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Being called thick?

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ClemmyPennie · 03/06/2025 11:12

Aibu to not speak to this man again?

Hes my ex and we are very low distance (like 9 hour flight). We started talking again and the plan was to go out and see him next month. We call every day.

I called yesterday and he didn’t pick up. He then said he felt too shit to talk, I asked if he wanted to talk just about why he’s feeling that and just for me to listen. His response was - you’re fucking thick.

Yes I shouldn’t have asked to talk again, but I just wanted to offer because I care about him. I think I just need to end whatever this is or am I being too sensitive?

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ClemmyPennie · 03/06/2025 11:56

loropianalover · 03/06/2025 11:54

What, him calling you thick as mince and giving you silent treatment when he’s had a bad day? What sort of plan for the future is that?

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Well it isn’t? Thats why I just responded with a it’s not ok to talk to me like that and didn’t (and won’t) engage any further.

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loropianalover · 03/06/2025 11:54

ClemmyPennie · 03/06/2025 11:52

Because we started talking about and making plans for the future?

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What, him calling you thick as mince and giving you silent treatment when he’s had a bad day? What sort of plan for the future is that?

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ClemmyPennie · 03/06/2025 11:52

DifferenceBetweenAChickpeaAndALentil · 03/06/2025 11:45

Why are you in daily contact with an ex?

Because we started talking about and making plans for the future?

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alcoholnightmare · 03/06/2025 11:46

He’s just not that into you. He’s also a bastard.

DifferenceBetweenAChickpeaAndALentil · 03/06/2025 11:45

Why are you in daily contact with an ex?

ShodAndShadySenators · 03/06/2025 11:41

He's your ex for a reason. That reason hasn't changed or gone away, has it... Relationships are supposed to be positive and make our lives better, and this one doesn't fit. You might still care about him, he doesn't care that much about you and doesn't respect you.

Respect yourself and move on from this, it's not going to do you any good

hjhjhjhjhj · 03/06/2025 11:37

Ditch

Threecraws · 03/06/2025 11:35

Sounds like there is a good reason he is an ex. I'd keep it that way

IgneousSedimentary · 03/06/2025 11:34

Why are you talking to your ex every day, quite apart from him being aggressively rude?

loropianalover · 03/06/2025 11:33

Voted YABU because you’re still putting up with him.

He’s a 9 hour flight away! He does not exist in your life anymore. Stop letting him abuse you over the phone.

Skulling · 03/06/2025 11:31

JFC, you obviously need to cut contact with anyone who speaks to you so abusively OP! Sounds like you urgently need to work on your self esteem — and do not get into another relationship before you’ve done so.