DD unwell, had to take a day off, works reaction..

She got the day off!
If we are at the stage where a sigh is considered "disgusting", there's really no hope.
Treat her what way exactly??

That is disgusting, how dare they treat you in this way.
Your priority is your child and it's their job to deal with work .
No babysitter is going to look after an unwell child , obviously they don't have kids and have people to help them ,alot of people don't and you are doing the right thing.
Hope she is better soon .
Honestly sounds like we have the same manager.

Maybe if you can see tour dd is going to still be unwell tomorrow why don't you give manager a call today with a heads up informing them that you will probably be off tomorrow as you cannot get childcare and just wanted to let you know as it may give you more time to get cover, I have done this and they appreciate it, also. They do treat mean to keep keen and it works.

It’s clear but people here will pretend they don’t understand. I’m surprised at the level of entitlement.

If my kid was ill for 25 days I'd be signed off for stress, exhaustion and depression obviously. I'd hardly be skipping around at home by that point. I'd be at breaking point.

If you have an HR department speak with them. They can give you the low down on your parental rights. Its not your problem if others are off. If your little one is sick there's nothing you can do. I'd also suggest speaking with your GP and getting a letter from them to prove their sick. I've had this with bosses, some nasty managers out there.

I should have clarified, not a serious illness but 25 individual days across a year.

To prove your point you mean haha. Its not my point I'm trying to prove 🤣🤣

I'm shocked at these employers not being able to manage a parent being off with a sick child. Some people evidently think that work is more important than children.
Is contingency planning when running a business not a thing now?

No, but if someone could tell me when Aldi stock them I'll make sure I put one with the Calpol!

I don’t have to answer your question again and again. I have clearly replied. You can trawl through to prove your point - go on. Let’s see what you come up with.

I'm not forgetting that, I'm pointing out that in this situation, OP is not the unreasonable one.

I should have clarified, I meant non-consecutive days. So, 1 or 2 days at a time every other week or so with colds, tummy bugs, chicken pox, etc. Not a long term serious illness.

At what point does it turn from reasonable to unreasonable?

You keep saying have a read through. No. Find the posts that state it. I've been here from page one and haven't come across one.

I obviously support maternity leave. Is it that you don’t support maternity leave? Have a read through.Those here that don’t support finding professional paid childcare options are those who think it up to the employer to be ok with days off. To be clear this doesn’t apply to kids in hospital.

You mean you don't have access to a magical babysitter who is happy to look after a poorly child with no notice?

I mean DH is a dentist and it is indeed really really hard to fill posts at the moment. To me it seems more nonsensical to keep firing parents who might require some odd days off as their child is sick vs having a dentist who is able to work 99% of the time. The reality is that for some parents there simply arent reasonable alternatives and rightly so their children have to come before their job. A business is short sighted and foolish not to have a clear policy in place, even if its unpaid or whatever.

I'm an only child. My parents are dead, my grandparents too. I have a disabled ex husband who cannot have a child unsupervised. My friends all work. So someone tell me, if I need more than 2 days off (like when she fully dislocated her knee on a school trip), who do I give her too?????

Sure I could get a childminder, if I could get a place for just a few days. But the cost would be about the same hourly rate that I'm getting. And I need travel time on top. And I'm just about making ends meet as it is.

This here. This is my nightmare scenario.

And for anyone interested in how we did cope with the dislocated knee. School made accommodations for her once she was in a full brace and cleared to return (1week).

What would be your grounds for asking a GP to sign you off?

endless limit of days

Which posters think that? Or did you make it up?

Also really interested to hear your thoughts on maternity leave?

sorry, but how do you sign of sick of your aren't ill? I had a seriously ill child in hospital for longer times and I have never been able to get a sick note to cover myself. a mix of annual leave, unpaid leave and WFH was the way to go.

What is wrong with the child is very relevant as to whether childcare would be possible

d&v… out of the question

If my child was seriously ill for 25 days I'd have been signed off sick after a week.

You seem to be forgetting that not everyone works for reasonable employers. You clearly (and I am too) very lucky to have a employer that wouldn’t bat a eyelid at this situation as long as it wasn’t something that happened all the time, but by law they don’t have to be and alot of employers just follow the law, they don’t add enhanced benefits.

MNHQ have made it quite clear that you don't have to be a parent to post.