Pregnancy announcement before brothers wedding

Not really. Most people start telling their family after the 12 week scan.

Another vote for antibiotics, congratulations OP 🍼💐🍼

Definitely stealing thunder territory. Stay quiet

Why do you assume it is done to bring attention on her? That presupposes that she deliberately got pregnant and planned it all around her brother's wedding. Which is bat shit and the type of person who does that wouldn't be asking, they would be grabbing the mic on the night and demanding eyes on them.

Telling family you are pregnant a couple of weeks before a wedding in no way detracts from the wedding day itself. Given the age that most people's (first) weddings are, it is highly likely that there will be several women of childbearing age and more than one pregnancy ongoing.

Going by other MN threads, two weeks after the event is still too soon for some. People have to be allowed to come back from their honeymoon, share all their photos and it be 'their' month.

I haven't read all the replies, but isn't it normal to keep it between you and your partner until 20 weeks?

Most people wait until 12-13 weeks, which would coincide with when he gets back from his honeymoon. You should wait until then.

You can explain not drinking at the wedding due to antibiotics and, even pregnant, you can still wave a glass of bubbly and pretend to sip anyway. Noone needs to know now. And you don’t need to steal his and his bride’s thunder.

Sorry about your miscarriage.

We all have different ways of dealing with things. Your way isn't necessarily the right way. And neither is mine.

Indeed. I was far happier knowing people weren't pointlessly gossiping about me because I'd headed off such speculation. Even when I did have a miscarriage.

The no drinking this is always a bit of a give away.
I remember with my first. Pub after work on a Friday and my boss lands a Guinness in front of me and I ask instead for an orange juice and he went to the bar came back and whispered “ I’ll keep it to myself” 😆
So if it would be unusual for you not to have a drink you’ll need to come up with some sort of excuse / lie. dicky tummy perhaps?
I wouldn’t announce it before

I don't believe you're wanting to announce it before purely because of having to pretend to drink. What's the real reason?

Congratulations.

Like I suggested: you do you.

I've been there, done it. Got the T-shirt.

Actually, I remember with my first, I was six weeks pregnant at a hen party with a lot of alcohol. I very quietly told the hen why I wasn't drinking, she kissed me, I just enjoyed fruit juice with a couple of Muslim guests. I didn't know anyone so I just said I was teetotal like them.

Can confirm, though, that a day and a night on fruit juice doesn't make you happy the next morning either...

Wait until after the wedding…….no drinking alcohol does not have to be a giveaway regarding your pregnancy. Let your brother and future SIL have this special time in their lives before you impart your special news to the wider family. And good luck with the pregnancy…….hope the wedding goes well too

Telling the truth in that way increases your privacy because it cuts out speculation. If you are someone for whom it is noticeable if you aren't drinking then any excuse will make people notice more and possibly gossip more. If you say and that it's early days then it cuts that out and everyone moves on with enjoying the rest of the day.

Full on projectile vomiting from my recollection of taking it!! Though I then found out I’m severely allergic to it… throat closed up lips swelled the lot!!! One scary experience that was!

Just have a glass to hand and take sips during toasts if you fancy, a glass of fizz is absolutely fine.
I know it varies, but by week 10 I was either at work, commuting or in bed, I was so tired. So good luck staying awake!
(Loads of energy after the first trimestre, don't panic.)

But what if people are more private than you are? I lost a pregnancy and am actually glad that i didn't tell people I was pregnant. I couldn't have coped with people asking me about it after the miscarriage. Or having to tell them. It's entirely up to the individual, It says a lot about our boozy world that people have to find excuses to NOT drink. I do agree with you though that we can be upfront and say I just don't want to drink. Although you might then have to fend off the insistence that you have "just one". This is where the excuses come in handy.

It's early to announce it and this is one of those damned if you do, damned if you don't situations. You don't want to be accused of trying to steal the limelight around the wedding, so I'd say nothing if I were you. Just say you are driving, or having given up the booze to watch your weight. Most people won't notice or ask. You can take a little sip of any fizz to do a toast. Sit there with a small glass of wine in front of you and just don't drink it. People will notice if you say 'no thanks not for me, I'm not drinking' but if you take a glass of wine and a have a glass of water to hand as well, honestly no-one will notice whether you drink the wine or not. Especially if you appear to occasionally sip from it.

I wouldn't care at all if my sibling announced they were pregnant before or even during my wedding. It's wonderful, happy news. And I don't feel it would take away from my special day at all. But you know your future sister in law and brother better than anyone here. Do you think it would annoy them? If so, definitely don't announce it yet.

Although, as soon as I found out I was pregnant, I told my immediate family. I couldn't imagine not doing that. They were sworn to secrecy until after my 12 week scan when I then told wider family members and friends.

But you should think about how the bridal couple would feel/react before you do anything.
The hiding drinking alcohol is an easy, non issue imo.

My guess is that they won't notice. I don't drink very much and people don't bat an eyelid these days - they're too merry with booze.

Also, I don't make a big deal of not drinking.

Well yes, that's obvious, and it's why I wouldn't expect anyone to ask. However, if someone was with you when you ordered, or somehow realised, and asked...unlikely, but say what?

I get what you're saying, but a wedding is a special day and it's just one of those conventions that you don't upstage the couple, like not wearing a white dress. Most conventions are weird when you think about them.

Ask your brother. Announcing early could look like you're trying to steal the spotlight, but not drinking at a small wedding could be quite obvious and people might guess (and that really could be far more disruptive!).

It probably depends on how alcohol orientated your social circle /family is lol

no-one in mine would ever have to justify or make an excuse as to why they weren’t drinking.

It just wouldn’t be asked and unless someone was sat right next to them and offering them wine from a table bottle at a wedding others probably wouldn’t even notice or think twice about it /care enough to ask.

I went with the simple and seemingly radical option of just telling the truth. "I'm pregnant but it's early days so anything could happen".

Conversation moves on, no pointless faffing and subterfuge needed and no particular attention drawn.