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To feel like pub staff should not turn a blind eye to inappropriate comments?

133 replies

LaurenSw · 03/06/2025 09:00

We have just returned from a great week away in the UK, staying by the coast and travelling to nearby areas each day.

We visited quite a few pubs, and a feature in almost all of these was local men stood by the bar making sexual/racist comments and then chuckling away.

The bar staff would usually roll their eyes and tell us they just let them get on with it.

On the last day, my DH said something to a man in one of the pubs who made a particularly vile comment. The staff who was present actually told my DH to cheer up!

Is it me or should staff do more to cut this sort of thing out?

OP posts:
hididdlyho · 03/06/2025 09:12

Do you think they would stop making the comments just because the bar staff ask them to?

Coffeeishot · 03/06/2025 09:12

Every pub , Where did you holiday 1975 ? Good for your husband though I'm sure the "racist old men" have definitely changed their ways. As an aside bar staff are there to serve drinks not police conversations.

KarmenPQZ · 03/06/2025 09:12

Tricky one as I guess those locals are there every day and basically keep the pub going? And the pub staff don’t want to lose their business. Plus as others have said they shouldn’t police customers values

Chiseltip · 03/06/2025 09:11

Minimum wage = minimum effort.

The staff are there to serve food and drink, they are not the morality police.

🙄

Womblingmerrily · 03/06/2025 09:10

No. That's not their job and they definitely don't get paid enough.

He's their regular. You are just tourists.

FrenchandSaunders · 03/06/2025 09:08

Where was this! Weird that it was in every pub IME.

ssd · 03/06/2025 09:06

The staff are there to serve pints not decide who says what.