Pregnancy announcement before brothers wedding

I think my everyone was just telling the parents and mentioning it to friends I happened to see around that time. I never did 'announcements'. So can well see how you might not have told everyone yet. I bumped into people I knew occasionally with a new baby in a mall and they hadn't even known I was pregnant.

Many babies are lost after then.

There are actually notable drops in risk of spontaneous miscarriage at around 8 weeks and around 14 weeks. 12 weeks has never had anything to do with it.

Although by your logic I shouldn’t be able to tell anyone I’m pregnant until past 23 weeks as I’ve lost babies then (even though it’s a legal requirement to tell my employer at 24)

No don’t announce before the wedding.
It’s the happy couples day and people will naturally want to talk about the baby.
it wouldn’t be right or fair

What, by saying nothing and then claiming antibiotics if someone asks why you're not drinking?

Obviously don't do this, if anyone asks you say you've got a UTI and you're on antibiotics.

People might guess, but at least you've made an effort not to take the limelight.

If you want until after the wedding you will get all the happy congratulations and none of the aggro.

Yep definitely say this. That's if you want to telegraph it as clearly as possible that you're actually pregnant and actively trying to conceal it

I'm 6 months pregnant and still haven't told everyone lol. Too many weddings this year, I haven't had chance. (That last sentence was a joke :) I'm anxious about it and don't like the attention)

Wait until after the wedding.

I drank tonic water (I usually drink G&T) and appletise when I was pregnant and pre-telling people.

I’d wait partly because it’s only 8 weeks. Better to wait until 12 weeks surely?

I know my brothers wouldn’t mind but everyone’s different, plus I don’t know what their girlfriends would be like.

That wouldn’t have bothered me, and of course they wouldn’t need to ask to tell whoever they like! Saying that, if I were in the same situation, I would wait till after someone else’s wedding. I don’t know if it really matters, and I don’t think I’m precious but appreciating all the time, effort, and money that goes into a wedding, I wouldn’t want the bride or groom to feel aggrieved. It’s a funny thing isn’t it? The concept of someone’s “special day” and the limelight being on them? Like I said, I don’t think it really matters but I wouldn’t do that to someone else.

I sat next to my best friend at a wedding and she was just having water all night and I never even thought anything of it until the pregnancy announcement came and I looked back.

It's only weird if you draw attention to it. I very much doubt anyone would say anything. If they did I wouldn't use the antibiotic thing, I'd just say I have a slight headache, don't want to make it worse.

Wait until after. No-one is going to notice that you're not drinking. And if they do just say that you've been on antibiotics for an infection.

I never announced a pregnancy before 12 weeks. I'd wait until after the wedding so as not to have everyone talking about it on the day. As far as not drinking is concerned you could say you are on antibiotics for a uti but absolutely fine now. I did that once at a function when I was only 6 weeks & not ready to annouce it.

That’s so precious

First off, my husband and I would swap drinks - I'd take over the emptier one. Then I held the same glass of increasingly warm white wine and took a miniscule sip when socially required (e.g. a toast) for about 6 hours and nobody noticed.

Drunk people are easy to fool, just keep moving about and no one will think anything of it.

That comes down to knowing the family then. If you know your family goes silly about pregnancy announcements, then maybe wait.

In my case I'd have told as soon as I knew I was pregnant and the wedding would have had full focus of everyone. Once you've told people in my family it's just background. They all have the mental capacity to separate events in their heads anyway.

Nobody will notice you’re not drinking. Let them have their day.

Wait until after and say you're on antibiotics if anyone asks, which they probably won't.

You wouldn't actually tell people at the wedding. Mentioning it two weeks before though, why not? Then again, I'm someone who told people as soon as I had a positive test in hand.

I managed to get through two weddings, a holiday with DHs friends and a funeral without telling anyone i was pregnant. Yes a couple of people suspected but they didn’t say anything at the time.

don’t announce until after the wedding (by at least a week)

From posts I’ve seen online depending on the pregnant person and type of family it can easily become a pregnancy party rather than feeling like a wedding.

Also ops 8 weeks nobody needs to announce to their entire family they are 8 weeks pregnant. It’s optics. It just looks poorly timed.

I pity anyone actually on antibiotics. Everyone will think they are pregnant. 😁

And wouldn't that just be like, "Oh hi, I heard your news. Congratulations." Moves on.

Other people's pregnancy announcements aren't that big a deal really and definitely won't overshadow a wedding event.

Oh right I agree that's inappropriate! I thought he would just have been telling relatives he might not otherwise see, his speech is not meant to be about him!

This is a good point. Would you normally tell everyone attending the wedding you were pregnant at 8 weeks? If not, you're only doing it so people congratulate you and talk about it on the day. Thats not very nice to your brother and SIL.