Would this annoy you? Lazy mornings…

Depends, if he’s a “hang on, I’ll come with you, just let me finish my tea.” Type person, who then isn’t actually ready to go with you to something until the time you could have gone and come back, you aren’t being unreasonable.

make Saturday morning plans that don’t include him. Make lunchtime or afternoon plans with him.

if he wants to go out for a day, a day includes the morning. If he wants to go out for a couple of hours in the afternoon, you’ll do something else first.

You go out and leave him in peace. Dh does with me and usually back around 11.30 when in ready to start the day

Because clearly she's codependent and controlling, dh must adhere to her unrealistic standards 🙄

Both are fine. Neither is right or wrong. Why don’t you go out for a coffee or a walk and meet DP somewhere later on if you want?

Why do you have to do the same thing?

I'm like you OP and have been in this situation. No-one's in the wrong, its just who you are. Can you go out and do something while he's still sleeping and come back when he's up and ready? I

Bit of both as we always have much to do. I live for those lazy Sundays where we don’t HAVE to rush and can lie in, drink coffee and have a leisurely bath.

You need to both do your own things in the morning. Doesn't mean anything about your compatibility - but your inability to accept that he's allowed to do things differently, might.

As others have said, neither of you are wrong or right, just different.

Me and my partner are similar. He loves to relax and unwind in bed for ages in the morning. Of a weekend, I tend to get up around 8/8.30 and he doesn’t really rise until closer to 11 (unless we have specific plans).
I disliked this when we first met, and our first year together, as I felt like I was awkwardly waiting around for him. But then I realised I just needed to reframe my thinking and not see it as waiting for him, but see it as a time to just… live my life. We have a 50/50 chore split so I tend to do my chores on weekend mornings, or just sit and sunbathe outside when it’s nice, or have chilled mornings catching up on the kind of tv I like but we don’t watch together.

I think every weekend you just need to do one chilled morning to suit him, and the other get up and out earlier to suit you.

I haven't voted as neither of you ABU, you are just different.

Options could be to alternate - one day his way and one day yours - or for you to go out and do whatever you want to do at the crack of dawn without him, and reconvene at lunchtime.

DH is the early bird in our house and i'm the one who likes a lie in. So he gets up and does things whilst I sleep. Everyone happy.

If there's something we want to go to that involves and early start, then I get up, but if there isn't anything planned, or we need to do something that can be done in the afternoon, then I catch up on sleep / faff about on my phone / have a long bath / generally enjoy the 'not having to be out the house by a certain time' feeling.
It would BVU for one person to make the other do the opposite of what they prefer, when there is no reason. There is no reason to always do the same thing.

Me and DH were a bit like this before kids. I used to just get up and do my own thing if I wanted to. I like to get up and get on with what I'm doing, I found if I waited around for him to get up and be ready I lost my mojo and didn't want to go out anymore.

So he must do what you want but you cant do what he wants?

Do one day each.
Saturday out early. Although there really is no need to be out the house at 10am
Sunday have a chilled morning
OR
You go out without him? Or meet him later ?

Where do you go? Why don’t you go by yourself and let him relax?

Sorry, but unless it's the depth of winter, 8am is not the "crack of dawn".

@LondonGemm is there anything you want to do that you could use the time for if he doesn't want to move as fast? Neither of you is wrong it's just different. Book you want to read? Go to the gym or swimming or to an exercise class? Always wanted to paint? Use the time for you, to relax how works for you.

I’m team dh - I don’t like being rushed out the door on a day off, we do enough of that in the week!

yes he has a point

Why can't you go out alone? Sounds like you will have at least 2 hours between the latest you want to leave and the earliest he likes to leave. That's time to go for a walk, go to the gym, shops, see friends or family, go for a coffee.

Switch it about. Or if he's not actually looking to hang out with you on the lazy morning then go out for a run or go out and bring back pastries or something

There’s definitely a compromise to be had here. Maybe you can head out and sit in a coffee shop and he can go join you an hour later or something like that?

Neither of your preferences are wrong. But you need to make it work so that neither of you become resentful of the other.

My adult child and their partner are like you two, except I think my two are more extreme.

Ones an early bird, t'other's an owl.

Owl doesn't expect early bird to stay up and keep them company, early bird doesnt expect owl to be up and at them, as they are, by 9:00am.

Given they've been together over 30 years, they've clearly worked out a solution that suits them both.

Mornings seem to be that early bird tells owl where they are going and approx when, owl joins when their internal clock moves them.

As others have most probably already alluded to, you've missed out the part of your post that explains why you can't just get up and do whatever you want for the morning whilst your partner has a lie-in..?

Why does he have to be out and about with you? Just go and do something yourself. Your lack of ability to chill shouldn't be his problem. Or just get a good book.

Why do you sit around getting frustrated? Get up and do your own thing for a few hours then meet up at lunch.

I'm not a morning person at all, my DH is. So he gets up and goes to the gym, bakes, gets his hair cut etc and potters about. I drink coffee and read. It suits both of us well.

Do something solo in the morning. What do you enjoy doing?

Are you joined at the hip? Leave him to laze about and you get in with your day.