve never made a mistake. Or eaten a slice of cake and coffee in a cafe either? Weird.

Nasty comments on here.