Would you rather have ambitious parents that still pursue their own interest (as in career and hobbies within reason). Or a parent that gives up absolutely everything to parent (works a job they may not like, dedicates everything to parenting).
I saw a comment from someone that said that they do not want kids because they saw that their existence meant that their mum gave up all of her hopes and dreams - I found this sad.
I am a mum, and I managed to achieve a lot whilst having children, so it has made the experience nicer - I don’t feel resentment towards my children, and I’ve heard some people do. My mum gave up a lot to have us - however she loves family- she takes on other people’s children at will etc, so I never once felt as if we blocked her - yes she never pursued her dream career (in sport) , but she still worked and pursued hobbies, and I appreciate the work ethic I have watched. She was in her 40s when we were out of the house and she has such a colourful life now (as if she’s reclaiming her 20s!)
It must also be different if you have your children later as maybe there is that feeling that you’ve lived a life and you are now ready to pour into another (whereas I had mine young and have friends similar that have either paused completely or balanced it all).
Sorry that this is all based on women - I find that men tend to have the privilege to have both children and a life whilst for some women, everything stops; or we make the bigger sacrifice.
So what would you rather have
Reasonable - parents that are ambitious
Unreasonable - parents should give everything up