Just wondering if I'm being harsh here... My DD7 has some friends from nearby (siblings between ages of 4 and 9) who she plays out with in the street regularly. Occasionally they come in the house to play for short amounts of time which is sometimes unsupervised due to us working from home/cooking dinner etc. The issue is that I've witnessed one of the kids pulling wallpaper off in clumps, shampoo emptied down the sink, toys destroyed, makeup rubbed into carpets etc. My daughter has been bollocked about this more times than I can remember and I've talked to the kids about not touching things that aren't theirs countless times too. I've stopped the neighbour kids from coming into the house as they've crossed the threshold but then often find my daughter has sneaked them in! These kids aren't bad, just seem to have zero discipline at home and are allowed out till fairly late at night, go in other people's gardens, there's been issues with pulling up neighbours plants and leaving bikes etc in other neighbours gardens. My issue is how far you can go with telling other peoples kids off or banning them from our home without their parents getting pissed off or depriving my DD of playmates? Our house is pretty small so I always know where my daughter is and usually what she's up to.
Should I have a word with the parents? They're nice people but let their kids run riot and probably don't see any issue with destructive behaviour but I want to stay on friendly terms with them,