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Selling to pay off debt

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Chocice35 · 03/06/2025 20:36

Ok this may be a long one and controversial but here goes.
I am 28 with two children, I have had a mortgage for 5 years and a car etc. my partner and I have around 20k debt 12k which is on credit cards but on a 0% balance transfer. We are paying close to 1,000 a month on our debts. We are seriously considering selling our home using our equity of around 80k to pay off debt and start again.
now I’m not into the very traditional way of thinking, or following what the government want us to do which I have done until now, however I’m not sure if we necessarily will want to own our home again.
our plan would be to sell up and either move into private rented, yes slightly more expensive however we’d be sooo much better off as we wouldn’t have the debts to pay.
we would put a good chunk of money away, should we want to buy again in the future though.
I am unable to remortgage because it’s only me on the mortgage due to my credit being better and I’m on a reduced income to when I first got the mortgage so that isn’t an option.
tbh I think we are just wanting a change and a bit more freedom. Because we are still somewhat young then in the future we could buy again but buy jointly so that we could borrow more.
please don’t just say “you’ll never get on the property market again” as this isn’t helpful or factual. But I’m looking for tips from anyone who has actually done similar or in a similar situation.
or is everyone just in debt 🤣

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Hedgingmybetching · 03/06/2025 22:18

What is your partners financial position? Are they helping you with the debts you accrued whilst on maternity? Because they are morally a shared debt.

Please reconsider selling your house though, to have £80k in equity at your age is really brilliant going and you'll get the other debts paid off in no time, or if you are struggling with the £1k a month repayments maybe reduce that and keep flipping the 0% deals paying off the higher interest stuff first.

I know in your head it makes sense and you will feel loaded short term with thousands in the bank and no debt but it will soon get whittled away and rent could still get even worse, we haven't hit Australian or American levels of rent to income disparity yet but it could happen. Please keep hold of your house if you can, the security of being a homeowner when you have a child is invaluable. Xx

Mumof2girls2121 · 03/06/2025 22:18

Pay the loan off in 12 months then reassess

Itsnotallaboutyoulikeyouthink · 03/06/2025 22:17

Yes 28 is young but time
flies. I don’t think that you will ever buy again. If it’s on 0% interest you’d be mad to give up your mortgage. Any spare money you have your going to end up spending it will be hard to save it.

Chocice35 · 03/06/2025 22:10

@Whyonearthwouldyou thank you for this info, I think it’s the fact I hate knowing I have the debt if that makes sense? Luckily my credit cards are already in 0% interests right now anyway and in 2 years from now the loan itself will be repaid.
we have already changed our spending so much so I’m confident we wouldn’t end up in this situation again. I hear what everyone is saying about stability though

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Chocice35 · 03/06/2025 22:08

@PringleDiamond im not I’d agree with saying we need to grow up a bit haha.. but it feels like if we have an opportunity to become debt free and have money saved away then why not? Of course there’s some very helpful comments on this thread about landlords etc so lots of factors for sure

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Whyonearthwouldyou · 03/06/2025 22:03

I know it feels like the best solution but honestly I think you'd be diving in to a different set of stresses. At the moment you are in control of the stress, it doesn't feel pleasant but with a plan there's an end goal and you're still on the property ladder with no debt. Selling and renting means you'll have no debt but you will be at the mercy of a very difficult (and expensive) rental market and your landlord/s.
Look up Dave Ramsey. Looking past the religious bits and the American-ness he has a very good plan. Stick to that for two years (you'll likely get debt paid off faster once you get in to it) and you'll be in a great position.

PringleDiamond · 03/06/2025 22:00

As parents I think you need to grow up a bit. If most people don’t do this, there is a reason for that.

Profpudding · 03/06/2025 21:59

No, absolutely not. There are better ways to do this.
We fell out with the Natwest over £17,000 and they ended up securing a charge against our house which was fine. Whatever
It meant the interest was frozen. They couldn’t add any different charges and of course the house went up in far far more than £17,000 by the time we sold it.
But we stayed in the house for another 10 years
You need to speak to somebody and get some proper advice, but personally I would not be selling your house that’s not the solution

Snoken · 03/06/2025 21:57

You make it sound so easy but I don't think you are realistic at all. I used to be a LL and we always did credit checks on all adults before accepting a tenant. These days rental properties are even fewer because it's so complicated and expensive being a LL so the competition for the few properties that are around is fierce and there will always be a tenant with a better credit rating than you and your partner. Then there is the issue of having to move every so often because LLs are selling at rapid speed these days. You have young kids and once they are in school you don't want to keep moving them every time you are asked to leave your home.

You have a very shortsighted way of thinking and you need to stop doing that. You don't give up your secure home when you are a parent just because you want more fun money. The fun money will come to you, but you have to put in the work and work to lower your debt first.

BountifulPantry · 03/06/2025 21:55

Nope this is crazy.

Knuckle down and pay the debt. Doesn’t matter what else you sell- anything. But not the house.

Get an extra job at the weekend- one of you Saturday one of you Sunday. Take overtime. Sell/ downgrade a car. Anything.

ColinCaterpillarsNo1Fan · 03/06/2025 21:55

Also, see if there's anything you can sell off to pay towards your debt.

Can you both retrain or change to higher paid jobs?

vipersnest1 · 03/06/2025 21:50

Keep paying your debt down, taking advantage of zero interest transfers of your credit debt if you can.
Starting again will mean saving a deposit on top of paying your debts.
It might mean a few careful years but it will be worth it.

ColinCaterpillarsNo1Fan · 03/06/2025 21:50

https://capuk.org/

Get some independent advice from the CAP charity as they're very helpful, I think sellng your house isn't the wisest thing to do.

In the meantime, go through all your monthly outgoings & see where you can make savings by switching utilities etc. Set yourself a budget and stick to it, cut down on eating out etc. Make over payments on your debt repayments.

Can you switch the credit card debt to a zero interest card? Cut up all your current credit cards and stick to a budget. Do whatever you can to keep your house because selling it would be short sighted.

Reallyyyyyy · 03/06/2025 21:47

You would be crazy to do that! You will be debt free in 2 years!

allthemiddlechildrenoftheworld · 03/06/2025 21:41

@Chocice35 no dont sell your house!!! you will find it really difficult to get further up the ladder if you rent then start from scratch! carry on paying the debt at 1k per month and it will soon be gone.

Sagepage · 03/06/2025 21:39

Chocice35 · 03/06/2025 21:31

@LakieLady thank you for this advice yes we’ve recently gone through all transactions and set up allocated pots for certain things we need to spend I.e fuel, food shopping etc

and with those pots, remember you don’t have to spend it all. If there’s anything left, don’t be tempted to carry it over or treat yourself. Make an extra card payment.

If you were to find an extra £20 a week you could then have it paid off a month earlier. You can do this!

Notsuchafattynow · 03/06/2025 21:39

Releasing £80k to repay £20k is a terrible idea.

Just knuckle down and repay it. Use the debt snowball method (Dave Ramsey).

IfItWereMe · 03/06/2025 21:36

Oh OP, this is madness. If it were only you and your partner it would still be a very bad idea- with 2 young children it is almost unconscionable. You are risking the very roof over their head. I have quite a number of staff who predominantly live in private rented accommodation. For many of them they had lived in the same house for years, decades in 2 cases. In the last three or four years, the landscape has changed dramatically. Landlords seem to be selling up at rate I have never seen before. They are constantly coming to me in tears because they have been given two or three months notice to leave. Sometimes the landlord wants the house for his daughter who is getting married, another wanted to move his mother into a bungalow he rented out, others needed to release the equity to pay their own bills. These are FAMILIES who have faced impending homelessness. Parents have been absolutely distraught trying to rent another house and they’re just isn’t the housing stock available. Children have had to move school, leave their clubs and activities, leave their , their friends and maybe even grandparents and family. Rents are being hiked at a frightening rate. Trying to get repairs done it’s a nightmare- look up the BBC News website this week - a 5 fold increase in complaints to the housing ombudsman about repairs in private rented accommodation in the last five years.
I know you are young, I know you feel weighed down, but it is nothing to the fear of being at the mercy of the private rental sector.

Frostiesflakes · 03/06/2025 21:35

how much is rent in your area
could you afford to rent and then have to move every 2 -3 years. Cos that’s the reality of renting

Do you have pets. If so most landlord won’t accept you
some don’t even want kids 😂

have you got the money to pay for a deposit / each time you have to move

will you have to pay capital gain tax if your not buying anything.

your paying 1k a month which is amazing
but maybe pay a little bit less so you can do stuff
even if you paid 800 and kept back 200 to enjoy stuff with your kids
ypu would still be making that debt loads smaller and still be having a little bit of fun

but honestly keep the house it’s security
you may never ever get back on the market again

Chocice35 · 03/06/2025 21:31

@LakieLady thank you for this advice yes we’ve recently gone through all transactions and set up allocated pots for certain things we need to spend I.e fuel, food shopping etc

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TimeForTeaAndG · 03/06/2025 21:29

If you could buy together again in the future then there's nothing stopping you keeping your house just now and remortgaging once you're debt-free and potentially able to get a better mortgage deal with 2 of you. No need to move your young kids into an insecure rental.

grafittiartist · 03/06/2025 21:29

I think that I would try to stay if you can.
it costs a lot to move/ buy a home.
do have a look at the Debt Free Wannabe section of Martin Lewis's website.
youre dong really well to be paying off so much!

Sagepage · 03/06/2025 21:25

Chocice35 · 03/06/2025 21:11

@Twoshoesnewshoes im already on the longest term - ideal thing would have just been remortgaging but that isn’t an option.
i guess it still feels like a long few years when having debt looming over you, id rather be happy and being a homeowner isnt currently doing that. What good is the equity if we will never see it? Honestly I’ve learnt lately that life is too short and I’d rather do things while me and my family are young and healthy. I’m sure there could be regrets with a lot of things in life but I guess that’s where we learn, who knows!

You say what good is equity if you won’t see it, but you will!

In 5 years time rent will have crept up with inflation, so will wages, and your mortgage will have decreased.

In 20’years time rents will still be taking a chunk of your salary, but if you stick with your house then your housing costs will be minimal.

SaintNoMountainHighEnough · 03/06/2025 21:24

Short term pain for long term gain. You would be mad to sell.

LakieLady · 03/06/2025 21:22

I would think very carefully before doing this. Once you're off "the ladder", it's very hard to get back on again.

With that level of debt, you might find it difficult to get a place to rent. Lots of agencies run credit and affordability checks and if you've got debt that you're struggling to manage you might not find it easy to get a rental. And rents seem to be rising inexorably, although this may not be the case in all parts of the country (I'm in the SE).

Also, there's lots of talk about landlords getting out of buy-to-let because of changes in the law if the "Renters' Rights" bill goes through without significant amendment. If that's the case, rental property will become scarcer and probably more expensive.

Before taking such a drastic step, I'd be going through my spending with a fine-toothed comb, looking to ditch any non-essential commitments, and shopping around for better deals on everything that is essential. Then spend a couple of months living like paupers, not buying anything that isn't essential. No new clothes, no nights in the pub, no grabbing a £5 coffee on the way to work (if you do that daily, you'd save £100 a month), no holidays, no picking up a new lipstick because you fancy it etc. Then you'll see how little it's possible to live on, and how much more cash could be used to pay down the debt. And keep a track of where your money is going, and budget for things.

There's loads of good advice on Money Saving expert on this stuff, it's well worth exploring. Especially the stuff about budgeting.

I used to be shit with money, buying something new to wear for every party, lunchtime in the pub with colleagues etc. It took having maxed out cards and not enough to live on to give me a wake up call, and I got it under control. I won't pretend it was easy, but it was worth it. And although my main job is welfare rights, I also coach clients in how to manage their money. I've never gone through someone's spending and not found ways they can make significant savings.