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Would this annoy you? Lazy mornings…

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LondonGemm · 02/06/2025 18:45

DP and I - always awake c.8am on a weekend or a week off. I like to go out and get on with the day quite early, certainly be out and about by 10ish, whilst DP prefers lazier morning having coffee in bed and taking a while to get ready before eventually leaving the house at midday-ish.

I am finding this increasingly irritating and get fed up being stuck inside for so long, like I’m wasting a day.

DP says I need to learn to relax (in general, I do struggle to just ‘chill’ and do get restless) - do you think he has a point?

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CremeEggThief · 02/06/2025 18:52

YABU. You need to chill out and learn to enjoy wasting the day!

Gundogday · 02/06/2025 18:51

I’m more like you rather than dh, and feel like not being up until midday is a waste, especially in the summer.

Can you agree on a compromise. Ie. If you have plans, then go out, but if not, then dh can have his lay in.

DifferenceBetweenAChickpeaAndALentil · 02/06/2025 18:51

My husband and I have something similar.

So on Saturdays, we get up and out early and do stuff.
On Sundays, we have a lie-in, coffee in bed, then a really slow day.

Compromise works for both of us and feels fair.

Sofiewoo · 02/06/2025 18:50

You can do whatever you want between 8-10am. Unless you have young children that are up and need looking after there’s no need to make your DH get up when you do. You don’t have to sit twiddling your thumbs waiting for him to entertain you.

MooseAndSquirrelLoveFlannel · 02/06/2025 18:50

What on earth are you doing to insist you have to be out the house by 10am?

Surely there can be some middle ground here?

DH and I are both usually early risers, but he's and up and at 'em, in the gym straight away kind of person and I'm a need 2 cups of tea and an hour or so of mindless tv before I can get moving person..

So he goes to the gym whilst I drink my tea and then we're ready to do something together by midday.

NannyOgg1341 · 02/06/2025 18:49

Neither of you are 'wrong', it's ok to want to be up and out, and it's ok to want to chill. You're just going to have to compromise, so you sometimes go out and sometimes laze in.

Cloverforever · 02/06/2025 18:49

He has a point. You need to learn to relax.

frozendaisy · 02/06/2025 18:49

Neither of you are right or wrong just different

Do you have to do everything together?
can you honour whilst he drinks coffee in bed

Ratisshortforratthew · 02/06/2025 18:49

Yes he has a huge point. Just chill, it’s good for you. Or if you must get up at the crack of dawn even when you don’t have to, don’t demand your DP does the same!

Poopeepoopee · 02/06/2025 18:48

ohnonotthisargumentagain · 02/06/2025 18:47

Perhaps it is time for compromise eg Saturdays up and about and Sundays for lying in

Yeah this. One of each surely?

Martymcfly24 · 02/06/2025 18:47

Where do you want to go and are you gone all day after you go out?

ohnonotthisargumentagain · 02/06/2025 18:47

Perhaps it is time for compromise eg Saturdays up and about and Sundays for lying in

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