WIBU to get pregnant when my husband is unemployed?

I would go ahead and try for the baby. But I’d expect your DH to get any job - care work or shop work for example, whilst waiting out for whatever job he actually wants.

Are you unemployed too Op? If you're employed your husband could be a stay at home dad.

If he’s been out of work for half a year then I think it would be irresponsible to have a baby. Retraining also takes months or years and doesn’t guarantee a job. Your husband needs a full time job. Any job he can get even if it’s a shop assistant or warehouse until he finds another job in his field.

I’m not too clued up on IVF but it will still be costly to go through a transfer cycle won’t it? Scans, medication and the treatment.

He won’t necessarily be in a great rush back into work while he’s got OP paying for everything.

Well, clearly your DH isn’t interested in getting another job or he would have one by now.

So do you really want to end up being the main breadwinner with him as the stay at home parent where, if your marriage should ever break down, (and being out of work and having a new baby are prime triggers for that) he would end up as the primary resident parent.

Do it!

6 months unemployed and I guess he is in your age range - wow.

Can YOU afford all this ? if he is still unemployed in 16 months time...

No way in hell while he's unemployed.

It depends on the job he does normally. I and some of my friends have had months of unemployment. He's after one job. He'll get one. You'll get by.

TOTALLY AGREE WITH THIS

Do it your not getting any younger and babies can be as expensive or as cheap as you need them to be

Go for it. You will manage even if he has to take a lower paid role.

People saying he could have taken any job are being harsh. My husband was made redundant before Christmas. His redundancy lasted 3 months but he's been applying for literally anything and so far only had 3 interviews. He even applied for McDonald's. He's currently doing food deliveries but once u pay insurance and fuel it's a total waste of time. He's just about covering his car repayments but hasn't given me any money for bills.

Is he going to want to be a SAHD? Would you want that? 6 months is a long time to be out of work, what’s he doing with his time? Is he keeping a lovely home and making your meals or is he gaming or similar?

He’s already pitch rolling to have less pressure while presumably expecting you to go back ft with all of the responsibility that brings.

You know what your marriage is like better than we do so it’s your risk to take but it doesn’t sound great from here.

Have the baby.

We were in a stable place, then DH lost his job when I was 5 months cause his old employers are cunts. Then he lost another job when baby was 5 months because they were also cunts (he didn’t do anything wrong, no need to judge. We won legally both times).

Shit happens. But you make it work.

If you're not paying for childcare then babies are quite cheap, I wouldn't miss the opportunity forever. By the time you have it implanted you're looking the best part of a year away. Don't holdback, so long as he will be a stay at home daddy until he gets a job.

Has he not even tried Evri or Amazon? Surely you'd take any work going if there was a baby on the horizon. The longer he stays unemployed, the harder getting back to work will be.
I think there could be more to this than meets the eye.

My sister did this. Dbil had been made redundant and got a great payout so they decided to go for it. Except then he decided he wasn't going to go back to full time working again, and started to write books. She had to go back full time while he stayed at home with baby, being SAHD and writing his books evenings and weekends. She was SO resentful and jealous that he got to stay at home but also because it happened with no discussion.
Years later he does make a good salary from his book publishing and writing but it was very hard for her.

He hasn't got a job in 6 months! how hard has he been looking? Is he signed up to multiple job sites and spending hours looking as he is desperate to provide for his future family?
Or (the most likely scenario) has he had a quick look on Indeed and decided there are no jobs out there that are right for him (because he's a special little cookie)?
I would not get pregnant with a man that wasn't working, your savings will diminish rapidly on mat pay/one wage and if you have a large unexpected bill you are screwed! Do you want to have to go back to work a couple of months after giving birth because the boiler has spontaneously combusted?
I would give him 8 weeks to find a job or he would be out on his ear at this point.

Yes, I would TTC. Good luck, OP.

I’d go for it. We are doing similar but im the one not currently working due to MH reasons and ASD related problems. Sometimes you have to prioritise things like this

That would be a really irresponsible thing to do.

The embryos are already there, it’s just a matter of thawing them and having them put back inside you.
I’d wait till he has a job.

Does DH definitely want a baby? Seems crazy that he hasn't got any job to just help financially and make it possible to go ahead with IVF.

I wouldn't go ahead in this case.

If you were 20 I would say to hold off, but as you are 36 I would go for it.

You have enough money to survive.

Very worst case, your partner can get any old job just to make up the money.

I would go for it.