‘You’re NOT allowed to get married again’.

Wow are you literally me? 😆

I would say by all means date and be happy but the money must go to our kids.

You can protect their inheritance in your Will

I wouldn't marry again but I've told my husband he should find happiness with someone else, if I go first. I'd hate for him to be alone .

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I would very much want him to find happiness again. I would, however, worry a lot about my children. They're still very young and a stepmother could be so disruptive to them. They might get really lucky but also might not.

That said my husband clearly has excellent taste in women so maybe all would be fine 😁

I've discussed with my DH. Mutual ban...haha! I've no desire to be with anyone else if my DH passed away.

This. We've agreed that neither of us would remarry for this reason. Having a future relationship, absolutely, but without tying up finances.

When I'm dead I'm dead - I won't know or care what happens afterwards. I've told dh that I would definitely stay single if he were no more. Not in some romantic 'there could never be anyone but you' way, but because I find the whole idea of dating again and going through the early stages of a new relationship again utterly unappealing! Plus the MN Relationships board is enough to persuade any woman to be single forever!

I’m really hoping these people are teens and not grown ass adults

Well if you love someone you want them to be happy,

Though I’d expect no snogging until after the funeral buffet

Men often get it together with someone v swiftly though, so I’d say her ghost is going to be well pissed

i had cancer recently and so we had this conversation! DH is allowed to marry either Amanda Holden or Nigella Lawson (his choice, but approved by DS) he says he wouldn’t remarry but he’s rubbish on his own and so I suspect he would. I meanwhile was single for a bloody long time before I met DH and would def want to go back to that rather than have another husband.

Yes we've had this conversation, and it appears from multiple threads on Reddit on this subject and now what everyone is saying here, our opinion is highly unusual and considered outright 'wrong' by most.

In our belief system you're still married after you're dead, so no, we cannot remarry if we are widowed. If he dies, he's still my husband regardless of if he dies when he's 50 or 70 or next week.

An Aunt did this. It was actually quite easy to keep track... the living "Julian" was called "Julian" (or "Julian "Surname" if one needed to be extra specific when talking about him) and the previous (deceased) "Julian" became "my late husband/my Dad/Uncle Julian/"Julian Surname" depending on who was referring to him. We all got used to it quite quickly and it came to feel very natural!

I’m referred to as the current husband, so I’m well aware that if I die first I will be replaced. I don’t like the idea of him being alone.

We’ve spoken about it and have both said we’d want each other to be happy and enjoy life but doubt we’d remarry. Having said that if he was that’s fine by me too.

We haven't had a conversation, but in that position, I would want DH to feel free to find someone else. I'd also want to find someone else, if I wished to. Life is for living.

In my case, my new husband adopted my children, so they will inherit from both of us eventually.

I'm really not bothered what my husband does after I die. I won't be here, nor know anything about it. It's very bizarre to try to "ban" a widowed spouse from anything after death. And the spouse can just ignore it anyway!

I'd just be worried that the kids would be left with nothing, and all would go to the new wifey. Assuming he dies before the new model that is.

And if all assets post the new marriage are in joint names, well then, on his death new wifey would get the lot. Feck the kids.

How do we copperfasten things for the kids then? I suppose everything held as tenants in common and the share of whoever (in the current marriage) dies first goes to the kids or is put in trust for them if they are minors.

Now look what you have me thinking about!

He has been told he should have a respectable mourning period, buy a nice bench or something to remember me by, and share nice stories about me on a regular basis. As long as I'm respected and remembered fondly who cares? We have protected the kids inheritance through our wills though.

I do think getting a new partner immediately after losing the old one is a bit grim.

You can take some legal steps to ensure your children inherit your half. Good idea to get advice on that.

Imagine the AIBU post from the DIL on that one!

I was widowed very young. Afterwards I thought there was no chance I would marry again, but I was wrong because several years later I did remarry. I have now been with my second husband way longer than I was with my first husband. I feel incredibly lucky to have had two amazing marriages with two amazing men. Although we never talked about it, I can't imagine that my first husband wouldn't be happy for how things have worked out for me. His family, with whom I'm still very close, certainly are, and have welcomed my new husband with open arms.

Having seen my mum and stepfather blissfully enjoying their later years after the deaths of their much loved spouses, I would fully hope that my DH would find similar if I died before him. I think one if my young adult children would find it harder than the other though.