Pregnancy announcement before brothers wedding

I wasn't a "precious idiot" as a bride. But I'd've been pretty pissed off if someone announced something big on the day I'd paid a lot of money for, and which was meant to focus on my husband and myself. I don't think that's precious in the slightest!

Also, I have never been to any wedding ever where the people just talk about the bride and groom all day. That would be like being in a cult. People always use them to catch up with people they haven't seen in a while and they will talk about other people's news whether or not they know the OP is pregnant!

You are the reason we still need a laughing emoji - you must be fun at parties

You know what, I am actually going to reply to your nonsense properly.

I said ‘you should’ this is clearly just my opinion…I didn’t say ‘you must’ which would imply it is a requirement.

you saying ‘you can’ is a statement of fact…totally different to what I said which was opinion (which was not written as fact)

Is this your first day on the internet? I can’t imagine not accepting people giving an opinion on a public forum. An insane, random, nonsensical reply to my message.

Sorry, didn't realise I had a daily limit. There is a difference between can and should and dictating how others feel about the 12 week point is rather odd.

You can wait until 12 weeks if you want to, lots of people choose to. Not should. It's entirely up to the couple and how they would feel about potential miscarriage and talking about it.

How is telling them now going to take shine off their wedding for goodness sake.

So if OP has a miscarriage before the wedding after rushing to tell everyone? Hardly a joyous family wedding then.

There's a reason people wait 12 weeks and it is for a good reason, the MC risk reduces and any abnormalities can usually be detected (which can't be detected at 8 weeks), where people need to make difficult decision whether to continue a pregnancy, so telling people that early for "celebrating purposes" makes no sense at this stage to be honest, she'd be better off waiting and it being a real time to celebrate after being given the all clear at 12 weeks.

what a waste of a reply.

You can wait until 12 weeks if you want to, lots of people choose to. Not should. It's entirely up to the couple and how they would feel about potential miscarriage and talking about it.

Tell your brother and sister in law and ask them how they feel.

they might not care if you mention it, they might prefer you hold it.

BUTTTTTTTTTT…you should wait until 12 weeks anyway because of miscarriage risks

This place makes me laugh sometimes.

Everyone is telling the OP to wait so as not to steal their limelight, but if the OP had been a bride who was upset her SIL had announced a pregnancy two weeks before her wedding, she’d have been torn apart and told that she’s a Bridezilla, she’s not the centre of the universe, and to get over herself. 🤣

I don't understand it either.
Brides/grooms must be terribly fragile or just underwhelming, as the simplest things upstage them at their weddings 🤦🏾‍♀️.

Everyone will have congratulated the OP and moved on by the time the wedding comes round. And weddings are meant to be joyous occasions for everyone.

I've never been to a wedding where I've spent the day mooning over the bride amd groom. I've always managed to celebrate the couple while catching up with folks, meeting new people, eating/drinking and being merry.

I wasn't a "precious idiot" as a bride. But I'd've been pretty pissed off if someone announced something big on the day I'd paid a lot of money for, and which was meant to focus on my husband and myself. I don't think that's precious in the slightest!

I’ve just found out we are expecting, and have had an early scan (8weeks). My brother gets married in 2 weeks time, so I want to announce it now so that I don’t have to pretend to drink at the wedding. It’s only a small wedding with parents and siblings so I was going to announce it to the people who will be at the wedding as they are my close family and I know how excited they are going to be!
AIBU to announce it before his wedding or should I wait until afterwards?

mean

😂

Don’t be so mean. Focus is on your brother. Wait until 12 weeks and then tell. As to not drinking can’t you say you are designated driver? Or you just don’t feel like drinking. Or walk round with a full glass and just don’t drink it

Feeling better after your little superior rant 😂

I was not a bridezilla diva though.
great, but you should read the OP, she's NOT the bride, she's a guest.

literally the opposite of "precious behaviour". It's not the bride asking for the news to be hidden, it's a guest. It's called being considerate. No one cares what YOU thought or not, it's not about you, it's about another couple. Indeed, let them have their day, let's not make it all about a random MN poster playing the "cool girl".

I wasn't a "precious idiot" as a bride. But I'd've been pretty pissed off if someone announced something big on the day I'd paid a lot of money for, and which was meant to focus on my husband and myself. I don't think that's precious in the slightest!