Pregnancy announcement before brothers wedding

Totally agree.
Telling people a week or two before the wedding has zero impact on the day. All eyes are not going to be on the still flat stomach of one of he guests instead of the happy couple. It is also highly unlikely to be the sole topic of conversation at the wedding. Just steer away from it, although I have never been to a wedding where people talked about nothing all day except the wedding.

No big announcement is needed, just quietly let people know.

I totally agree. But I also wouldn’t want to deal with any complaining from them. So I’d wait because of that. I wouldn’t care if someone else did it before my wedding.

It definitely depends what sort of relationship you all have, but I dont think telling them steals the limelight, you're not going to be giving birth on the dancefloor!

Side note, I don't understand people who think pregnancy loss should be dealt with in secret.

I wouldn’t announce a pregnancy this early anyway, even after an early scan. I think I went to two weddings in my first pregnancy in the first trimester. I had lemonade in a fizz glass or a tall glass (to look like g&t). Also did the wine glass swap trick with DH. DH was careful too as he didn’t want to get tipsy. Most people were so, so oblivious I was shocked! No one said a thing. Afterwards one person mentioned they thought I might be pregnant but of course they know not to say anything because they appreciate that it’s too early to share the news and it’s someone else’s wedding so not the time or place to say shit ISpyNoPlumPie are you pregnant?!! Bottom line, it can be done so you don’t NEED to tell everyone beforehand. My BIL asked if they could announce their pregnancy at our wedding because everyone would notice. We said no. No one realised. If you want to talk to your brother and he doesn’t mind - go for it, but it’s very easy to hide.

I would wait, in case they care (I personally wouldn’t).
But I don’t see why you need to wait a week or two after the wedding as a PP suggested. They don’t need a month long moratorium on any family news.

I’ve had to endure a couple of weddings when pregnant in the early stages including a family one. I ordered non alcoholic beer and asked for it to be poured into a glass for that one and sipped on it for ages. I even brought nosecco in my bag and swapped the prosecco when for it as I knew my family would notice if I declined prosecco. No one noticed. I was so tempted to just say it before the wedding. I lost that pregnancy at 11 weeks. I’m so glad I hadn’t told anyone.

Also people will spot that you are drinking and speculate. The speculation will also make it more of a big deal and take away more of the limelight (shudder) than just telling people with a breezy "but it's early days so anything could happen".

I wanted to keep quiet about one of mine and was at a celebration (not a wedding), every time someone offered to get me a drink, I laughed and said “oh no, overdone the Prosecco earlier, don’t want to be too squiffy” and tonic/lemonade/coke with “vodka” 😉if dh was buying.
Congratulations op.

IMO 8 weeks is early for a general announcement. Better/safer to wait a bit.

Just drink soft drinks but ensure they are out of the same shaped glass as spirits.

Drink water from a wine glass, hold the champagne flute but don't drink from it.

Enjoy the announcement when you are ready and after the wedding.

What will everyone be drinking? If it’s wine, decant non-alcoholic wine into an empty wine bottle 🤣

Completely agree. A this talk of limelight and overshadowing and attention stealing is so cringey.

Telling family earlier than 12 weeks is totally normal. Storing it up to make a big announcement after the wedding is far more attention seeking than just letting people know now.

Also - massive congrats!!

Another vote for wait.

Definitely wait.

Is it your first child OP? If it is, I understand the excitement and need to tell everyone... If not, then you already know you should wait - otherwise you wouldn't have asked the question.

Don’t be so mean. Focus is on your brother. Wait until 12 weeks and then tell. As to not drinking can’t you say you are designated driver? Or you just don’t feel like drinking. Or walk round with a full glass and just don’t drink it

Don't "announce" anything, just tell people like a normal person having a conversation. Unless your brother and his fiance are precious idiots it won't negatively affect their wedding in the least.

Don't overthink it.

You’ll be fine not drinking at the wedding. I’m 2 years sober and I still have to have the same conversation about how I don’t drink anymore every single time I go to any social function because people completely don’t notice I’m not drinking. Like they are shocked that the glass in my hand is just tonic water or is an AF beer. If you don’t announce it or make a big deal, no one will notice or care.

And you aren’t an alcoholic like me, so it’s perfectly fine to have a few sips of champagne at the toast and then have your dh finish your glass later.

Only you know how your family would react, but I think the period after a family wedding is a bit of a lull for everyone. Save your happy news for then and it will be a bit of a cherry on top after all the celebrations.

Say you're on antibiotics and don't drink? People won't be that observant of who is and isn't drinking surely?? The focus will be, rightly, on the couple whose wedding you are there to celebrate.

Announce another time - this is a no brainer, don't overshadow their day FFS

Don't say you're on antibiotics, it's soooooo obvious!

I'd keep it quiet. I told one person when I was 8 weeks pregnant for practical reasons and I'd lost the baby by 12 weeks. I'm really really glad I didn't announce it further.

Announce it after the wedding. Just say you’re on antibiotics for xyz (chest infection etc) and not allowed alcohol whilst on them.

Genuinely no one will notice/care that you’re not drinking. I’m 11 weeks pregnant and going to a wedding on Friday. I won’t say anything as that makes people suspicious more than you just getting on with it and doing your own thing

Don't announce the pregnancy.

Just try to avoid drinking. HOLD a glass in your hand, but also, yes, have a soft drink that looks like alcohol. And if anyone notices, you're on antibiotics. No alcohol allowed.

Be the named driver. Delay your announcement - this is their time to be in the limelight.
Congratulations!

Feeling better after your little superior rant 😂

I was not a bridezilla diva though.
great, but you should read the OP, she's NOT the bride, she's a guest.

literally the opposite of "precious behaviour". It's not the bride asking for the news to be hidden, it's a guest. It's called being considerate. No one cares what YOU thought or not, it's not about you, it's about another couple. Indeed, let them have their day, let's not make it all about a random MN poster playing the "cool girl".

I think your given reason for sharing your news now is disingenuous - I went on holiday to an all inclusive resort with parents and in laws at 8 weeks pregnant and no one noticed I wasn’t drinking alcohol for a full week, so it can be done. I understand you are excited about your news and want to share it but I think it’s very likely to take the limelight from your brother and SIL and I would view that as intentional.