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to be shocked by parents drinking wine then driving with kids in car?!

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Pompompurin1 · 03/06/2025 21:10

Was at a kids party recently. Live in Scotland in the sticks. We all have to drive everywhere. About 12 kids and parents there (birthday girls house). Out came some wine and most of the parents (all mums bar one bloke) had at least one glass but some had two. Only the bloke and I declined. They all had to drive home, including down a bit of national speed limit road ….some of them had multiple
small kids in the car. All ostensibly responsible normal parents with decent jobs etc. Am I naive ?! Surely this isn’t normal?! But most of them did it.

And yea it’s illegal here to even have one drink and drive.

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Pompompurin1 · 03/06/2025 22:01

I actually thought the limit was zero in Scotland but see now (just checked online) that it’s not zero, just very very low. Still though.

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doodleschnoodle · 03/06/2025 22:00

Scotland limit is incredibly low. Very stupid but IME this kind of ‘middle-class’ drink-driving is looked on a lot more indulgently than it should be by people witnessing it.

Edinvillian · 03/06/2025 21:58

Bananafofana · 03/06/2025 21:51

I would drive after one glass of wine with food in a county where it was legal (I don’t know the limit in Scotland) but no way would I drink (legally) and drive with someone else’s kids in the car.

The limit is very low in Scotland, I wouldn’t even chance half a glass.

Bananafofana · 03/06/2025 21:51

I would drive after one glass of wine with food in a county where it was legal (I don’t know the limit in Scotland) but no way would I drink (legally) and drive with someone else’s kids in the car.

Sometimeinadifferentworld · 03/06/2025 21:47

Personally I don't think having wine at a children's birthday party is acceptable anyway.
And for the hostess to provide it when she knew all the guests would be driving home was down right irresponsible.

I'm with you OP. I would be shocked and disappointed in the parents willing to put their children's lives at risk. And the lives of other rosd users.
Especially given the strict drink drive laws in Scotland and the relatively high accident rates in rural areas for the very reason you describe: that people have to drive everywhere.

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Pompompurin1 · 03/06/2025 21:15

The party was about 2 hrs long but AFAIK there were sipping wine till the end.

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TimeForTeaAndG · 03/06/2025 21:12

How long between them drinking and driving? A glass of wine at 2pm then driving at say 5pm along with food then I'd not bother.
Empty stomach and almost immediately into the car, more than likely over the limit.

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