Pregnancy announcement before brothers wedding

Yep! Sooo obvious! Get something that looks like a ‘proper’ drink or get DH to drink some of yours and swap; it’s easy, no one is really looking and if they are it’s because they are on to you anyway 🙂

Definitely not, just wait until the 12 weeks and announce it then.

If you want to tell anyone, tell your brother and bride and let them be in on the secret, but do not tell anyone else until after the wedding is over.

It would be so obvious you have done it to bring attention to yourself (and in turn take the attention away from them) on the day that they have spent so long organising, building up for and stressing over.

Just let them have their day and then this will be a fantastic thing to announce a couple of weeks after.

You'll still only be 10 weeks, which is quite early to be making an announcement.
Just wait til 12 weeks, then say!

I think it might be a bit of a cliche for people of a certain age. Perhaps it's gone out of fashion so if you use it these days people will believe you.

All these women out here with fake drinks and elaborate ruses to hide a biological fact from their family. It's really fucking stupid when you think about it. Your family might be offended that you're currently pregnant and didn't hide it. Jesus.

Being a woman is just a series of offenses to the public isn't it.

After.

Telling before the wedding would be tacky and look like you're trying to steal their thunder.

If anyone says anything about you not drinking alcohol, say it doesn't mix with a med you're on. Do people really clock that someone isn't drinking alcohol and question them about why?

I went to someone's big milestone birthday at six weeks pregnant. I developed hyperemesis in the end, but spent that stage vomiting at regular intervals, which didn't go unnoticed. Of course everyone guessed. It never occurred to me that it might have upset the person whose party it was.

But wouldn't the person who asked and suspected you were preg understand that you have your reasons for not announcing and leave you alone? That's if they even asked why you're not drinking. I find that most people don't care these days whereas when I was young I used to get flack for not drinking all the time.

Completely new to me that this is an excuse in the first place for someone not drinking.

Have a glass of wine in front of you during the meal and a glass of water. Pretend to take a sip or 2 of the wine. Take a small sip of the bubbles for the toast - literally just wet your lips.

If you are mingling pick up the wine glass and put it down somewhere and then if anyone offers -“ oh I have a drink but… somewhere…must have put it on auntie mary’s table”
Once the meal is over get a gin free G&T and if anyone offers you a drink ask for tonic top up as “its going to be a long day and I want to space it out” or “I just had a double so I will just have a tonic this time to top it up”.
If you make a big deal of “oooh Im not not drinking, antibiotics etc” that will raise eyebrows /gossip but if you pretend to drink it will be less noticeable.

I just can't imagine caring that someone else dared to be pregnant at my wedding. The world doesn't stop for your "magical" day. 🤮🤮

20 years married and the wedding was just one day, certainly not the most important one. If it is you're doing marriage wrong and for the wrong reasons!

I'm also one of the ones who'd have actually thought it was romantic if someone had felt moved to get engaged at it, because I like my friends and want them to be happy!

Not just this thread. It’s pretty much the same level of cliched and almost certainly untrue ‘excuse’ as explaining a break up being ‘mutual’.

Obviously no-one will think that if you aren't of childbearing years.

Then what are you supposed to say in the unlikely event that someone asks?

I'm in my 70's!! Don't think anyone would suspect I was pregnant somehow!! And I couldn't drink AT ALL a couple of Christmases ago, on a very expensive package Christmas break, when lots was included in the cost of the package! As I said in an earlier post, it was metronidazole and you just don't even try to drink while taking it!

It does. But it's also such an overused excuse for not just telling people youre pregnant that it now comes with that assumption.

tbf I do look pregnant. Even though I am well past childbearing age.

Seriously, you are really c.5 weeks pregnant. You are excited but announcing it before DB's wedding takes the shine off his and his wife's day. Keep it quiet and drink lime and soda or lemon and lime - ask for them in a nice glass that might be a g and t and hang on to it.

Judging by this thread, if you told anyone you were on antibiotics they probably think you are pregnant.

It does happen that people need to take antibiotics. I have just finished a course of antibiotics and didn't drink. And I'm not pregnant.

Yep. Antibiotics screams " secretly pregnant"

I would always have wanted people to know my baby had existed. It mightn't mean much to them but it means a lot to me to acknowledge that child had been.

Firstly, I am very pleased for you that you are expecting your first, so, many congratulations @Kittycat02

But regardless of the wedding, 8 weeks is really too early to tell people, in my view. So many things can go wrong in the early days of a pregnancy, which is why most people wait until the 12 weeks scan, 'just in case'. It's really hard on the couple concerned, to tell people that they already told you were pregnant, that actually, you aren't any more.

Just wait would be my advice. That way, you are protecting yourself as well as not running any risk of possibly taking the spotlight away from the Bride and Groom AT ALL. Although I personally wouldn't feel like that if I was them, I understand that is how some Bridal couples would see it.

Metronidazole is an antibiotic which comes with very, very, strong warnings not to drink alcohol while on it, or it could make you very ill and it is prescribed for various things. I am prescribed it occasionally for digestive issues, so I don't agree with people here who say people will know if you say you are on Antibiotics, that you are pregnant. But PPs have given you lots of suggestions as to how to disguise the fact that you aren't drinking alcohol as well.

Enjoy the wedding and hope all goes well for the future, with your baby

A tiny bit of blackcurrent in a gin glass with lemonade and all the fruit and ice like a normal gin is my suggestion. Looks like one of the flavoured gins you can get. I did that during dry jan so I didn’t feel left out whilst out…. Different reason but still helped.

A nice sister would wait an extra 3 odd weeks and just let her brother have his day. Otherwise the small gathering will half be about his wedding and half your new news, but you already know this which is why you are trying to get permission here to just do it anyway.