‘You’re NOT allowed to get married again’.

It may say something about our marriage, but DH and I have both stated multiple times that in the event one of us dies the other has no intention whatsoever to get remarried. For my part I will enjoy life but I don't feel the need to have another husband.

I was widowed young, DH told me I had to move on and be happy. He knew he had a shorter life expectancy.
Met now DH 15 months later with a view to it just being casual, 7 years on we're coming up to our first wedding anniversary, and my first MIL gave me away at our wedding.

If one of goes before we are elderly then of course the other can remarry or at least seek love

Each to their own. Two of my aunts died quite young (under 55) and 20 years on one uncle has never had another partner and the other uncle had a partner about a year later. I don’t judge either of them and I have no idea how things would work out if we were in the situation.

I married my second husband 22 years ago. He was a widower. He was widowed at 38 . We are very happy. He has had 2 very happy marriages. The first only lasted 18 months because of cancer. I hope we get to grow very old together. If we don't then I hope he would move on and find happiness again. He wishes the same for me.

That is like saying you have a dim view of humans. There are nice ones and not nice ones, just like everything. Though I do agree on not moving people into the children’s house unless you are 10000% sure they are nice and a suitable time has passed of you vetting them.

Considering I would probably be a pile of ashes on the mantle piece at that point I'm not sure it would bother me...

I think everyone should seek legal advice on this as soon as they have kids. Protect their inheritance should you die and spouse remarry. As you can’t truly ever stop them remarrying (nor would I want to)

I will be f*cked if I ever wash another man's socks. No thanks.

I'd have a BF outside the home.

I wouldn't want DH to move someone in to our children's home.

I have a very dim view of step-parents so I would hate for my kids to have one.

I won't be here to care, but we've agreed that our wills will always ensure our DC inherit anything that's left when we're both gone. I don't think I'd be arsed marrying again.

I'm sure I have read that people who were happily married are more likely to remarry if they're widowed. Something to think about?

When my friends husband died he didn't want to talk about it. He couldn't even consider the possibility. Slightly different scenario but I think until faced with not being here- you don't know what you might say. The reality is she'll probably meet someone.

I think it's fine to think about and discuss it. You can't control the outcome but you're allowed to have a view.

I've told my hubby that when he dies I'm going to turn into a crazy dog lady & Foster rescue dogs lol
Hes already said he doesn't want another woman that one (me ) was enough , we've been together 40 years ❤️

Sure there might be nothing to inherit but then again there might! I would absolutely not tie everything my DH and I have built to another man and his kids.

Assuming we're talking about older adults with their own assets and children and with no propect of more children I really can't see any benefit of marriage over cohabiting.

Life is for the living, DH better meet someone else if I kick the bucket young. Not least because he's a shit cook despite his best efforts.

I get and agree with all the points about protecting the children's inheritance though.

I would never marry twice full stop, whatever the circumstances. Vows should only be said one time.

yeah this. Love and cohabit - yes, he would probably want to, and that's fine. But please don't remarry. Hopefully he knows he shouldn't have more kids now he's in his 60s....but as above, for the same reason .

DH was widowed when we got together so I'd be an absolute hypocrite if I said something like that to him!

Given how he protected DS1's interests when we were getting together, and has also made sure my DD's are protected (just in case there is ever lost wills or anything they're still protected despite us both now being Mum and Dad to all of the kids), I would trust him completely to do the same again.

I think it's very selfish to leave the guilt on someone if they do want to meet someone else. DH's MIL (who I now call my Other-MIL) has always been very supportive of us, it was her who encouraged me to accept DS's wish to call me Mum when he was 11, and has been adamant her DD would have been delighted that DH was happy again.

My grandfather chose to never remarry or date anyone after my gran died very young. It was sweet of him but I always felt very sorry for him and I wouldn’t want that for my own husband

I know not the point but you can set up family trusts, and make sure that can’t happen.

DH and I have both said that we wouldn’t re-marry.

I’ve read too many threads on here where children from first marriages are cut out of inheritances when their father remarries and dies before his second wife.

Even talking of protecting the kids’ inheritance though is ridiculous.

If you die tomorrow then he could live for another 30/40 years surely? In which case there almost certainly won’t be an inheritance if he e.g. moves into a care home or similar.

People need to just accept that when they die they’re gone. What happens after that is not within their control.

You can have as many conversations as you want. It's not as if you're going to haunt or be haunted.

I wouldn't live with someone again though. Much better to have your own space I think.

I'd want him to be happy, but I'd be concerned about my children's inheritance. They are young adults now, but I've worked my butt off for nearly 40 years and I want to make sure they benefit as far as possible.