Pregnancy announcement before brothers wedding

It’s perfectly easy to hide not drinking. Plenty of women have done it before.
If you announce now, that’ll probably go down like a shit sandwich.

I agree with the previous poster who said it's precious to care about this sort of thing. It won't take anything away from their day if people know you are pregnant. You can actually have two happy family events that happen around the same time, with neither overshadowing the other. I wouldn't have minded if someone announced their pregnancy around my wedding.

Then again, we never did big announcements or reveals. Just mentioned it and got on with our day.

Do not say a word. Wait until 12 weeks. Get a big glass of soda water ice and lemon to sip. If anyone asks (which honestly would be weird) say it’s g&t. Congratulations.

Don’t spoil their day by making it about you and your pregnancy. Wait until afterwards.

Do not announce this before the wedding as it would be really rude and look like your trying to steal the limelight! No one will take notice of you not drinking unless you try to make a big deal of it and will be rightly focusing on the bride and groom

I'd have been majorly pissed if my sibling done this 2 weeks before my wedding especially as you say 'everyone will be excited for you'

Just drive to the wedding, and there's your excuse!
I'll be driving to a wedding soon - but, at 60 I'm not pregnant, and people perfectly understand that drinking and driving is a no-no.

Announcing at 8 weeks just before a wedding will completely look like your trying to overshadow their wedding.

Just send your dh up for gin and tonics or vodka and cokes. He will know not to order the booze.

Exactly. I’m a drinker and nobody noticed when I wasn’t drinking because I simply didn’t make a big deal and declare it. Just drink lemonade in a gin glass and tell your husband to order you a soft drink even if you “ask” for a G&T. People aren’t exactly going to be closely monitoring you unless you make a big deal of it, no need for some big attention seeking announcement about not drinking.

It would be very crass to announce your pregnancy two weeks before your brother’s wedding.

Just walk around with a glass of prosecco in your hand, noone will notice if you're drinking it or not. You could even discretely ask for an alcohol free prosecco behind the bar so you can take sips if people will be suspicious (they would be for me as I was a bit of a social drinker)

I agree that you shouldn't announce it, there's been loads of great suggestions to excuse being alcohol free or fake having a drink, 8/10 weeks is pretty easy to keep under wraps. Have a lovely time OP. Xx

Wait. It’s not 12 weeks, so it might look like you’re announcing early to steal the limelight.

I’ve never understood the lying/antibiotics/pretending to drink thing. Yeah people might notice and might think you’re pregnant but surely no-one would actually say anything?! So what does it matter if they guess beforehand, as long as they keep it to themselves? And it would be incredibly rude to say to someone “oh you’re not drinking, are you pregnant?”

When I told my mum I was pregnant with my first, she said she knew because I hadn’t had a drink in months but obviously she never actually questioned me about it.

On the drinking front I went to a wedding this weekend and nobody announced if they were drinking or not. Some obviously had pints. Some were drinking drinks with coke or other mixers who knows if they contained alcohol or not. My husband had a few bottles of alcohol free larger. My point is I really wouldn't worry about anyone noticing if you're drinking or not. No need for any kind of conversation around it. Congratulations.

This is peak precious behaviour that I cannot relate to. I could not care less if somebody announced their pregnancy before my wedding or during my wedding. I love hearing happy news especially when it is close family or friends.

Of course you can tell your family now. It does not make the wedding any less special. I was not a bridezilla diva though.

My eyes are rolling so much at some of these responses. ‘Let them have their day’. How is telling family you are pregnant not letting a couple have a good wedding day?? Ugh.

And don’t say you’re on antibiotics. You might as well wear a tshirt that says PREGGERS.

8 weeks is so early, I'd wait a bit especially with the wedding!

Just have a glass of something in your hand. At intervals, swap it with your DH surreptitiously, or pour it into a plant pot. I didn’t tell anyone I was pregnant until I was 19 weeks and got through a wedding and a big family anniversary party like that.

Just say you can’t drink because you’re on antibiotics for a kidney infection.

Then announce a few weeks after. If you announce it’ll be all about you and whilst that personally wouldn’t bother me on my wedding day, people are extremely precious and weird about weddings. It’s not worth the potential fall out.

Years ago women didn’t reveal until at least 12 weeks.
Many babies are lost before then.

Keep it quiet until after the wedding.

Wait. It’s not fair to steal their glory.

I’d suggest waiting as it’s this close to the wedding and you’re not quite 12 weeks yet (so you have a good 4+ weeks to wait until your NHS scan for example).

Announcing it at 8 weeks, just 2 weeks before the wedding kinda feels like it’s being announced specifically to steal the limelight.

You could say you’re not drinking as you’re on antibiotics for an ear infection or something which would also excuse if you felt sick as you could say it’s messing with your balance/making you feel dizzy x

Don’t announce it. It’ll take the polish off their day.

You are just on antibiotics, so can’t drink.

Waiting a month to announce the news is not that much of a hardship.

I'd keep it quiet till 12 weeks anyway. There are plenty of reasons not to drink.

First post nailed it. OP, just drink something that looks like alcohol. Hopefully no one will notice.

Congratulations!! Very exciting for you

But Wait

toothache- antibiotics.

not drinking is not an excuse to make their wedding all about you.

if you were to have a miscarriage would you be telling all of the same people? If not it's mad to announce it at 8 weeks, wedding or no wedding.

You know your brother and partner better than any of us. I personally would not have been upset if my brother had announced a couple of weeks before our wedding, but everyone is different. That said we waited until after our 12 week scan to tell everyone.