Saying no a playdate

Yup OP is prioritising her own daughter having someone for playdates over this other child's wellbeing, which according to her own words, is at risk

Thank you!!

added to which, reported to school… either very recently and not had a chance for any change in this poor child’s situation OR reported when first aware of the neglect and the school has achieved the square root of zero in improving her quality of life

No, definitely not.
I never let my DC go to homes without supervision.
I don't care about a mess as long as the parent is responsible.
If your happy to have her friend over, just say no, you prefer to host.

Sorry but your priorities are😬
You are a social worker who is seeing a child is being neglected in her home environment and your main concern is avoiding an awkward invitation to their house. You have spoke to the school but not reported to social services when you work there. You think your own daughter is more at risk of losing a friend when this neglected baby is going to school with a bad smell, a more likely deterrent to building friendships.

It is ALL linked
and likely much much worse behind closed door
the cannabis is the route in as I would reckon grown and sold there from what op says

How long ago did you report to school op?

But that poster has a point. So many kids fall down the cracks because of bureaucracy. OP is saying the child is showing clear signs of neglect, is apparently exposed to drug taking in the home and appears to have no adult supervision but as a social worker it's not in her job description to raise a red flag.

Added to which, it will likely be the tip of the iceberg

probably being frowned upon and sold there if lots of adults in and out as the op describes

Well yes, drug taking in the home of children is wrong, regardless of which drug is being consumed.

Yes I agree but none of those criteria are part of this thread.

I was ‘that child’ and it is so important to still invite them over and if you can to help in any way. I would have been embarrassed inviting anyone over to my house and I recognised this from very young. I remember one time spending so much time preparing my bedroom for a sleepover I had planned with two girls from my class for a birthday. Their parents allowed them to stay. I tidied and tidied my room. My mum stayed up drinking all night with her ‘mates’. I couldn’t take my friends downstairs the next morning for breakfast as there wasn’t any and I spent all night listening out for the signs of drunken adults rambling around my home. I was I say around 8.
I am very protective of my children. I have escaped the abuse and neglect and my children will never experience it so I wouldn’t think twice about saying no, but, please try to make the friend continue to feel welcome.

Neglect is a safeguarding red flag though. My OH is a primary school teacher and is trained to look out for signs of a child coming to school unwashed etc. You said this kid is that child. So, combined with the lack of adult supervision and being exposed to drug taking, that's surely enough to raise at work? if you really are a social worker

Do you really think, with a child that's being neglected by their parents, left alone outside, unsupervised constantly, living in dirty clothes/bedding, that people smoking weed is the thing to focus on here??

Oh bore off and stop trying to derail the thread.

I reported my neighbour
the smell coming through the wall
there was no child in their home but there was in mine
but still the police attended and the smoking eased up MASSIVELY thank goodness

If it was excessive
If the report came from a SW
If it involved a young child
If said young child had already been referred to the school for neglect

then yes… something would be done

Have you ever actually done this in the UK though. Not a chance anything would be done.

Sorry you are being challenged over your job, I too am a CP social worker and everything you have said is proportionate, we could not possibly respond to every family where cannibis is present. If the support around the family suspect this is a contributing factor to the neglect then it will be addressed.
You have been given some good advice about your OP.

So what was the other thread talking about clients being pissed off with male carers in the care home that you work for?

Sure you do op
sure you do

Which is what op posted a few days ago

This is a social worker who knows that something illegal is happening that impacts very heavily on a young child and she’s not reporting to police because she is not legally required to.

You think that’s ok.

in any event, I don’t think the OP is a sw unless suddenly sw describe it as “development” “male dominated industry” and “works 99% from home”

I work with families in a safeguarding role within a substance misuse team. Over the last 2 days I've attended 5 properties where the parents are known to smoke cannabis. You cannot report every occurrence to the police, it's a waste of resources. Social care are aware of all the families but even then it does not always meet threshold for involvement.